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posted December 13, 2011 06:54 PM            

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My mom just got out of a abusive relationship she had with my father for many years, and now I feel like she's taking it out on me. The littlest things I do make her snap. Whenever I try to explain myself she won't even let me get a word out, and if do something "wrong" like leave my brush on the bathroom counter or a towel in my bedroom she'll say "Your just like your father, I wish the two of you didn't exist!"
I've become numb to her emotional outbursts, but still, I wish there was something I can do to help her realise that she's pushing me away.

(She's a Cancer w/ Gemini Moon, Mars square Mercury, Moon square Pluto, & Sun square Saturn.)

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posted December 13, 2011 07:00 PM            

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You need to tell her that you need to have a talk with her and lay it out for her.

Tell her you understand why she is bitter and that you are there for her but you are not your dad and she cannot displace the anger she has for your dad onto you.

Tell her she should go to counseling so she can heal and so she doesn't end up pushing you away as well. Tell her you would go with her at the beginning if it would make her feel more comfortable.

Try to help her but if after a while you see she doesn't make an effort to meet you half way and to heal what your dad did to her then move out as you should not permanently be putting up with verbal abuse from anyone but try hard to help her first and if all fails then cut your loses and move out.

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posted December 13, 2011 07:00 PM            

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All astrology aside, give her a break..

A breakup is nothing to sneeze at...think of it like a death...there are stages to go thru:

Denial
Anger
Bargining
Depression
Acceptance

blessings to you and your family~

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posted December 13, 2011 07:08 PM            

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I understand that it's a tough time for her, but that is no excuse for her behavior towards you. I echo what amelia28 said.

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posted December 13, 2011 07:28 PM            

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Is transiting pluto opposing her sun by any chance?

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posted December 13, 2011 08:07 PM            

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She's projecting
let her know you're not the problem and that she is.
don't take sh*t from her. You're not the one the subjected themselves to it. She did.

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posted December 14, 2011 06:37 AM            

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Moonfish, do you have a Moon Mars or Moon Pluto aspect?

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