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Topic: Calling all Libras!!!! Or those who can give some insight about Libras..
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Starry~* Knowflake Posts: 398 From: New York, USA Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 06, 2011 10:57 AM
A friend of mine was talking about me and another girl who is also a libra. He said "You libras are all alike!! Always wanting the physical all the time!! You girls are just too much!! Whether it be sex, kissing, hugging, physical affection! Can't you girls just understand that theres gotta be the emotional also that runs much more deeper?"My libra friend is very clingy when in a relationship and she always needs the physical display of affection. She was dating a Sagittarius guy and he was not really the type of person to be "held down" by her in that way. He is a very individualized person, and likes to do his own thing (loves the mental stimulation...but she didn't really stimulate him mentally in that way)...whereas she'll wait for him and accompany him and completely forgets her own desires. I feel I'm kinda like that too, but not so much..the strange thing is the longest relationship I had was with a Sagittarius guy for 4 years and it was long distance relationship. I didn't really need him physically there, but we talked to each other alot. He was a great match for me cuz when he was visiting me and I bought him out to my friend-gatherings (I'm a libra, so usually that's around 20-30 friends and that's considered normal size LOL) he is ALWAYS a great socializer and the girls LOVED him. I was just wondering if that generalization is even true about Libras?? I DO get clingy if I feel more settled in with a guy but it is not super clingy like my friend, I need my own space too..but I think that's more of a person-to-person thing than it is with signs. I'm a Scorpio/venus/merc/pluto/ASC, Sun/Moon/Mars in Libra, Saturn/Uranus in Sagittarius and Neptune in Capricorn. My friend who is ULTRA clingy and always wanting physical display of affection/love is a Libra merc/sun, Mars/Jupiter in Capricorn, Venus in Scorpio, Moon in Cancer. She'll literally wither away like a dead plant if she doesn't receive the physical affections from her guy...then she'll come to me and be emo/sad all over it...and she'll ask me what he is thinking and all these questions (Dear lord help me!) What's the major difference between us that makes me more better with a Saggy guy and a LDR vs. Her and her saggy guy? She was also in a LDR with him..but he was only 3 hour drive away, whereas my saggy guy was about a 5 hour flight away. (yes I said flight, and yes, for 4 years) We would have no problem taking time out during the year and coordinating visiting each other. IP: Logged |
BelligerentPygmy Knowflake Posts: 1145 From: Registered: Sep 2011
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posted December 06, 2011 11:07 AM
That's BS.This is why you can't stereotype everyone with a sign in common. I'm not clingy at all. And I never compromise myself for guys. In fact it's probably actually cost me a lot of relationships (and potential relationships), because I won't do what guys want me to do or be how they want me to be. And I have placements in Cancer (Mars) too, and I'm nothing like the friend you describe. I've seen other people with strong Cancerian and Libran activity in their charts, who seem pretty independent too. The guy I like now is a Cancer sun with Mars in Libra along with most of his outer planets as well, and he's not exactly the clingy, desperate type either. Then again it might be mitigated to some extent because I'm so Uranian/Aquarian and have a fair bit of fixed activity in my chart, in general. So I'm going to go my own way and do my own thing, regardless. And if you wanna come along, fine. If you don't, it doesn't matter, someone will be along to replace you, shortly. And I'm not the only one. I know a lot of people with planets in Libra, who aren't clingy and don't need to be in a relationship and aren't constantly compromising themselves and their lives just to say they have a relationship. Having stuff in Libra means you value relationships, sure. But not necessarily that they're the whole world to you or that you'd do anything to have/maintain one. I wish people would start using their brains when it comes to the sign, for once. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne Knowflake Posts: 1108 From: she doesn't know that i left my urge in the icebox Registered: Oct 2011
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posted December 06, 2011 11:10 AM
It's not libra sun that's doing this. Other placements are.My best friend is a Libra sun, Leo rising, Aquarius moon, Virgo Venus. He's not what you describe. Very detached, undemonstrative, creative, lucid, dreamy, flamboyant, intellectual, he much prefer not to be physical either, he relates more on a mental level, imagination and artsy. An idealist. + he has Saturn in house 7 in Aquarius so.... IP: Logged |
Starry~* Knowflake Posts: 398 From: New York, USA Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 06, 2011 11:22 AM
He also said"Ya, libras like to be fair and likes to balance things out...but only under their own terms. They sometimes don't consider other people at all. If they think its right then its right, other people might have a different opinion and they don't take too kindly to that." - Might I add, he is kind of bitter about Libra girls since the last girl he dated dumped him and she was very hard to handle...short tempered, always wanting him to do things for her and very very demanding of him. IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan Knowflake Posts: 1099 From: New England Registered: Sep 2011
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posted December 06, 2011 11:29 AM
Libra Sun and Mercury with Venus in Leo in the 7th. I'm All Air and Fire and I don't have a clingy or possessive bone in my body. I actually deal with the opposite of what your describing, feeling like I'm suffocating in a relationship with someone wanting to suck the life out of me. I've had issues with attracting clingy people, I blame my very chilly and detached Aquarius Rising placement. I don't like clingy-ness and I used to attract it all the time, in friends AND relationships. I could never escape it and being the tactful person that I am, I never wanted to hurt anyone's feelings. It was awful. Individuality is very important to me and I don't fluff and fawn over the person I'm dating. I think about them a lot because I'm a thinker but I make sure to lay down the individual space laws before they run to get a marriage license. I also don't believe in marriage or anything legally binding, it's all about freedom to me. It's funny too the clingy-ness I've experienced came from Fire signs in my relationships if you can believe it. Oh those Aries and Leos. And I dated a Taurus who was relentlessly possessive. Any who I date other Air signs because they tend to be chilly like myself or Airy Fire signs. Water and earth ring possessiveness to me, but who knows. You and especially your friend have potent earth and water energy. It might not be the Libra in ya. Scorpio placements can be possessive and controlling and Capricorn placements like to be in charge. Again who knows. Unless you're completely one element, for example all Air which most people aren't it would seem that you are multidimensional and have to cater your preferences to your needs. Pleasing all the many elemental parts of yourself. IP: Logged |
psytaurus Knowflake Posts: 145 From: Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 06, 2011 11:34 AM
In all honesty, I don't think I have met a clingy Libra. My ex wasn't one and my bf doesn't seem to be either. But the there was one guy that my roommate{she's a Saggitarius) used to date who was a bit odd. He wouldn't end a phone call if she didn't say she loved him. At first I thought it was cute, but I don't know. After he came by our place a few times and he wouldn't leave until he heard she loved him, I changed my mind. He had issues and he made me uneasy. My roommate was uncomfortable with this as well. But to be fair, he was the exception. I haven't seen such displays from other Libras.IP: Logged |
BeholdAstarte Knowflake Posts: 400 From: las vegas, nevada, USA Registered: Dec 2009
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posted December 06, 2011 11:38 AM
quote: Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy: That's BS.This is why you can't stereotype everyone with a sign in common. I'm not clingy at all. And I never compromise myself for guys. In fact it's probably actually cost me a lot of relationships (and potential relationships), because I won't do what guys want me to do or be how they want me to be. And I have placements in Cancer (Mars) too, and I'm nothing like the friend you describe. I've seen other people with strong Cancerian and Libran activity in their charts, who seem pretty independent too. The guy I like now is a Cancer sun with Mars in Libra along with most of his outer planets as well, and he's not exactly the clingy, desperate type either. Then again it might be mitigated to some extent because I'm so Uranian/Aquarian and have a fair bit of fixed activity in my chart, in general. So I'm going to go my own way and do my own thing, regardless. And if you wanna come along, fine. If you don't, it doesn't matter, someone will be along to replace you, shortly. And I'm not the only one. I know a lot of people with planets in Libra, who aren't clingy and don't need to be in a relationship and aren't constantly compromising themselves and their lives just to say they have a relationship. Having stuff in Libra means you value relationships, sure. But not necessarily that they're the whole world to you or that you'd do anything to have/maintain one. I wish people would start using their brains when it comes to the sign, for once.
arent you a scorpio?
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BeholdAstarte Knowflake Posts: 400 From: las vegas, nevada, USA Registered: Dec 2009
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posted December 06, 2011 11:44 AM
maybe its her cancer moon and rising sign. i dated a cancer guy and he was SUPER clingy. it was way too overwhelming, he would literally follow me around. i would say, for a libra im pretty independent, but my suns conjunct my mars in libra also. i can see were my display of affection is very intense, but im actually not at all that cuddly haha. at times i want that physical affection, but i dont like PDA haha, its mainly for a bit when i wake up in the morning its nice to cuddle or when its cold. otherwise i like my own space IP: Logged |
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posted December 06, 2011 02:43 PM
The difference must be your Moon signs. Cancer is clingy and the moon in its own sign makes someone super needy. Watching people with this Moon react to everyday situations (reactions ranging from mild distress to outright panic) actually makes me appreciate my emotionally unavailable air moon.IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways Knowflake Posts: 4048 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted December 06, 2011 03:03 PM
Well, what signs are supposed to be kissy, huggy, sex-ing? I am and my Leo wife is overly so, demanding it, not that I'm complaining. Leaving for work in the morning is an extra 15 minute exercise, and can sometimes turn into one hour. But I'm not supposed to be that way, and growing up repressed and in a stoic culture makes me all the more unusual. FWIW, we're both Gemini Moons BTW. Yes, emotions are good... whatever... throw in the physical too, please.IP: Logged |
mintgirl123 Knowflake Posts: 2393 From: Registered: Nov 2009
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posted December 06, 2011 03:30 PM
I got my moon, venus and mercury in libra in the 7th house so I guess I possess alot of libra traits as well. What I'd realised is that although I'm not at all clingy, needy or smothering...I *have* in the past, been with guys where we have spent WAY too much time together lol! But it was more the guy that wanted it than me (I have a tendency to get involved with pretty emotionally intense guys). But still, I guess in a way I didn't mind it that much.That was a few years ago though, I have a much greater need for lots n lots of space now. And from my experiences cancer MOONS are sooo clingy! OMG and so are Cappys. I have dated 3 cappys pretty seriously and I dunno... They were pretty smothering to me. Two of them wanted to see me every single day. Also the Cancer moon guy was always like 'I wanna see you' and I'm like thinking but we saw each other like twice this week already! Lol. I guess my virgo side wants independence too. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways Knowflake Posts: 4048 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted December 06, 2011 03:48 PM
quote: Originally posted by mintgirl123: OMG and so are Cappys. I have dated 3 cappys pretty seriously and I dunno... They were pretty smothering to me. Two of them wanted to see me every single day.
And that was how I managed to get married in less than three months. Forget seeing each other everyday. We spent every minute together (she wanted it too, so it wasn't just me). We even had lunch everyday together without fail. We would alternate walking to each other's offices during lunches and evenings after work, and then not leave each other's side till bedtime. And then meet up at each other's apartments (we were not allowed to sleep together, never mind live together) to go to work. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123 Knowflake Posts: 2393 From: Registered: Nov 2009
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posted December 06, 2011 03:51 PM
Yeah, I did the whole seeing each other 24/7 in the past too. It was really draining, and the guy actually proposed. Now that was pretty awkward stuff lol.Aries moon guys are clingy too wtf? IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways Knowflake Posts: 4048 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted December 06, 2011 03:57 PM
In a way, I still do the 24/7 lol The office co-workers want to go have a drink after work, and I say "ok c-ya later.. gonna head home" lol IP: Logged |
mintgirl123 Knowflake Posts: 2393 From: Registered: Nov 2009
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posted December 06, 2011 04:13 PM
Yeah I used to spend all my time with the ex that was a soulmate and it was nice. Like relaxing and I didn't feel particularly stifled or anything. But I wouldn't want that again. I would like to have more space to myself in the future.IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 4367 From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop Registered: Sep 2011
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posted December 06, 2011 04:36 PM
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amowls** Knowflake Posts: 1914 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 06, 2011 06:20 PM
I have a Libra Moon. I enjoy company. I like sleeping with someone at night. My boyfriend would say that I'm the opposite of clingy, though (he's a Cancer Sun/Virgo Moon). I always need time to do things *I* want. For instance, I like being around my boyfriend but I want to be on the computer, kind of ignoring him lol. He gets mad at me because I won't cuddle with him.IP: Logged | |