posted February 09, 2012 01:10 PM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
venus in scorpio people (especially men), i need your opinion what would your reaction be if a girl who is a pretty close friend of yours confess that she likes you? how would you respond if you like her back? what about if you don't see her as more than a friend?....would she look cheap and desperate because she confessed first before you did?or would you think it's so brave of her to do such thing? thank you!

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I'm not a man but I do have venus in scorpio. I would have to think about it first because venus in scorpio makes me take relationships VERY seriously (paired with my libra sun moon mars).

It's either a hit or a miss with me. If I ever have any doubts about you/don't feel the same, I will let you know right then and there. If I really like you, I will tell you. BUT If I don't know (whether you are worth it), I'll tell you to "get to know each other" first.

posted February 09, 2012 03:20 PM              

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
venus in scorpio people (especially men), i need your opinion what would your reaction be if a girl who is a pretty close friend of yours confess that she likes you? how would you respond if you like her back? what about if you don't see her as more than a friend?....would she look cheap and desperate because she confessed first before you did?or would you think it's so brave of her to do such thing? thank you!

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synastry is a complex business and NOT just vvenus

Basic astrology forum, How to approach Synastry http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum12/private-jjLYZw161/HTML/000667.html
when you get this chart, please also post the *pdf file*, above left should be *view additional tables (PDF)* This will bring up the aspect grid –at a glance planet to planet. Post the whole PDF file, what we are looking for if scroll down to ‘partner comparison’ aspect grid
Please remember to reduce the orb ratio down to 40% as the max orb between planets is 3'

posted February 10, 2012 01:04 AM            

If someone tells me they like me, I also need time to let the whole experience sink in. I have politely turned people down (on more than one occasion), because I was caught off guard and unsure of how to respond. I will eventually go back to the person, apologize for being a social reject, and pursue them after the whole thing has settled. I think the general thing to keep in mind with Scorpio is honesty with one's self, before trying to be honest with the Scorpio. Many Scorpio Venus folks may be more turned off by a disingenuous complement than an insult. He should be equipped with a subconscious scanning device which listens to the truth behind how you act. If what you project outward does not match what he feels inside you, you can be seen as untrustworthy or even silly for thinking you could try to play games with him. If you like him because you are attracted to him physically, don't act like you are considering him for marriage. It is much more of a complement to hear, "I am physically attracted to you, and I admit it's a bit distracting. Do you mind spending some time together, so I can get a better understanding of what makes you tick?" than it is to hear, "There is just something about you I feel really connected to; you are such a great person. I just wanted you to know that". All an aware Venus in Scorpio hears with that second pick up line is ("I am on your jock, want to date for a few days, pretend we really like each other, spend 3 months screwing each other's brains out, get bored, and break up?").

Venus in Scorpio is very protective because they are sensitive and easily hurt. This often makes us cautious about who we give our heart to. If you are honest, you are trustworthy. If you are trustworthy, you become a safe candidate for our affections. This being said, we are also often cautious of hurting other people who we cherish (while plotting to stab all the people we dislike hehe). If he likes you as a friend, but is not interested in you romantically, your approach can cause him to feel uncomfortable around you (worried he has hurt you by rejecting you). My suggestion is to express your interest, but explain to him that you are in a really good place with your friendship. Assure him that his returned affections are an attractive prospect for you, but you would like to just remain friends without awkwardness, should his feelings not match yours. Make sure you really feel this way though, or he will know. Approaching him this way gives him the opportunity to be honest with you about his own feelings, without the fear of causing irreparable damage to your friendship. It should also give you like 10 attractive points for being so honest and straightforward.

If you know more about his chart or can post his chart, it may be more helpful in grasping how Venus manifests in his personality.

posted February 10, 2012 03:42 AM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
i dont know his time of birth tho but i can tell you he has lots of planets in scorpio...he is the shy type of scorpio and i'm trying to find a line that will let him know that i like him without making me sound too desperate or cheap, something that will sound sincere and honest and also in a way that he will appreciate and won't scare him away...*pheww this is tough!

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Then just say whatever comes up in the moment and be willing to laugh at your self if you say something silly. The only line that sounds honest and sincere is the one that comes from your heart. Whatever comes out of your mouth, it's your intention he will be listening to. This isn't something I suggest planning before hand.

posted February 10, 2012 03:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Xiiro:
Then just say whatever comes up in the moment and be willing to laugh at your self if you say something silly. The only line that sounds honest and sincere is the one that comes from your heart. Whatever comes out of your mouth, it's your intention he will be listening to. This isn't something I suggest planning before hand.

If he is your friend, he will understand and care for you no matter what happens. Don't sweat it, you're not telling him you ate his dog, you are paying him a complement. If he freaks out for some weird reason, oh well, at least you found out he was weird before spending a year dating him. =)

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posted February 10, 2012 09:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
If he has an air or fire mercury, he'll probably appreciate you being forward and explicitly telling him: I. Like. You. If he has a water or earth mercury try showing your interest in non-verbal ways like touching him, hugging him, kissing him randomly on the cheek, making intense eye contact and la dee da..

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posted February 10, 2012 01:22 PM            

I for the most part am pretty clued in to when other people are attracted to other people and can generally see it pretty easily. When it comes to women being attracted to me, i'm completely oblivious, most of the time.

I have had a close friend approach me and I saw it coming a little way off, maybe a day or two when she asked me to meet up with her but in a way that was you know, not usual. Something about the way she asked made me think something was up.
So we met up the next day and she confessed her feelings to me. I know she'd been going through a really rough time for the last two weeks which I was always there for her, talking to her, hugs, and little notes, whatever I felt she needed.

I'm not going to lie, I was a little nervous because I had feelings for her to, but those words were not what exited my mouth, instead it was, "I know you've been going through a hard time and I've been here for you, I don't want to feel like you feel this way because of dealing with loss." The answer I was hoping for was of course, "No, I feel this way about you and have for a while etc. etc." Instead I got what I deserved with an, "Oh." Kind of indecisive non-commital answer. From there we drifted apart as we both didn't speak as often as we used to. She was two years my younger.

Another time was one of my best friends Sister's finally admitted to having feelings for me, we were pretty good friends and talked pretty often. I kind of saw it coming, not only was she my friend's sister I wasn't attracted to her in that way. So when she pulled up the courage to speak to me, I asked her to come somewhere more private with me. I'm not too comfortable with discussing such things amongst other people and I feel like privacy is the best way to deal with these things. No one likes rejection, why do it in front of people? I told her very gently that she was fun, a good laugh and a great fun but I just didn't feel the same way and that I was very sorry. Yet again we drifted apart after that even though we ended up going to the same university. She was a year my younger.

I have another friend who's youngest sister seems to have had a fascination with me for a few years now. She always talks to me when i'm over, has no problem touching my hair etc. She pays more attention to me and asks me about my opinions on things she is interested in and also asks me about things i'm interested in. She is 6 years younger than me and I don't see her often and we don't talk other than when I am over his and she is around. Hopefully I won't have to talk to her because I really don't like hurting people.

Another case was a girl who I really quite liked, except she was a mega game player. Always hinting, never saying anything concrete and always expressing things like, I was cold why did you give her your coat and not me? When I then offer, she turns me down. When one of her friends kisses me out one night, I broke it fairly quickly because I didn't feel that way about her. She then said something like, you should've kissed me instead before going off and doing whatever for the rest of the night. I've asked her about what exactly she said a couple of times and each time she denies saying anything. I did like her quite a bit but boy did she really wind me up. I know i'm difficult to pin down and I make no excuses but it was like trying to catch a fish with your bare hands, after dunking them in baby oil. I never directly told her how I felt but I did say that I liked her a few times and she just smiled or said how much and then walked off.

Anyway, hopefully you can see a pattern here, at least for me

If I don't have feelings for the friend confessing her feelings. I will straight up say, I'm sorry, I don't feel the same way.

When I do, I tend to dance around the issue and ask her if she really truly does have these feelings, no mistakes. I'm looking for that, yes I 100% feel this way now tell me how you feel!

I know I haven't made it easy for myself but these case studies are from a few years ago and I'm a lot wiser now than I was back then.

If you choose to confess your feelings, don't plan it, just do it. Pay extra attention to what he says, if he says no I don't then I'm sorry. If however, he doesn't say no I don't and either says yes I feel the same way or he asks something that is feeling out how strongly or real-ly you feel for him. Gently press him and tell him again how you feel and ask him how he feels but give him time to sort through his feelings and let him know that he has time as well.

Most importantly, don't change how you act just because you've told him how you feel, keep it how it was before, happy and comfortable between you. He is more likely to see you feeling comfortable around him and realise that he does quite like you, rather than if you tell him and then you both kinda act awkward around each other until he answers.

Sun in Virgo 29th Degree - II
Moon in Gemini 29th Degree - XI
Mercry in Libra 4th Degree - III
Venus in Scorpio 11th Degree - IV
Mars in Libra 1st Degree - II

Hope I helped in anyway, best of luck in whatever you choose to do.

posted February 11, 2012 03:29 PM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
to be honest, the ultimate reason why i was planning to confess what i really feel for him was that he already asked me first who i liked and i bet he kinda know that it must be him, lol but i told him that i don't wanna talk about such things yet (since I didn't know what to say hahaha, and it was on msn so i wasnt sure if i wanted to tell him about this whole stuff through internet :/ ) he is my best friend by the way, so he must've noticed some kind of *spark* between us, haha...the only problem is to find the right time to tell him! ugh -___-'

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Now I don't meant to get your hopes up but generally when someone asks you if you're interested in someone they are at the very least open to the idea of being in a relationship with you. Why would you ask someone you aren't interested in if they liked anyone? Polite curiosity amongst friends maybe, inquisitive family members probably.

I know I like to do things face to face rather than over the phone, MSN, email, text, or other means. It just makes it more powerful and you can read their reaction better, plus they can't run away

You will find the right time.

Wishing you the best!

posted February 11, 2012 03:45 PM            

I'm currently in a similar situation with a Scorpio Venus, we're currently in the phase of "secretive showdown of who is going to let their guard down first"...

Fascinating to read this thread, it's sooo spot on!

posted February 11, 2012 09:01 PM            

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I know I like to do things face to face rather than over the phone, MSN, email, text, or other means. It just makes it more powerful and you can read their reaction better, plus they can't run away

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posted February 12, 2012 07:49 AM            

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this is exaactly what i was trying to do with my scorpio..he asked me on chat about 4 times about who i like, even told me he wanted to know all about me and my deepest darkest secrets lol but i didn't feel awkward the whole conversation since he is a close friend of mine i say, if he does the same thing to you, you got him smitten, rawrrr ! best of luck girl!

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posted March 31, 2014 06:43 AM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
venus in scorpio people (especially men), i need your opinion what would your reaction be if a girl who is a pretty close friend of yours confess that she likes you? how would you respond if you like her back? what about if you don't see her as more than a friend?....would she look cheap and desperate because she confessed first before you did?or would you think it's so brave of her to do such thing? thank you!

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Being a Scorpio Venus guy, I love the mystery of sex, the joy of intensity, loyalty in love, long-term relationship and being with one person dedication to the commitment. I am free, frank, jovial and open-minded. I like preferably romantic dates, fun outings, soul-level bonding deep emotional bonding rather than just sex. I am a strong and powerful lover and I will give complete attention, care, love and affection to my sweetheart. I would like to meet a genuine, lovely, romantic, sexy and a passionate lady of any age.I am a person of highly sexy, monogamous, romantic, electric and unflinching personality. I am a deeply devoted and trustworthy partner. I cannot stand superficiality in relationships and will plunge into the deepest depths. I seek only the complete and most meaningful love. I am highly sensitive, generous and faithful with my partner and will demand the same back in return. I am expert in Tantric sex healing and empowerment. I believe always that love and sex is a precious virtue.

posted March 31, 2014 06:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Starry~*:
I'm not a man but I do have venus in scorpio. I would have to think about it first because venus in scorpio makes me take relationships VERY seriously (paired with my libra sun moon mars).

It's either a hit or a miss with me. If I ever have any doubts about you/don't feel the same, I will let you know right then and there. If I really like you, I will tell you. BUT If I don't know (whether you are worth it), I'll tell you to "get to know each other" first.

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Being a Scorpio Venus man, I love the mystery of sex, the joy of intensity, loyalty in love, long-term relationship and being with one person dedication to the commitment. I am free, frank, jovial and open-minded. I like preferably romantic dates, fun outings, soul-level bonding deep emotional bonding rather than just sex. I am a strong and powerful lover and I will give complete attention, care, love and affection to my sweetheart. I would like to meet a genuine, lovely, romantic, sexy and a passionate lady of any age.I am a person of highly sexy, monogamous, romantic, electric and unflinching personality. I am a deeply devoted and trustworthy partner. I cannot stand superficiality in relationships and will plunge into the deepest depths. I seek only the complete and most meaningful love. I am highly sensitive, generous and faithful with my partner and will demand the same back in return. I am expert in Tantric sex healing and empowerment. I believe always that love and sex is a precious virtue.

Qualities that are important to me: A good sense of humor; Ability to laugh at me and one's self; Wit; A sense of play & still connecting to that childish side; Intelligence - the kind that is going to massage my mind and stimulate me; A sense of adventure - willing to try and do new things; non-judgemental - knowing that people are just people, let them be, appreciate them for who they are; Strong and Confident - can be out and have a good time knowing I am into you and no one else; Eyes that talk to me and sparkle; I get you, and you get me; We can be quiet and its okay; We can dance and have a wonderful time. I don’t drink and don’t smoke but I don’t have problem for this. I will admit, I am a talker but I'm a good listener too.

posted March 31, 2014 06:46 AM            

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Originally posted by racole12:
I have Venus in Scorpio (but I'm a female)... and TONS of Sag energy and I agree with Starry completely...

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Being a Scorpio man,I love the mystery of sex, the joy of intensity, loyalty in love, long-term relationship and being with one person dedication to the commitment. I am free, frank, jovial and open-minded. I like preferably romantic dates, fun outings, soul-level bonding deep emotional bonding rather than just sex. I am a strong and powerful lover and I will give complete attention, care, love and affection to my sweetheart. I would like to meet a genuine, lovely, romantic, sexy and a passionate lady of any age.I am a person of highly sexy, monogamous, romantic, electric and unflinching personality. I am a deeply devoted and trustworthy partner. I cannot stand superficiality in relationships and will plunge into the deepest depths. I seek only the complete and most meaningful love. I am highly sensitive, generous and faithful with my partner and will demand the same back in return. I am expert in Tantric sex healing and empowerment. I believe always that love and sex is a precious virtue.

Qualities that are important to me: A good sense of humor; Ability to laugh at me and one's self; Wit; A sense of play & still connecting to that childish side; Intelligence - the kind that is going to massage my mind and stimulate me; A sense of adventure - willing to try and do new things; non-judgemental - knowing that people are just people, let them be, appreciate them for who they are; Strong and Confident - can be out and have a good time knowing I am into you and no one else; Eyes that talk to me and sparkle; I get you, and you get me; We can be quiet and its okay; We can dance and have a wonderful time. I don’t drink and don’t smoke but I don’t have problem for this. I will admit, I am a talker but I'm a good listener too.

posted March 31, 2014 06:48 AM            

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Originally posted by anongrl10:
I've been in the shoes of your friend. A male (Scorpio sun) friend of mine confessed an interest beyond friendship to me (a Scorpio Venus). To me, I could see from his behavior and his looks what he was thinking about. Don't forget that Scorpio Venus has the x-ray eyes of Scorpio in love. We can see it in front of us. I knew it was coming and I did the kind thing and responded indirectly (he was married DUH). I liked him a lot but I don't "do" married men. That's screwed up. Plenty of single fish in the sea.
But I mean in our case, I knew it before he opened his mouth and he got it that I got it. And the look in my eyes said 'no' so he was stopped before a point of humiliation.
Now, if he was single and I liked him this way too, I would be chuffed to hear him say it. If he was single and I didn't like him this way, I would be honest but very careful since he'd be a friend (out of worry about hurting him). I would definitely want to talk about the friendship after that discussion but I would also leave him some space to think things through. When the friendship is unbalanced because one has fallen in love, things are tricky. I don't know if it's my Sag Sun but I would never lead anyone on in love. Scorpio Venus takes love seriously and has deep feelings and instincts in such situations.
Another thing is it has happened that a friend professed love and although I wasn't interested, he gained my heart in the end. It didn't work out in the long run but it is one of my fondest relationships.
Hope this helps.

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Being a Scorpio Venus guy, I love the mystery of sex, the joy of intensity, loyalty in love, long-term relationship and being with one person dedication to the commitment. I am free, frank, jovial and open-minded. I like preferably romantic dates, fun outings, soul-level bonding deep emotional bonding rather than just sex. I am a strong and powerful lover and I will give complete attention, care, love and affection to my sweetheart. I would like to meet a genuine, lovely, romantic, sexy and a passionate lady of any age.I am a person of highly sexy, monogamous, romantic, electric and unflinching personality. I am a deeply devoted and trustworthy partner. I cannot stand superficiality in relationships and will plunge into the deepest depths. I seek only the complete and most meaningful love. I am highly sensitive, generous and faithful with my partner and will demand the same back in return. I am expert in Tantric sex healing and empowerment. I believe always that love and sex is a precious virtue.

Qualities that are important to me: A good sense of humor; Ability to laugh at me and one's self; Wit; A sense of play & still connecting to that childish side; Intelligence - the kind that is going to massage my mind and stimulate me; A sense of adventure - willing to try and do new things; non-judgemental - knowing that people are just people, let them be, appreciate them for who they are; Strong and Confident - can be out and have a good time knowing I am into you and no one else; Eyes that talk to me and sparkle; I get you, and you get me; We can be quiet and its okay; We can dance and have a wonderful time. I don’t drink and don’t smoke but I don’t have problem for this. I will admit, I am a talker but I'm a good listener too.