posted December 04, 2011 10:17 AM
This intrigues me, this topic. Abusive relationships, abusive partner(s) or indiviual(s) with a pathological need to maintain things, whilst ignorant to how counterproductive their attempt at maintenance is.Someone here brought up a really good point about (I'm not lugging all plutos under the bus here..) Scorpio abandonment issues vs abusive behavior. They said they make a conscious effort not to do that, but instead use their gifts for good, not evil. And that if plutos would allow their partners/lovers more freedom than their partners would return and not feel obliged to escape.
I think the fact that someone not wanting you to leave the relationship in some ways its flattery, but when it's persistent, on-going and becomes a daily habit of literally not wanting your partner to leave, when does the bomb finally tick? I do believe it starts with words "I don't want you to leave me, promise you won't?" how soon will words turn into physical domination? Where they literally will not let you leave?
I always read that Pluto is the culprit for this type of behavior, exerting control over others, this fear of losing others, but you know Cancer and Capricorn have this fear too, is it just a lot more inbred for Scorpio? Does control and power to them really equate to love? In one of Liz greene's books I have to say her exerpt on Scorpio enlightened me and I couldn't necessarit accept that really and truly for a Scorpio to want control over you, and forms of power that for them it means love. Is there truth to this at all? Are other planets key here other than Pluto? And why did Pluto get this wrap? I'm not saying control and power are wrong they can be very excellent if used in the right way, yes? Does ones need to prevent others from leaving, does this become a self-fulfilling prophecy? People actually leave?
I know this woman who is a Pisces and she was shopping with him one time, she left to use the bathroom and didn't tell him. She returned to him gone, went outside to see him crying, he was looking to see if the car was missing, he was terrified that she had left him. He's a scorp sun, that's as much information she gave me. She thought it was cute.
I'll admit, I have control issues not necessarily with people - more with material goods but it's crossed my mind where I've wanted to control others, I suppressed this desire no good can come from this after hearing personal stories and witnessing the psychological chaos it ensues, I wouldn't feel proud knowing I was involved in that outcome.