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Topic: I just CANT get into this guy...
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Lioness
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posted March 12, 2012 08:37 PM
  
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Im not looking for a full reading...
Just maybe one or 2 aspects which is causing what I am feeling.... ****************************************** I met this guy about 2 years ago.. I actually meet him ON my Venus return (DOH) At first I was into him.. We clicked well...
But IDK just out of no where I just lost interest. It didnt matter if he called or not, or even if I never saw him again... I actually changed my number so he couldnt call me anymore... I kept my distance from him for months and months.. Then out of the blue I ran into him at a bar and we got together.... Since I had changed my number he had no way of contacting me.. I didnt give him my new number.
So I was cool with it.. Then one day I HAD to talk to him about something, so I called him and I blocked my number so he wouldnt have it..
WELL the guy has a program on his phone that shows the # anyways (DOH)
So then he started calling me again, and showing up where he knows I go.. We went out a few times.. No biggie, but I just wasnt attracted.. Like Euhhh this guy is soooo boring...
One night he said something to me, that really set me off... I was so mad..
I told him FU and dont ever call me again,and walked out..
WELL... ever since then he calls me even more often,says he really likes me. HE keeps asking me out, but I say no... I told him there is just no passion and I dont see the point...
He says things like. Ill show you passion... blah blah... yeah yeah yeah.... So what is it about him that makes me
un-attracted why no passion??
He's hitting my H8.. But I feel no special bond, no interest... Nothing...
When I look at this chart,it shows passion,and sexual chemistry and other stuff.. But I just dont feel it.. Why in the heck does he keep trying?? He's a nice guy... He asked me to go to Vegas with him.. But euhhh I just cant get into him.. But you know he's no fishy.. 
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Delilah
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posted March 12, 2012 10:05 PM
It looks like your Venus squares his Pluto. I have this with a friend that I'm trying to enforce boundaries with. He comes onto me, but there's no attraction on my part. Honestly, he makes me nauseas when he does it. He's a nice guy too, but there's just nothing there and he's not even remotely my type (which is a huge range, btw). In this case, Pluto repulses Venus. He doesn't know when to stop and won't listen. The square doesn't promise an equal balance of attraction, but an imbalance. Obviously it's unrequited love for him and he's trying hard to win you over. Your Mars are opposite each other. He's so not what you're looking for in masculinity. Your Mars squares his Mercury and Venus, which puts you on different pages when it comes to mutual attraction. Added to his relentless pursuit, his Venus and Mercury conjunct in Scorpio. He's not going to stop coming onto you until you block him again or he meets someone else he can obsess over. Your ASC is in his 2H of possessions and four of your personal planets fall into his 8H, so he could see you as someone to be had and possessed for a long time. He may even have an idea of how you're fated/meant to be together. Remember that you contacted him and re-activated all of this. Lol. Sorry, I just have the image of Pepe le Pew in my head. For me, he and the cat are Venus square Pluto in a nutshell. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 12, 2012 10:15 PM
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Originally posted by Delilah:
It looks like your Venus squares his Pluto. I have this with a friend that I'm trying to enforce boundaries with. He comes onto me, but there's no attraction on my part. Honestly, he makes me nauseas when he does it. He's a nice guy too, but there's just nothing there and he's not even remotely my type (which is a huge range, btw). In this case, Pluto repulses Venus. He doesn't know when to stop and won't listen. The square doesn't promise an equal balance of attraction, but an imbalance. Obviously it's unrequited love for him and he's trying hard to win you over. Your Mars are opposite each other. He's so not what you're looking for in masculinity. Your Mars squares his Mercury and Venus, which puts you on different pages when it comes to mutual attraction. Added to his relentless pursuit, his Venus and Mercury conjunct in Scorpio. He's not going to stop coming onto you until you block him again or he meets someone else he can obsess over. Your ASC is in his 2H of possessions and four of your personal planets fall into his 8H, so he could see you as someone to be had and possessed for a long time. He may even have an idea of how you're fated/meant to be together. Remember that you contacted him and re-activated all of this. Lol. Sorry, I just have the image of Pepe le Pew in my head. For me, he and the cat are Venus square Pluto in a nutshell.
i have had venus square pluto with several girls in synastry,and it was one sided as well,only difference is that i was venus and i was the one smitten over pluto, i guess that goes to show that aspects can manifest in different ways,very interesting stuff. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted March 12, 2012 10:30 PM
LOL....
Thanks DelilahYeah true I did contact him, I thought I was slick by blocking my number...
Cause really who in the world has the program to unblock unknown numbers.... LOL... I wouldnt say he's stalking me or anything like that, he just tries again.. He calls me maybe 2x a month... Yes I just cant get into him...
I told him, look after what you said to me.. I will never be able to let that go.. I can be your friend as if I see you I will say Hi.. But nothing else..
His answer was well why dont we get together and discuss it,so we can work it out..
I said nahhh.. Nothing to work out.. Because I know I wont ever let it go.. IP: Logged |
Delilah
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posted March 12, 2012 10:48 PM
Aquaguy, sometimes it depends on who has the stronger planet. In Lioness's case, the guy chasing her has his Pluto in between Karma and Juno, opposite his Moon. He wants what he can't have and when he pursues a woman he can become confused, thinking that something divine has brought them together. Whomever he ends up with, imbalance in their relationship is going to be a huge issue because of the aspect between his Moon and Pluto. He can capture treacherous women, or somehow mistreat the good women he dates. IP: Logged |
Delilah
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posted March 12, 2012 10:57 PM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
LOL....
Thanks DelilahYeah true I did contact him, I thought I was slick by blocking my number...
Cause really who in the world has the program to unblock unknown numbers.... LOL... I wouldnt say he's stalking me or anything like that, he just tries again.. He calls me maybe 2x a month... Yes I just cant get into him...
I told him, look after what you said to me.. I will never be able to let that go.. I can be your friend as if I see you I will say Hi.. But nothing else..
His answer was well why dont we get together and discuss it,so we can work it out..
I said nahhh.. Nothing to work out.. Because I know I wont ever let it go..
I don't see him as a stalker. I don't think his Pluto is strong enough to make him that. Lol. I'd still change my number or block him again, but numbers can be unblocked too. Oh, he's a Cap Rising. Being one myself, sometimes we don't know when we've insulted someone. He likely didn't mean anything by what he said. We suffer from know-at-all-foot-in-mouth disease, so be patient. Lol. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 12, 2012 11:22 PM
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Originally posted by Delilah:
Aquaguy, sometimes it depends on who has the stronger planet. In Lioness's case, the guy chasing her has his Pluto in between Karma and Juno, opposite his Moon. He wants what he can't have and when he pursues a woman he can become confused, thinking that something divine has brought them together. Whomever he ends up with, imbalance in their relationship is going to be a huge issue because of the aspect between his Moon and Pluto. He can capture treacherous women, or somehow mistreat the good women he dates.
haha i have moon opposition pluto -_- IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted March 12, 2012 11:55 PM
I was thinking about the venus sq pluto thing, now its got me wondering... I do have Venus sq Pluto in Natal and also Pluto in H7.. I never really dated anyone my age.. Most of relationships have been with guys 3 to 6 years older than me. Even though my relationships are highly pluto, its usually my pluto thats aspected not their's (their pluto in virgo) I wonder if for what ever reason I dont like someone else's Pluto and maybe I am only comfortable with mine...
Im going to look into that..
BTW.... Majority of the men I date have Aqua Mars opps mine...
I think its because of Uranus in H7... IDK..
I actually like Aqua Mars.. 
I dont really jive with the looks of Cap Asc.. To skinny for men...
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Delilah
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posted March 13, 2012 12:06 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
haha i have moon opposition pluto -_-
Lol. I know how this sounds after writing all of that, but nothing's written in stone. Aspects play out differently for everyone. Using this guy as a case study, he has Pluto in between his Juno and Karma which can make him more intense or unable to see when it's time to walk away. His relationships can be highly karmic. You have to look at the other aspects to see how intense your Moon-Pluto opposition can be. I know of a guy who has the square and all he attracts are complete wack jobs. The crazy always comes out after they've had sex. To these women it meant the consummation of a relationship. To him it was just seeing if they were sexually compatible and nothing more or less than satisfaction.
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Delilah
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posted March 13, 2012 12:25 AM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
I was thinking about the venus sq pluto thing, now its got me wondering... I do have Venus sq Pluto in Natal and also Pluto in H7.. I never really dated anyone my age.. Most of relationships have been with guys 3 to 6 years older than me. Even though my relationships are highly pluto, its usually my pluto thats aspected not their's (their pluto in virgo) I wonder if for what ever reason I dont like someone else's Pluto and maybe I am only comfortable with mine...
Im going to look into that..
BTW.... Majority of the men I date have Aqua Mars opps mine...
I think its because of Uranus in H7... IDK..
I actually like Aqua Mars..
I dont really jive with the looks of Cap Asc.. To skinny for men...
Well, that theory's out the window. Lol. My own Mars is in Virgo and I don't like Pisces Mars. Would love to meet a late degree Taurus Mars so that it's in my 5H. Cap Rising men aren't so bad. Paul Newman was a Cap Rising and I'd give anything for a day alone with a man who looks like him. We don't even have to talk.  I get the Venus-Pluto part, but who pursued who in your relationships? Did you enjoy being the more intense one or was it the opposite? Like Aquaguy said, we can take on the roles of the other's planet(s). IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 13, 2012 12:28 AM
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Originally posted by Delilah:
Lol. I know how this sounds after writing all of that, but nothing's written in stone. Aspects play out differently for everyone. Using this guy as a case study, he has Pluto in between his Juno and Karma which can make him more intense or unable to see when it's time to walk away. His relationships can be highly karmic. You have to look at the other aspects to see how intense your Moon-Pluto opposition can be. I know of a guy who has the square and all he attracts are complete wack jobs. The crazy always comes out after they've had sex. To these women it meant the consummation of a relationship. To him it was just seeing if they were sexually compatible and nothing more or less than satisfaction.
it just resonated with me, my taurus moon opposes scorpio pluto,both squaring my aquarius venus,being as all these are fixed placements it can be extremely hard to walk away,and as you said i seem to find or attract unstable women. also my venus has alot other hard aspects to it,i almost feel like a healthy relationship is impossible for me,in fact i have completely quit pursuing them . IP: Logged |
SaggiMC
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posted March 13, 2012 02:10 PM
Lioness from AW? LOL this should be in PR form nonetheless.can you repost the syn biwheel AND synastry grid, reducing the orbs down to 40% please? Basic astrology forum, How to approach Synastry http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum12/private-jjLYZw161/HTML/000667.html
To enter this forum you need an extra password – (astrology) Please remember to reduce the orb ratio down to 40% (ONLY for synastry bi wheel) as the max orb between planets is 3'. Composite should be 85% orbs. Please also include, vertex, juno and POF (part of fortune) when you get this SYNASTRY chart, please also post the *pdf file*, above left of chart look for *view additional tables (PDF)* This will bring up 2pages. Scroll down to last page for the *aspect grid* THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT AS IT SEEMS TO SHOW MORE ASPECTS THAN IS VISIBLE ON THE BI WHEEL… problem is uploading to photobucket (or imageshack) you have to change this from Abode format into a picture/jpeg format. This is done by getting the relevant page/grid in front of you on screen then, the press ‘prtsc sysrq’ - top row inbetween pause break and F12. This has been copied to clipboard. Paste into Paint or some other photo software. Crop the picture and save to hard drive, then upload to photobucket, select chart, press IMG and past link into thread.... all done 
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SaggiMC
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posted March 13, 2012 02:12 PM
spotted it Vertex conj moonBasic astrology forum, Vertex in synastry & natal http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum12/private-jjLYZw161/HTML/000692.html
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scrappydog
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posted March 13, 2012 06:38 PM
I definately agree about taking on the roles of other planets in synastry. The two individual natal charts really matter in how an aspect will be felt and worked out. I had my venus conjunct my x husband's pluto and I was the jealous, obsessive, controling one and he was not at all. Currently my pluto is squaring my new boyfriends venus and while it is mutually intense he seems more engaged than even me and Im plutonian natally. IP: Logged |
ariesdragon
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posted March 13, 2012 06:41 PM
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Originally posted by scrappydog:
I definately agree about taking on the roles of other planets in synastry. The two individual natal charts really matter in how an aspect will be felt and worked out. I had my venus conjunct my x husband's pluto and I was the jealous, obsessive, controling one and he was not at all. Currently my pluto is squaring my new boyfriends venus and while it is mutually intense he
seems more engaged than even me and Im plutonian natally.
You like the hot fiery Venus/Pluto aspects don't cha?
Lmao 
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ariesdragon
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posted March 13, 2012 06:43 PM
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Originally posted by SaggiMC:
spotted it Vertex conj moonBasic astrology forum, Vertex in synastry & natal http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum12/private-jjLYZw161/HTML/000692.html
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astrology…. All that intense scorpio all squaring your Leo planets, not great..
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Lioness
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posted March 13, 2012 08:10 PM
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Originally posted by SaggiMC:
spotted it Vertex conj moonBasic astrology forum, Vertex in synastry & natal http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum12/private-jjLYZw161/HTML/000692.html
To enter this forum you need an extra password – astrology…. All that intense scorpio all squaring your Leo planets, not great..
Yeah I guess he's feeling his vertex being activated.
I dont feel any type of bond or special connection.. I do know he has a lot of scorpio. I dont really see him as intense at all...
I find him very humm drum and he's boring.
Not to sound mean...
He just doesnt have any type of effect on me.
I dont dislike it.. but I dont like him.
We have had some great conversations. And when we are with friends all of us have a blast.. But alone.. Euhh... Boring... Also my SUn,Moon,Mercury are on his South Node. IP: Logged |
scrappydog
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posted March 13, 2012 08:39 PM
I CANT GET ENOUGH!!! Lol!IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted March 13, 2012 08:43 PM
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Originally posted by scrappydog:
I CANT GET ENOUGH!!! Lol!
LOL... Why cause I said he's boring? He's not fun at all 
Not exciting... I gotta have exciting, and fun.. Lioness doesnt do boring! IP: Logged |
FireWire
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posted March 13, 2012 08:58 PM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
LOL... Why cause I said he's boring? He's not fun at all
Not exciting... I gotta have exciting, and fun.. Lioness doesnt do boring!
One of many Lion who LOVE to play in water (LOL)... IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted March 13, 2012 09:21 PM
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Ceridwen
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posted March 14, 2012 02:47 AM
Lioness,your Moon seems to have no tight aspects to any of his personal planets or ASC.
Except for the conjunction to his Vertex, but I guess he feels that more strongly than you. it is HIS axis of fate after all.
Moon rules your 5th house, and I have often found that if the 5th house ruler is unaspected in synastry, that the person with the unaspected 5th house ruler just don´t feel the "spark" or "chemistry".
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Lioness
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posted March 14, 2012 09:01 PM
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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
Lioness,your Moon seems to have no tight aspects to any of his personal planets or ASC.
Except for the conjunction to his Vertex, but I guess he feels that more strongly than you. it is HIS axis of fate after all.
Moon rules your 5th house, and I have often found that if the 5th house ruler is unaspected in synastry, that the person with the unaspected 5th house ruler just don´t feel the "spark" or "chemistry".
Thanks that makes sense IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted March 14, 2012 09:22 PM
What Ceridwen said, and to add to that you 7H ruler is Merc and I don't see him making any tight aspects to that. So no close aspects to your 5H ruler or your 7H rulers usually makes wanting a person not easy. Also the I don't see much in connection to the rulers of your (both of you) 2H to 8H.IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted March 14, 2012 09:39 PM
Cool.. Thanks.. So on a learning perspective. Even though we have planets in each others H8, the actual rulers of both H8 need to be aspected to feel the bond? Also I was looking at the composite and it has Mars conjunct Saturn..
Burrrrrrr
maybe thats why its boring...
MArs/Saturn yuck
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