posted February 10, 2012 10:03 AM            

Just the other day, I had a really bad day at work and felt very emotional(long story). I had talked to everyone I could about how I was feeling but didn't feel any better.So I decided to call my mom.

On the phone I let spill; I went on and on about how stressfull my job is,how I was always anxious and uncomfortable with my team members and how difficult it proved to be to adjust. She listened attentively for about an hour; with me going on in great detail about how I felt.

After the conversation , I felt so much better. I even had a mild flu, that was gaining momentum fast, evaporate quickly.

People often qoute that the Cancer moon is too attached to the mother: I think, in my experience, though the relationship with my mom isn't always perfect(I feel I am more intense than she is at times), she has a way of listening without judgement. And this is a very rare skill.

I think with Cancer moon signs(especially in men), the feminine touch is very important: Because of my relationship with my mother, I have found that I can't deal with people who are emotionaly aloof or disinterested.
And this is a very big problem in my relationships with men.

Often men misunderstand my fears as "weakness" or "cowardice". They seem to conclude that I am throwing a pity party for "no apparent reason"(with the exclusion of water and some earth moons)when in actuality, I am looking to unload my frustration,pick myself up and move on without the baggage.

Often, Aries moon and Capricorn moon are credited for being "macho"(as far as the former is concerned) and able to be "objective"(in the case of the latter).

But to me, the ability to show and deal with emotions openly is a sign of strength. If you are able to acknowledge how you feel about something and not sidestep it, this is true maturity.

Maybe women are better at doing this than most men. What is your experience? Do you , as a Cancer moon man,connect better with women than men on a platonic level? And what kind of relationship do you have with your mom?

posted February 10, 2012 10:48 AM              

Basic astrology forum, How to approach Synastry http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum12/private-jjLYZw161/HTML/000667.html
when you get this chart, please also post the *pdf file*, above left should be *view additional tables (PDF)* This will bring up the aspect grid –at a glance planet to planet. Post the whole PDF file, what we are looking for if scroll down to ‘partner comparison’ aspect grid

Please remember to reduce the orb ratio down to 40% as the max orb between planets is 3'

plus without seeing charts how can we know if a planet is for example Apex for Yod or T Square. Sometimes in synastry a planet cuold be the opposite leg of someone T Square, thereby creating great amounts of tension and problems. Moreso, if the planets involved are 'outers'

outer planets research http://www.mystarworld.co.uk/astrology-resources/articles/impact_outer_planets-on_relationships/
Outer Planet Aspects to Venus and Mars. New book by Donna Cunningham http://skywriter.wordpress.com/2009/09/12/the-steamy-side-of-venus-pluto-aspects%e2%80%94a-photo-gallery/
The Impact of Outer - Planet Signs on Relationships http://www.mystarworld.co.uk/astrology-resources/articles/impact_outer_planets-on_relationships/
Donna Cunningham's 40 years of experience in counseling clients. It explores the effects of Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto on career choices, patterns, and dilemmas. http://www.donnasfreeastrology.info/bookreviews.html
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39021
Very interesting discussion on outer planets being generational.

posted February 10, 2012 10:54 AM              

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Often, Aries moon and Capricorn moon are credited for being "macho"(as far as the former is concerned) and able to be "objective"(in the case of the latter).

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posted April 01, 2012 01:50 AM            

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posted April 17, 2012 09:38 AM            

My Cancer moon sister was very close to my mother, to the extent that she began having serious mental problems as my mother was dying. That's a long and complicated issue, but I think, for our purposes here, it confirms an especially intense attachment.

On a lighter note, men born in the Year of the Pig tend to really love their mothers. I have read about it and witnessed it time and time again.

If the OP is still around I would love to know if he is a Pig Year guy.

posted April 17, 2012 02:22 PM              

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:

I can relate to you (the OP) about not being able to deal with people who are emotionally not there or not interested. This is something that complicates a lot of my friendships with people of either gender. If someone never wants to spend time with me or talk to me, it doesn't really matter what else they do: I need communication and shared experiences to feel like people care and want me around. They can do anything else--hug me, say something nice (something short, without a longer conversation), buy me stuff, or just have a nice feeling/energy around me, and that does not help. While I understand that different people express affection differently, what works for me is communication and shared experiences--making memories together. It's hard for me to be satisfied with most relationships that I have with others because they aren't close enough/don't feel connected enough to the other person.

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posted April 17, 2012 03:40 PM            

My relationship with my mother has improved from a baseline of horrible, but only (apparently) because my father passed away a few years ago, so she stopped being so nasty and decided she should be my friend. It felt like as long as he was alive, she was free to spew lots of venom my way and after his death, she felt alone, and needed me all of a sudden. She is not "all there", though, perhaps BPD, so I take this into account, i.e., my resentment over things she's done and said in the past has dulled a bit, b/c I realize she has major issues in every arena of life, so I don't take everything so personally.