posted December 22, 2011 07:53 AM            

For example one girl, Lets call her Ms. X, said she was trying to talk to him and she is a close co-worker friend of mine who DO know we are dating. She was trying to make conversation with him and said "I heard you were a great cook!" and in return he just gave her an awkward smile. The next time she bumped into him during lunch, she told me they were talking a bit about activities they like to do. She asked him what kind of activities he would like to participate in and he said "I want to learn chinese martial arts" (I'm chinese btw) and he asked her "why? Don't you want to learn??" and my friend just said she felt kind of strange afterwards.

One night me and him were joking around about how in Japanese culture they give a term to women who are not married, single and keep working past a certain age (I DO NOT MEAN TO OFFEND ANYONE BY THIS) and he laughed and said "Oh ya, just like Ms. X" I was like:

Don't say that!! (Playfully) We both know she is getting older and she is still single and wanting a BF pretty badly..but still! How cruel..haha.

Another incident would be a different female co-worker friend, lets call her Ms. Y, coming to me (who DON'T know about our relationship..or maybe she does??) and saying that he wasn't willing to help her and teach her things that she needed to know that's related to work. She said he just flat out said "No, I'm not gonna teach you." She kinda made it seem like he was being really rude to her. I can sense she was saying this jokingly but she seemed a tad bit offended. Later on, without disclosing my relationship with him, I just tried to comfort her and make her feel like it's not a big deal and she will do absolutely just fine! (Ha! I'm a libra what do you expect )

And another night we were walking and he said
"Ms. Y is really stupid. I can just tell by the way she works. I was so frustrated dealing with her. She's so dumb I just can't believe. I don't like her."

So what's up with this? Guy co workers friends that we share in common are totally fine. When I bake brownies, he always goes to them first and shares my brownies with them, and tells them "Anita made it" with a smile. He even gave my brownies to guys who are married and told them to give some to their wives!!

Keep in mind, I always go out to lunch with my female co worker friends and he knows that very well too. I'm not mad or offended he's being like this to my friends cuz I know me and my friends are a whole diff. story than me and him.