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ElizabethO
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posted December 27, 2011 12:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ElizabethO     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I finally disowned my brother - on Christmas nonetheless. His attitude towards me for the past three weeks has broken the camel's back, and I am completely and totally apathetic towards his existence. If he disappeared, I would only care because of my father. As for me, I just don't care anymore. And might I add: good riddance. Of course, he'll tell everyone that he's disowned me because he was sick of me... but he'll always know the truth.

I have Saturn conj Uranus in the 3rd house. They often say that the 3rd house rules your siblings. With Saturn in that house, to say that my brother was a burden in my life is an understatement. I practically raised him because my mother was emotionally and sometimes physically absent. Sometimes around high school, his whole personality changed. He became this very angry, entitled ******* .

He likes to call me to ask for money. He'll harass me until I'll give him cash. He'll threaten to ask our father, knowing that my father will give him the money out of a sense of duty even if he's barely making by nowadays, so I'll feel guilty because I feel a great sense of duty to my father. He's passive aggressive and petty. He's threaten to hit me multiple times when I do anything that even slightly irritates him, which is everything. He's threatened to hurt my cat if I don't come home and give him the car. He'll often leave the house with the car we're supposed to share without telling me, leaving me stranded at home. He then calls me a lazy ***** because I don't go out. Go figure.

He spends literally hundreds of dollars within a week on materialistic items like new clothes, alcohol, etc when it should be for his books and his overdue fraternity dues. Yet he has never (and I mean NEVER) bought my father or I a gift. Not. once. For anything. He takes credit for the smallest things he does, yet gives people no appreciation when they do anything for him. I gave up going to college because my father couldn't afford to send the both of us. I opted to work and let my brother go. You know what he said to me, "I never asked you to do that for me, so why should I be thankful?"

I've paid for our phone bill for the past 2 years. He likes to buy the newest, most expensive phones and doesn't pay a dime for his service. Since it's a family plan, I couldn't cancel it (last month I eventually just left and gave the extra $200 bill to my mom to pay, who also doesn't pay for the family bill) and I don't ask my father to pay for anything because he's paying for things for my mother, who just like my brother... doesn't pay for anything, including all utilities and taxes on the house.

I've calculated that I've had to pay over $5k extra because of my brother, and I have no one else to blame but myself... I should have cut him off a long time ago, even if he's my brother. I just felt... so horrible. I grew up in a home where you have a duty to take care of family. Oh, how delusional that is sometimes...

So here's our synastry chart. I'm interested in what you guys think about his chart and our synastry. This person... just confounds me. Someone who was always taken cared of, always loved, given so many opportunities... and what does he do? He treats my father and I like **** , and even though I was the one who called him out on his horrible behavior... he's ignoring my father completely because he agreed with what I said to him. My father who is paying for his tuition, who raised him, treated him with so much love... Of course, my brother hasn't completely blocked him out of his life. I guarantee he'll come around to ask for money again...

I only care about it astrologically, though. I can say wholeheartedly that I just simply don't give a **** about that person anymore. I'm just so angry and disappointed that I've lost a sibling more than anything... The time spent, the money spent, the effort spent to keep someone alive... all gone. All wasted on someone so selfish, so entitled.

But I'm glad that I lost HIM. I really am. I'm not sorry for anything. /rant

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ElizabethO
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posted December 27, 2011 12:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ElizabethO     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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posted December 27, 2011 12:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hope maybe things are able to change for you all. My brother was a sh!thead too, but I still love him very much and miss him a lot. Maybe one day things will change and they will realize what great sisters they have...?

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ElizabethO
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posted December 27, 2011 01:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ElizabethO     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You know, even if he does come back around as a changed person, I won't let him back into my life. That's something that he'll have to live with.

I need to look at my transits. This has been a long time coming. I cannot believe that karma brought a person like this to my life. What the hell did I do to deserve that... I must've been a horrible person in my past lifetime.

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posted December 27, 2011 01:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I hear you girl. To be honest...i'm just about right there with you. I had to end the relationship, even though I wish i didnt have to. Not sure if I'll ever want to try and work it out again either.

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ElizabethO
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posted December 27, 2011 03:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ElizabethO     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm glad someone can relate. I am really interested in our charts. I hope someone will come along and analyze it...

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 27, 2011 05:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm so sorry about that.

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Alma Sun
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posted December 27, 2011 09:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Alma Sun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I feel ya, ElizabethO. My brother is a major druggie and takes advantage of everyone in sight. I stood by him for YEARS until I had enough. I'm sorry about your brother. :/

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athenegoddess
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posted December 27, 2011 03:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for athenegoddess     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My dear, people are brought to us so we can learn and grow. We are meant to overcome any trials and tribulations in this lifetime, and if your brother is this way, it means he is lost. That means you must help him spiritually. Words don't work. You must use your energy to clear his negativity away so that he can become conscious of the glory of life.

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posted December 27, 2011 04:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My sister and I had our biggest fight ever, last Thursday, and I thought we were done, but we aren't. We're both in the right in ways, and both in the wrong.

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