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Topic: Holy moly! Why are these people so obsessed with what I do?
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lindisfarne
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From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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posted December 08, 2011 10:37 AM
  
I'm really curious here!!!
What placements or aspects would make a group of people obsessed with someone?I've had this problem for years now... I will have a bunch (typically 5 to 7 people) who seem way too preoccupied with me. Add to the fact that I do not know them at all. I always hear them saying things about me, it's evident they watch me/observe me and have not so nice things to say. I don't really understand it because I don't know why anyone would have me on their mind 24/7... I see them say things on Facebook or on blackberry messenger, sometimes even in person ps these are people I don't know but friends of friends. I don't understand it at all. I presume they dislike me but my logic is if you don't like someone why the f*ck do you talk about them so much? Last night I got really annoyed because this one guy has been talking about me all week and not nice things either I don't even really know him and it's weird how he knows all this stuff about me... this is an on going trend. I know for a fact he has Cancer sun and Scorpio moon. I confronted him and told him to end his obsession with me because it wasn't flattering and I would never be interested in him. I mean normally I ignore all these people but it makes no ******* sense to me I don't understand why I would be on their minds that much especially when I don't even know them. Any aspects or placements? I'm going to take a wild guess and say his moon squares my sun and pretty much every single Aquarius placement I have. He admits to "observing me for some time now" wtffffffffff? He has this creepy affinity towards me I don't even know him! I do know I can be blunt and say things in a way that may put people off but I'm just being true to myself. Any ideas? IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted December 08, 2011 10:56 AM
Hm two of them both have cancer sun Scorpio moon
two of them will not stop talking about me. I'm not obsessed myself it's just something I've been noticing. Normally i ignore these kinds of low lives you know the kind of people that admit to hating you but still find time to talk about you and make it extremely obvious.. I don't get it!IP: Logged |
CAY_512
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posted December 08, 2011 11:23 AM
I'm sorry to hear this. Do you think maybe some of your planets might fall in any of their eighth houses? Maybe that could cause them to be obsessive with you. Could you guess their rising by the way they look? Are they like this with anyone else that you can compare your chart to? I hope it stops. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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posted December 08, 2011 11:26 AM
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Originally posted by CAY_512:
I'm sorry to hear this. Do you think maybe some of your planets might fall in any of their eighth houses? Maybe that could cause them to be obsessive with you. Could you guess their rising by the way they look? Are they like this with anyone else that you can compare your chart to? I hope it stops.
Nope! Just with
me but I'll find out right now if I can get more on their charts so frustrating!!
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athenegoddess
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posted December 08, 2011 11:28 AM
Maybe u should just ignore them. lol.IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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posted December 08, 2011 11:35 AM
I do ignore them, it's been happening for awhile
I'm just curious to how anyone can be this obsessed with someone if they claim to dislike them. I've "ignored" it for awhile. I wanted to see the connection between their planets squaring the majority of mine
but thanks for being extremely purposeful athena never cease to fall short of thisIP: Logged |
athenegoddess
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posted December 08, 2011 11:44 AM
Sounds like middle school. IP: Logged |
Voix_de_la_Mer
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posted December 08, 2011 12:13 PM
People are often drawn to that which causes them aversion.It's like an inbuilt growth mechnism.
You tend to learn more from what you dislike than what you like, and the growth is also more profound because of the strength and potential for upset from negative emotion. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted December 08, 2011 12:27 PM
Muahaha, friend got his birth details. This is his chart  IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted December 08, 2011 12:30 PM
Our Synastry chart
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lindisfarne
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posted December 08, 2011 12:40 PM
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Originally posted by Voix_de_la_Mer:
People are often drawn to that which causes them aversion.It's like an inbuilt growth mechnism.
You tend to learn more from what you dislike than what you like, and the growth is also more profound because of the strength and potential for upset from negative emotion.
This applies to some people right? Because personally if I do not like someone, they are not relevant to me at all. I don't give them a thought much. I can be civil but Im not drawn to them at all... thats why when people I find dislike me or someone else, but still have time to talk about them 24/7 I find that behavior strange. It makes me think differently.
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amowls**
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posted December 08, 2011 03:16 PM
Calling people that dislike you "creepy" and "obsessed" is an obvious defense mechanism. They probably don't think about you THAT much but whenever you do "pop up" in conversation or just around them, they can't help but voice their negative opinions of you. That's usually how stuff like that works. I wouldn't worry too much about them stalking you. Talking sh*t on you is a fun activity to them. That's all.Sorry, this just reminds me of this one chick I know who just plain SUCKS who regularly talks **** about me on her facebook wall but then when I say bad things about her in public, she accuses me of being an obsessed creep lol. It's just so juvenile. IP: Logged |
britterfly
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posted December 08, 2011 03:32 PM
that is so weird. What does he say about you on his facebook? That could give some hefty clues as to why he is specifically obsessed with you. How does he know of you at all? All that scorpio, especially with Pluto in his first house with scorpio rising... he must have a problem with obsession just in general.
what a weirdo.IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted December 08, 2011 05:33 PM
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Originally posted by britterfly:
that is so weird. What does he say about you on his facebook? That could give some hefty clues as to why he is specifically obsessed with you. How does he know of you at all? All that scorpio, especially with Pluto in his first house with scorpio rising... he must have a problem with obsession just in general.
what a weirdo.
I don't know him at all!!!! I mean I've seen him around but we Never spoke! And than it started on blackberry messenger... I added him to be nice + he's friends with my friends. And than friends were telling me he was talking sh*t about me for awhile now. Neve said much because I didn't know the guy. then he and this girl and other people join in like it's just weird. He told me "I've been observing you for awhile now blah blah" I told him "that's pretty ******* creepy and not flattering to hear"He knows all this information about me!!!!!!! He especially knows about some issues I had with an ex and I never told anyone but my ex and I doubt my ex said anything like wtf whenever he sees me he tries to pick a fight with me/argument and brings up alllll this info on me. it really scared me. But he says he Hayes me and cannot stand me but he continues to observe me. I did block him and delete him etc, now he's taking it to another level making up emails to send me really f*cked up antagonizing emails. I don't know him! Or his friends that don't like me. I don't hang out with him etc like I'm just really curious to how anyone can be THAT preoccupied with someone when that same person doesn't even know them!! The most I know is his name. That. my friend has a theory that he is jealous of me because he's gay and interested in my boyfriend lol
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lindisfarne
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posted December 08, 2011 05:50 PM
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Originally posted by amowls**:
Calling people that dislike you "creepy" and "obsessed" is an obvious defense mechanism. They probably don't think about you THAT much but whenever you do "pop up" in conversation or just around them, they can't help but voice their negative opinions of you. That's usually how stuff like that works. I wouldn't worry too much about them stalking you. Talking sh*t on you is a fun activity to them. That's all.Sorry, this just reminds me of this one chick I know who just plain SUCKS who regularly talks **** about me on her facebook wall but then when I say bad things about her in public, she accuses me of being an obsessed creep lol. It's just so juvenile.
Hunny, you abviously didn't read well. I don't care if someone dislikes me heck I dont care if someone hates me. As long as they are doing their own thing as am I, and they are not getting in my way. there's peace. Okay but people like this who claim to hate/dislike someone yet have this person on their mind AT ALL that's a problem. okay if you dont me than don't think about me and don't talk about me. if you say you dont like me but I alway read you writing a bunch of nonsense about me when ya don't know me all over your news feed, blackberry and when you start sending me nasty emails that's the obsession at work, especially if I tell you to stop. I'm not even being narcissistic here I prefer someone that doesn't like me not to think of me than have them "observe" me and constantly talk so much nonsense it's a waste of time I don't like to be the center or subject of attention period that's why it's kinda bothering me.when I don't like someone they know it and I keep my distance I don't think or talk about them period. if anything im civil I don't go out my way to send them harassing emails, I don't constantly try to instigate a feud when the chance arises. I do me, do my own thing. I don't understand the hater mentality it's like their entire energy source or something. And I'm just asking what Placements or aspects would indicate this so called hate yet obsession with people. I didn't ask for anything but that. but I thought id clarify since you misconstrued the entire purpose. sorry if I came off sounding like a btch. I pretty much don't get why anyone would dislike someone that's genuine - I'm a real person - and most of all I don't have time to hate people so thats another thing I don't understand.
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britterfly
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posted December 08, 2011 05:59 PM
the fact that a complete stranger is literally obsessed with you and harassing you to the point of being scary is legitimate reason to be worried about your well-being. i would not at all put it past this person to take this harassment to the next level, out of the virtual world and in to the physical and try to hurt you. I would put money down on some spying through your bedroom window. Does he know where you live?IP: Logged |
britterfly
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posted December 08, 2011 06:00 PM
save all the emails he sends to you. you might need a restraining order. Not that a restraining order would really keep him from doing something to you if he really wanted to, but at least it would be an automatic arrest if he does come near you and you call the cops on time.IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
Knowflake Posts: 709
From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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posted December 08, 2011 06:17 PM
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Originally posted by britterfly:
that is so weird. What does he say about you on his facebook? That could give some hefty clues as to why he is specifically obsessed with you. How does he know of you at all? All that scorpio, especially with Pluto in his first house with scorpio rising... he must have a problem with obsession just in general.
what a weirdo.
And the problem is he thinks its normal.
I've confronted him once very recently that i was not okay with it, because he has been doing it for a long time now.. as ive only spoke up about it now because now he is saying things about my boyfriend, telling lies etc. Thats what ****** me off. The part that scared the sh*t out of me was him saying he observes me alot and has been doing it for awhile now. he thinks his behavior his normal and he enjoys when I "confront" him, it feeds him, when I dont do anything/say anything he will continue and continue but recently I had to say something because now he was saying lies about my boyfriend and no one messes with people I care about. Thats when my anger comes out D:
I typically ignore this sort of stuff because its happened before, where I will have random people who I truly do not know talking about me, knowing all these things etc, having absolutely nothing nice to say I normally ignore but I had to say something. My friends friend is his friend and he is always asking me all these questions, i always ask why or how he knows this and that and he says "thomas talks about you a lot" Like what the hell man?
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