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Topic: For those of you routing for fishy!
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FireWire
Knowflake Posts: 182
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Registered: Sep 2011
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posted December 28, 2011 11:41 PM
  
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Originally posted by Lioness:
I dont want him to stop "talking" to me the way he does.. I luv the way we talk and interact with each other...
but I dont just want it to be about physical things..... Am I just freaking out,cuz he's doing the guy thing?? Am I over thinking this???
Maybe this is his version of "'maybe' trying again"? I hope you are both looking for the same thing, but then again, that is the very thing I wondered when we first talked about the fishter many moons ago, though I didn't express it. And when you made this thread and mentioned how he was talking...I was like...uh oh, I know how this can go. I would say, enjoy it for what it is, if it makes you feel right. You seem to like him a lot, or perhaps you like aspects of him. If it doesn't make you comfortable, no you are not over thinking it. Some people do crave physical/sexual intimacy as a doorway into more 'serious commitment' (from the Leo notebooks, actually). Others, do not. Only you know what this is. But trust your intuition on this one, seriously. Whatever it is telling you, even if you don't broadcast the full extent here--trust it! But do know that fear and intuition are not quite the same! IP: Logged |
mir
Knowflake Posts: 681
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Registered: May 2009
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posted December 29, 2011 01:38 PM
Ofcourse I know you have to take more things into consideration but what I've experienced with ex-pisces (I'm also Leo) is that it was never ever enough for him.. for ex. he preferred to see me every-day while for me it's enough once a week or maybe twice....I want to keep it *special* without falling into some sort of boring routine in which I find him stoned on the sofa when arriving.. lacking the energy to even put on some candles or to transform his house into a palace before my arrival.
I felt the pressure from day 1 till the last. It was never enough...
Our expectations were totally different.
His goal was 'living together' while mine was simply to create an atmosphere in which we would never get enough of each other while also knowing there's someone out there for you in good & bad times...
I really can't imagine something better than that! But well, he couldn't appreciate it and so step by step he turned his back on me.. and finally for good. Goals/expectations .. it's all about that. IP: Logged |
Lioness
Knowflake Posts: 3964
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted December 29, 2011 10:05 PM
Well we hugged today, and said happy new year.. Which is a step cuz a year ago, I wouldnt let him hug me.. saying nahhhhhh... take a step back homie...
I didnt want to let go... We talked for a while after that... I asked him a question, and he refused to answer... Even when I said hey if you dont want to answer, then say you dont want to answer.. I got nothing but dead silence... No respond nothing..
I would have more respect if he would have said not gonna answer, or none of your business.. but dead silence..
Thats like saying.. screw u.. your not worth the time for me to take and answer you... So Im upset at him now.. and Im gonna go and take a break so I cant think... I need some alone time...
cuz IDK if I will talk to him next week or not... IP: Logged |
Fondue Knight
Knowflake Posts: 291
From: NY
Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 29, 2011 10:30 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Lioness:
Well we hugged today, and said happy new year.. Which is a step cuz a year ago, I wouldnt let him hug me.. saying nahhhhhh... take a step back homie...
I didnt want to let go... We talked for a while after that... I asked him a question, and he refused to answer... Even when I said hey if you dont want to answer, then say you dont want to answer.. I got nothing but dead silence... No respond nothing..
I would have more respect if he would have said not gonna answer, or none of your business.. but dead silence..
Thats like saying.. screw u.. your not worth the time for me to take and answer you... So Im upset at him now.. and Im gonna go and take a break so I cant think... I need some alone time...
cuz IDK if I will talk to him next week or not...
Well, I'm watery (mostly Cancer, some Scorpio, Neptune in 1st) and I don't think he was trying to convey "screw you, you're not worth my time." When I do that freeze/silence thing, it's usually because I don't want to say something to offend or hurt feelings, EVEN IF I WAS GIVEN PERMISSION TO DO SO. It makes no sense, I know. If someone really wasn't worth my time, I'd probably roll my eyes when they asked and walked away.  IP: Logged |
mercuranian
Knowflake Posts: 274
From: the 12th house
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 30, 2011 12:53 AM
quincunx sun signs misunderstanding each other IP: Logged |
Capriquarius
Knowflake Posts: 823
From: So. Cal
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 30, 2011 02:10 AM
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Originally posted by mercuranian:
quincunx sun signs misunderstanding each other
That's a great concise way to put it.IP: Logged |
Lioness
Knowflake Posts: 3964
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted December 30, 2011 02:17 AM
Well he called me a lil while ago.. We worked it out... So Im not as upset with him... But Im soooo gonna flip the tables on him  IP: Logged |
mercuranian
Knowflake Posts: 274
From: the 12th house
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 30, 2011 03:15 AM
thank you Capriquarius. I'm always all about keeping it concise! (plus I'm a lazy typer, and I don't have a computer presently so typing on my iphone).IP: Logged |
Capriquarius
Knowflake Posts: 823
From: So. Cal
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 30, 2011 03:22 AM
^ lol I can relate to that! (Although if this wasn't an astro forum I'd be trying to talk you over to Droid.) quote:
Originally posted by Lioness:
Well he called me a lil while ago.. We worked it out... So Im not as upset with him... But Im soooo gonna flip the tables on him
Speaking as one who was in a relationship with a Fishy for way too long.....that won't accomplish much. They're slippery. >:P Everything that I tried to do to him was like throwing rocks into the ocean. The only way I ever got to him was to walk away. IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
Knowflake Posts: 497
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 30, 2011 05:28 AM
in this moment i am thinking"why we go over and over with people who know are not compatible?" i suppose there is something they have we need so much (even if it a lost memory of a pain or sometimes the flavor of some good times passed with that person and we need to bring them back?) i am bla bla bla...i dont know what to advise other that chances are is gonna hurt? should you stop it? I know i wouldn't even if having again an experience with him could drag you down to a hole you are not know, but the rational me advise caution. this has not started and it is already full of fear, thinking and distrust. coming from a long history with a piscis moon, piscis ascendent. moon conjunct piscis from the 12, i can tell that whatever we think they are thinking, it is always wrong. we just cant figure out these strange creatures seriously, all the best Lioness IP: Logged |
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