posted February 06, 2012 11:27 AM            

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Virgos have a tendency to being tragic.

EDIT! I suppose I should say at their worst.

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For a long time I believed a certain Virgo was my soulmate (I'm a Capricorn). But he put me through hell, sometimes wanting to be "just friends," sometimes wanting more, sometimes kissing girls right in front of me. He interfered in my relationships with other guys...

I was going crazy and I finally had to "quit" him cold turkey.

He presented himself to our mutual friends as victimized. Frankly I think I was the one who had held on, made sacrifices, and carried "us" for so long...but he thought it was cruel of me to stop.

Pshaw, we were just kids. But yeah, I did walk off.

That's okay I had another Virgo friend who deserted me so the Cap-Virgo score is "tied" in my life.

Libreo and Darkmoon: Such sad stories! Thanks for reminding me to be grateful I'm not dealing with anything like that right now.

posted February 06, 2012 02:09 PM            

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Virgo are more cynical lol, but sometimes it's cos of experiences.
I used to think most people had good hearts but now I've realised that a big bunch of people we're around in every day life are horrible human beings. =/

It wasn't naivety before, it was more optimism. Now it's like I'm more jaded.
Can't being so, been through quite alot of bad experiences.

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^^^
This is true for me. I think so highly of people when I first meet them, that I actually have to pull back a bit before I get myself hurt. Because I WILL get hurt. Probably also has to do with the fact that I have a lot of Sagittarius along with my Virgo.

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I am a virgo and people don't leave me is usually I who decides to leave them.

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is also true. I have been left before, but I actually find my myself 'leaving' friends/relationships prematurely if I think that they are not headed anywhere positive. In some ways I make assumptions about the character of the person involved that may not ENTIRELY be true, if I were to give that person a chance.

I've had Virgo friends in the past just up and disappear, and sometimes I am not even entirely sure what triggered it. I at least TRY to let people know why I'm upset. I think that Virgos (like most earth signs) have a very hard time talking to others about their inner feelings. I know it causes me a lot of anxiety because it makes me vulnerable and could potentially end the relationship if it doesn't go well. So, I'd rather save the anxiety/frustration for both of parties and just go on my merry way.

HOWEVER, in recent years I've realized that is somewhat immature of me and also it makes assumptions about the other person that may not be true. I just recently salvaged two friendships that were headed in that direction by swallowing my anxiety and my pride and by actually talking to the people involved. It all went much better than I had planned.

posted February 07, 2012 06:41 AM            

I have known Virgos who

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make assumptions about the other person that may not be true.

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Of course everyone does that from time to time.

What can be difficult about Virgos is, they can present their assumptions SO logically; I think they can get caught up in the rhetoric itself sometimes? I've been hurt by that before- like, the issue wasn't about me, it was about them crafting a persuasive and eloquent argument which, I felt, didn't exactly apply to me.

I've known people with Virgo Venus sign who tend to do this as well.

posted February 07, 2012 06:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:
He feels that he was never at fault, and never took and blame for his own mistakes only blaming everyone else...

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posted February 08, 2012 04:55 AM            

thing with mutables, they can be duplicitious on occasions, insomuch as do as I say, but not necessarily do as I do...

posted February 08, 2012 06:53 PM            

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What can be difficult about Virgos is, they can present their assumptions SO logically; I think they can get caught up in the rhetoric itself sometimes? I've been hurt by that before- like, the issue wasn't about me, it was about them crafting a persuasive and eloquent argument which, I felt, didn't exactly apply to me.

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YES. I could see that. I do that a lot actually. We're a little too rational for our own good, and we miss the unpredictable/human element sometimes.

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Anyway, YOU sound very self-aware. And it's nice you're salvaging friendships now.

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Thank you. I try to be self-aware. It doesn't always work out as well as I would hope though. But yeah... Trying to salvage a few friendships because I'm starting to see the forest instead of just the trees.