posted December 06, 2011 10:42 AM            

I have Sun in Aquarius in house 12.
Saturn conjunct Ascedant in house 1,
reserved, introverted, controlled, stingy with myself and every thing I bring out to the world is based on what I want you to know. But you are not allowed to do that with me. I won't come out right with it, I'm more slow and meticulous I plan carefully how I "get" things etc..
I'm a private person! Most of my friends dont even know me well, friends I've grown up with... but I know about them, and continue to want to know, but they won't know about me and what I do. I'd like to keep it that way bahahahah!
In high school people thought I was mysterious they had no idea what things I do, where I often went when I "disappeared" for days- weeks, but I'd know about where they've been and how they got there.

No one is allowed to push my boundaries - even if I don't assert myself, I always come back and do just that.

No one is allowed to keep things hidden from me.

posted December 06, 2011 10:52 AM            

On a social level, I love to talk and share ideas. I like conversations that are light hearted but also conversations that can go very deep/personal. *As long it is profound.* In real life I connect very well with Aquarians and Scorpios though I'd rather not have them both at the same time. But indeed, some of these conversations are more appropriate in more private settings.

When I have to be in a less private setting with people I don't know, I'm lost and feel disconnected, I don't know what my boundaries are on this. I'm not shy but I become introverted and would rather just listen and be quiet and perhaps even disappear. This often comes across as cold and distant, though I don't mean it that way.

This is because I don't understand polite small talk and superficial chit chat just for the sake of being "kind". It's not that I don't like it. I do but I can't ever come up with any small talk subjects and often don't know how to properly respond to it either. I really wish I would be better at it though because I like to please people and feel accepted. I guess I'm not as Libra as I'd like myself to be. Perhaps my Sun in H12 has something to do with this.

posted December 06, 2011 10:57 AM            

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I don't think anything is off limits. I can be pretty crass, too. In terms of personal privacy, I'm an open book. I never hide things for the sake of hiding them. I'm not really worried about ammunition, what could people possibly use to hurt me? Seriously. If I tell someone i've slept with 11 people, and later they use this information to call me a sl*t, it just makes them look bad. I wouldn't be ashamed otherwise, why would I do it?

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Actually? Honestly in a situation like that, I'd look at both of you sideways - the other person for being a confidence-betrayer; and you, for being a h*e lol.

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I'm allowed to be private, but you are not. Is the essence of it all.

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posted December 06, 2011 10:59 AM            

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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:
Oh, I haaaaate that. I've known people like that. That really sets me off, to insist on prying even when I make it clear it's not wanted or appreciated, and then to turn around and do it anyway, but guard their own privacy intensely? To me that's just insult to injury...

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posted December 06, 2011 05:56 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Well. That's not how I am either. I know when people are uncomfortable. If I see it, I'll stop. But I'll come back again, to attempt to obtain what i wanted to know.
I just naturally shut down when people ask questions about me/I'm the subject/in the spotlight, prefer not to.

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To be fair, though, you're not REALLY stopping if you go back. You're just delaying/pausing and taking a break.

I don't mean to be insulting or anything, but I am intrigued: how do you justify your own snooping and prying, but you can't stand it when others do it? How do you see it as different when they do it as opposed to when you do it? Do you feel like your motives are different than theirs, and that this makes it OK? (Again, not trying to be insulting, but I am genuinely curious and, if you're comfortable with explaining, am genuinely interested to hear the rationale behind it).

Just out of curiosity (and this is aimed at all "diggers" out there, not any one person): what is it that gives you that habit? Why do you feel the need to do that? What makes you feel like it's OK to not respect someone's privacy, and what makes you feel like there should be no boundaries or limits? What is your motivation in snooping: to use things against people? Blackmail (emotional or literal)? To (in a very twisted way) get to know someone? Revenge? Something else? Just curious?

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*I use the whole sign system*

Personal Planets:
Sun, Mercury: Libra
Venus: Scorpio
Moon: Cancer
Mars: Capricorn

posted December 06, 2011 06:12 PM            

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Actually? Honestly in a situation like that, I'd look at both of you sideways - the other person for being a confidence-betrayer; and you, for being a h*e lol.

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See, I don't judge other people like that. "A sl*t is just someone who has slept with more people than you."~~

(And yes, 11 is my number lol. Which averages out to about 2 people a year since I've lost my virginity. WOWWWWWWWWW)

In the scenario I was talking about, the other person didn't betray any trust because it's not like I keep my number a secret lol. I just think people who judge others for personal decisions that affects no one else are kind of scum. Especially people who use arguably sexist words.

posted December 06, 2011 06:39 PM              

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Not to mention my ex boyfriend's new girlfriend who called my bff a wh*re but she LITERALLY takes off her clothes for money as a SuicideGirl

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posted December 06, 2011 06:50 PM            

Strangers need to know their place though. They can babble on and on to me, a total stranger, about their divorces and bankrupcies but I'll just smile and nod. They can't pull anything out of me though, I'm just "fine" and "good" as far as they are concerned.

Leo/Libra/Aquarius ~ Moon (9th) conjunct Pluto (8th)...

posted December 06, 2011 07:06 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
What are your approaches to privacy, and what in your chart influences your views, in your opinion? In a similar vein, what are you views about being open vs. being reserved? What are your views on what's appropriate to have in the open and what is not? Should there be limits and boundaries about what's appropriate and what is not appropriate to share or discuss?

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Well I've got an Eighth House Mercury which I spend ample time discussing on this forum and I'm very secretive. I only reveal what's necessary or asked. I won't prohibit anyone from saying all the fascinating things they want to because I'm an unbiased listener. However, I take my privacy very seriously. I don't like anyone to know things about my private life that I have not intentionally revealed.

Personally, I think anything's appropriate to have in the open but I won't reveal everything because I enjoy keeping things hidden. I'm an Aquarius Rising and I don't like to restrict or limit anybody in conversations or in general. I've been told horrifying things which have made me feel like tearing out my ears but who am I to tell someone not to speak their truth. And honestly what we consider appropriate is subjective and relative. The only people we should be concerned about when sharing information is ourselves really and let people say what they desire.

posted December 06, 2011 07:54 PM            

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Originally posted by amowls**:
[B] See, I don't judge other people like that. "A sl*t is just someone who has slept with more people than you."~~

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That's cute and...incredibly nonsensical and silly.

I'm a virgin and anyone who isn't, obviously has gotten laid more than I have, and no I don't think they're all sl*ts, not even the ones who've gotten laid more than a few times, just the ones who take it to an extreme and have a huuuuge number of past s.exual partners and/or on a regular basis, engage in s.exual activity with people they don't know (or barely know), or don't love.

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To be fair, though, you're not REALLY stopping if you go back. You're just delaying/pausing and taking a break.

I don't mean to be insulting or anything, but I am intrigued: how do you justify your own snooping and prying, but you can't stand it when others do it? How do you see it as different when they do it as opposed to when you do it? Do you feel like your motives are different than theirs, and that this makes it OK? (Again, not trying to be insulting, but I am genuinely curious and, if you're comfortable with explaining, am genuinely interested to hear the rationale behind it).

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posted December 06, 2011 08:30 PM            

I wouldn't quite say that I'm intimidated when people push or pry into my business, but I do resent it and freeze people out. My moon is in the 12th house, and I just process my emotions privately. I am the classic example of someone who doesn't get angry on the spot, I get angry when I go home later that day and I've had time to think about it. If you ask me "hey, aren't you angry?" before I've gotten to that point, my reaction is that you should butt out until I'm at the point where I can talk about it.

I don't have a problem with throwing out "trial balloons" in a conversation. I.e. if we are coming to a sensitive topic like politics, religion, sex, etc. I will bring up a topic in a sideways fashion. That way if the other person wants to go there, they have an opening to push the conversation in that direction. If they don't, then I drop it. I'm okay with testing boundaries, but I generally don't push them.

posted December 06, 2011 09:04 PM            

The reason I've become this way is because whenever I was an open book in the past I was backstabbed either accidentally or intentionally by people who couldn't mind their own business and became way to involved in my life.. and in particular in my romantic relationships. Someone - (I think it was Belligerent) - said.. on a different thread... that this can feel like *paparazzi*.. That's exactly what it felt like.
For some reason my love life is so damn interesting to ppl... that as soon as they find something out it becomes 'gossip' for the month & they simply must get involved.

posted December 06, 2011 09:10 PM            

Interesting fact: They often have Gemini Moon ^