posted January 15, 2012 09:57 PM            

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Originally posted by Geminisquared:
I noticed people tell me their deep dark secrets and regrets. People I hardly know some of these people. I don't really encourage this, especially with strangers. I usually just sit their silent and just listen I hardly give them advice unless they ask for it. Sometimes I feel I should charge people for this. I'm not very open with others, I'm actually a very private person, so I'm surprised
I don't know if I remind people of their sorrows, or everyone is just really unhappy :P

What aspects would influence this?

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sounds like boundary issues. that would be neptune. neptune on an angle or square your moon or sun.

posted January 15, 2012 10:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Geminisquared:
Neptune trines my moon

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what about any pluto aspects or scorpio placements?

posted January 15, 2012 10:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
Do you have any Mercury-Ascendant or Mercury-IC aspects?

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posted January 15, 2012 10:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Geminisquared:
Moon opposite pluto
I have a lot of 12 house placements

Heres my chart if its easier
http://imgur.com/f6mme

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people are actually encroaching on your emotional and psychic boundaries by dumping there stuff on you. and while it may seem like you are a natural therapist, its not by choice clearly, and its not a balanced interaction either since you share nothing of yourself (this is the scorpio/pluto influence.)

with your north node in capricorn in your 7th house, many of your lessons are around appropriate boundaries and structures in your relationships, partnerships and one on one interactions. this would me there is a time and a place for people to share their troubles with you: when you are a therapist or other type of healer being paid for your services. or when its a friendship with clearly defined structure and balanced interaction. ie not just you as the trash can.

posted January 15, 2012 10:43 PM            

DING DING! This is why I said boundary issues. You've got the Neptunian influence with the 12th house Sun, Mercury and Venus. And then the Moon opposed Pluto thing. You also have Neptune square your Mars/Midheaven conjunction. (this dissolves or challenges your ability to assert your individuality) Both of those are boundary dissolving energies which really comes from poor self definition on your part.

people are actually encroaching on your emotional and psychic boundaries by dumping there stuff on you. and while it may seem like you are a natural therapist, its not by choice clearly, and its not a balanced interaction either since you share nothing of yourself (this is the scorpio/pluto influence.)

with your north node in capricorn in your 7th house, many of your lessons are around appropriate boundaries and structures in your relationships, partnerships and one on one interactions. this would me there is a time and a place for people to share their troubles with you: when you are a therapist or other type of healer being paid for your services. or when its a friendship with clearly defined structure and balanced interaction. ie not just you as the trash can.

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posted January 16, 2012 01:34 AM            

Now, I am the one that teases out peoples problems. If I want to know it, I can and do drag it out of people. Many will profess to me that they often don't speak of such things with others. The difference now is I have control over whether or not I have people tell me, and I work on helping them through their problems so they don't just vent.

posted January 16, 2012 04:01 AM            

Gossip is never really juicy to me, even when it is, so i don't feel a need to share it ..... maybe people sense that - that it's not a big deal to you and so they feel they can trust and like you might be someone who could give good advice.

posted January 16, 2012 06:19 AM            

I have similar situation like you said, it's kinda complicated to me cause it took me too much time to listen to, sometimes even absorb some negative feelings.

8th/Pluto or 4th/moon might be also work for this.
But I think Neptune/12th house give people a soft,kind and tender image which people may feel harmless, fearless to speak out. Neptune dissolved the boundary between.

Stronger Pluto linkage detects the truth behind things and deep side of others, which could help people with a sharp answer and might solve their problems in a short time. Trust worthy as well.

Moon, like a mun-mun hug, it just creates a cozy place for people to feel being loved again.

posted January 16, 2012 09:37 AM            

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Same here GemSquared. I've a few 8th house placements, and am also pretty private, quiet, and trustworthy. I think people sense that and want to open up and confide in someone they can trust. I've heard more dirt on people than I wish to know about and often wish people didnt feel so comfortable opening up, but also glad they trust me to too.

Gossip is never really juicy to me, even when it is, so i don't feel a need to share it ..... maybe people sense that - that it's not a big deal to you and so they feel they can trust and like you might be someone who could give good advice.

Do you also have 8th and or 4th house planets?

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posted January 16, 2012 09:45 AM            

I have a lot of placements in the 12 house

posted January 16, 2012 12:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Geminisquared:
People with strong pluto/scorpio tend to have healing powers usually the 8th house is the natural doctor. Plutonian's intensity can be overwhelming. I would be to scared to tell them my problems. I think maybe people with strong neptune seem to have a calm aura around them. My dad has strong pluto and it in the 8th house I never come to him with my emotional issues.

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posted January 17, 2012 07:48 AM            

From my point of view, house and planet represent different energy. Strong 8th is nature doctor/shrink/psychologist for sure--humanity house. But, people with many pluto aspects I've known, they show more obsession than mental interests. Scorpion shows both.

Many of my friends have pluto aspects, but sometimes they got seriously traped in life, mostly about power, money, love....
8th people, they seem to be more calm, deep and firm(in mind), maybe 8th is a place they feel comfortable, have instincts or interested in(not sure). I feel like being seen through in front of them. But for Plutonian, guess they have to deal with their problems first.

I attract Pluto and Neptune people as well, which means strong Pluto or Neptune aspects or scorpion/pisces in personal planet, they have endless life stories to talk to. But for 8th/12th people, seems like I talk more.

posted January 18, 2012 01:13 AM            

If someone's able to be okay with this odd bit of my makeup, we usually end up very close friends. I suspect, however, it's not easy to, and that may account for my lack of them. But the ones I have last decades.

Libra Sun-Pluto in 2H; Scorpio Moon-Mercury-Mars-Uranus in 3H. Venus in 12H quintile Uranus. Neptune in 4H sextile Sun opposite 10H Psyche, exact; Pallas in 8H opposite Sun, exact.

Just a rough sketch.