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Topic: taurus man - silence?
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05jnp
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posted January 17, 2012 07:23 PM
  
can anyone help me out with the suddden silence from my taurus man...everythign was fine and then -BAM- he defreinds me on facebook...the only thing i can think is that one of my posts offended him....any advice on how to win him back over...would he really cease talking to me without hearing what i have to say...i don't want to lose someone I care about over a simple misunderstanding...i have texted/called/emailed him but have stopped at this point...i don't understand what i did wrong...would he really cease all contact off of an assumed slight?
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Geminisquared
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: nyc
Registered: Nov 2011
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posted January 17, 2012 07:32 PM
They can be very stubborn. I had a similar fight with my taurus friend, I have taurus moon so our fight lasted for a month. LOL Then we got over it. We were waiting for each other to apologize. I would let him cool off, but after a week I would try can contact him. if hes really that important to you; be the bigger person hahaDoes he have some aries or leo placements? My friend and I both have mars in fire signs. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted January 17, 2012 07:39 PM
I've had that experience from a Taurus Sun/Moon opposed Uranus (although he would say something if he was upset). He may also have deactivated. The one I knew deleted several people, because they didn't speak to him on there, and at one point, I ended up being the only one left. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: maryville,tn,usa
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted January 17, 2012 07:42 PM
oh ive dealt with this sort of thing with girls i have been in relationships with,it seemed to me everything was great and they just suddenly ice me out and quit talking to me altogether,and i'll scratch my head and think what did i do? so i will call and email and text,asking if i said or did something wrong and apologize if i hurt them,but no answer,so i never know what i did or said.my experience with this sort of thing has been with scorpios,cancer,and libra. scorpios and cancer are easily offended and thin skinned and retreat from the world to pout,and libras are cowards alot of the time,so instead of dealing with the problem and talking to you,they would rather run 1,000,000 miles than deal with conflict,i dunno if it would be a taurus thing or not, what is the rest of his chart like?IP: Logged |
05jnp
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posted January 17, 2012 07:45 PM
yea, i have apologized already...i have seen how he can shut down and I am worried that if i don't made headway soon it will be too late. I was thinking of showing up to his place on Thursday w/ cheesecake (his favorite) and apologizing in person. I feel it is easier to ignore via text/email, but different if I was there in person. I am thinking that if I appeal to his logic then he will see reason...? maybe, hopefully...by then i was thinking he will have had a few days to himself to maybe miss me... I have apoligised a few times already for anothing i might have done and expresseed how much i care and miss him but still nothing... to be honest I do not know why he is not talking to me...he just stopped and I am trying to fix things by guessing...
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Geminisquared
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: nyc
Registered: Nov 2011
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posted January 17, 2012 07:46 PM
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Originally posted by 05jnp:
yea, i have apologized already...i have seen how he can shut down and I am worried that if i don't made headway soon it will be too late. I was thinking of showing up to his place on Thursday w/ cheesecake (his favorite) and apologizing in person. I feel it is easier to ignore via text/email, but different if I was there in person. I am thinking that if I appeal to his logic then he will see reason...? maybe, hopefully...by then i was thinking he will have had a few days to himself to maybe miss me... I have apoligised a few times already for anothing i might have done and expresseed how much i care and miss him but still nothing... to be honest I do not know why he is not talking to me...he just stopped and I am trying to fix things by guessing...
I think cheese cake is a wonderful idea YUM. Sometimes people test their friends, and see if they really care. If he stops talking to you then he has his own issues IP: Logged |
05jnp
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posted January 17, 2012 07:49 PM
here's his chart..i don' have a birth time...sorry guysSun Taurus 15.27
Moon Pisces 0.39
Mercury Taurus 24.35 R
Venus Gemini 26.43
Mars Taurus 22.38
Jupiter Sagittarius 8.38 R
Saturn Scorpio 0.01 R
Uranus Sagittarius 8.00 R
Neptune Sagittarius 28.55 R
Pluto Libra 27.39 R
Lilith Aquarius 5.35
Asc node Gemini 25.42 IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: maryville,tn,usa
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted January 17, 2012 07:56 PM
@o5jnp , i hope that works out for you  it certainly is a kind gesture. i for one have dealt with hypersensitive people enough,im not gonna waste my time trying to apologize and talk things out if they wont meet me half way,i mean i know when i have been a jerk and messed up,and i think most people are the same way,chances are if you dont know what you did wrong and you are stumped as to what happened then the person is hypersensitive prolly and mad over something very trivialIP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: maryville,tn,usa
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posted January 17, 2012 08:00 PM
i see the problem right away,he is a pisces moon which makes someone extremely sensitive,and being a man he is afraid to admit you hurt his feelings and that he is sensitiveIP: Logged |
05jnp
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posted January 17, 2012 08:10 PM
i hope the cheesecake thing works out! things were going so well...i had just gotten a key to his apt. on sunday and then he defriends me wednesday night...my FB status on wednesday was 'you just can't be nice to some people' ...i explained via text msg that this was not about him...it was in reference to sketchy guys hitting on me...but he defriended me 2 hours after this text...the text before that was a little short but i explained to him that I didn't want to bother him b/c i knew he was tired.... listen, i love this man. i have no problem apologizing if it makes things better...i am just worried that its over for reasons he is making up in his head... IP: Logged |
05jnp
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posted January 17, 2012 09:44 PM
on second though, would someone really defriend their boyfriend/girlfriend over a FB status they took offense to? I am just starting to think that there is something bigger going on...like people do not actually do that do they?IP: Logged |
mercuranian
Knowflake Posts: 295
From: the 12th house
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 17, 2012 09:49 PM
^^speaking as a taurus, no we don't IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted January 17, 2012 09:53 PM
Like I said, he could have deactivated, and isn't speaking to anyone. IP: Logged |
05jnp
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posted January 17, 2012 10:10 PM
no, he def did not deactivate...i just don't understand why he would give me his key and then go AWOL.I think that something much bigger is going on...why he would not just end things is a mystery to me... IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Knowflake Posts: 146
From: maryville,tn,usa
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posted January 17, 2012 10:50 PM
@O5JNP, haha you wouldnt think so,but i was dating a scorpio chick and everything was great than oneday we had a minor arguement one day and we both said things we didnt mean ,she said alot meaner things to me,but i was willing to forgive her for what she said,but she wouldnt forgive me,so a good relationship was ended over a trivial arguement and she hasnt spoken to me since,people can do strange things.....IP: Logged |
05jnp
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posted January 18, 2012 08:36 AM
my question is, would there be a way to determine if they are really done with you or just upset? Like he hasn't blown up and said anything ... just sudden silenceIP: Logged |
sand
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posted January 18, 2012 08:38 AM
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would he really cease all contact off of an assumed slight?
was it something "trashy"? that's the only time i remember cutting of someoene, if they do something which i perceive is trashy. ..but friends. i don't care much, they can do whatever they want. IP: Logged |
05jnp
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posted January 18, 2012 10:57 AM
No, it wasn't anything trashy and it wasn't directed at hime...I have tried texting and emailing to tell him that and let him know how I feel about him but still no response...he hasn't said anything back...not even to yell or anything...just silence...IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted January 18, 2012 05:36 PM
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Originally posted by 05jnp:
No, it wasn't anything trashy and it wasn't directed at hime...I have tried texting and emailing to tell him that and let him know how I feel about him but still no response...he hasn't said anything back...not even to yell or anything...just silence...
He won't like to be bothered, and this isn't just a Taurus thing (if he is enjoying being bothered, then he's messing with you). I don't know. IP: Logged |
05jnp
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posted January 18, 2012 06:32 PM
I have given him his space and haven't contacted him the last few days but I am hoping that when I stop by (i need to return his key) that he will let me talk...and i'm hoping having his favorite food will help grease the wheels...i hope...IP: Logged |
Nine
Knowflake Posts: 839
From: The Cusp of Love
Registered: May 2009
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posted January 18, 2012 06:53 PM
I have Venus conjunct Mars in Taurus and I'm also super sensitive. His behavior is my M.OHere's my read on the situation: You offended him and he brushed it off without addressing things. You offended him again, once more he brushed it off, no matter how angry he may have been on the inside. Here's the kicker, one day you did/said something innocuous/trivial and he turned to stone or a block of ice, or a bull in a china shop. Taurus is slow, it won't react instantly to anything, but all offenses are noted until to it can work up the rage. IP: Logged |
05jnp
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posted January 18, 2012 07:01 PM
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Originally posted by Nine:
I have Venus conjunct Mars in Taurus and I'm also super sensitive. His behavior is my M.OHere's my read on the situation: You offended him and brushed it off without addressing things. You offended him again, once more he brushed it off, no matter how angry he may have been on the inside. Here's the kicker, one day you did/said something innocuous/trivial and he turned to stone or a block of ice, or a bull in a china shop. Taurus is slow, it won't react instantly to anything, but all offenses are noted until to it can work up the rage.
so I haven't bothered him in a few days do you think now is a good time to stop by? I have thought of what might have offended him but being brutally honest it was NOT about/directed at him AND it was not about what he thinks it was at all...I am thinking that if i go over with his fav food...remain calm and explain what happened it might work... what do you think?
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teasel
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posted January 18, 2012 07:40 PM
Well, it's bothering me that he has you this upset, when he's just gone quiet. He shouldn't have just done that, and left you fretting - it's cruel.
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Nine
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From: The Cusp of Love
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posted January 19, 2012 09:15 PM
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so I haven't bothered him in a few days do you think now is a good time to stop by? I have thought of what might have offended him but being brutally honest it was NOT about/directed at him AND it was not about what he thinks it was at all...I am thinking that if i go over with his fav food...remain calm and explain what happened it might work... what do you think?
It's worth a shot. If he responded favorable to such gestures in the past, it may be a good idea. If you're unsure just go for a talk without his favorite food, but smell nice. IP: Logged |
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