posted March 27, 2012 06:50 PM            

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Originally posted by bluegreyeyes:
I'm an aqua that is the therapist for my family and friends. Even if I don't know SQUAT about the subject at hand (long term relationships, mental health, career), I'll get calls at all hours when people are looking to vent. I wouldn't say I suck at 1:1 interactions but I will say that I am not someone who likes to sugar coat or listen to people complain without action. I address problems by trying to find a solution. And, I always think of the problem as a whole, rather than specific to the person at hand. My brain just works better thinking of the bigger picture.

If my best friend tells me she's struggling with her weight, I don't tell her she's gorgeous just the way she is. I don't tell her society's view of weight is skewed. Instead, I think about her wanting to lose weight.I think "Ok, so how do PEOPLE lose weight?", as a very general problem. Then I'll offer her advice:
"You should think about working out more!
You should buy healthy food & cook it at home!
Stop going out to happy hour so much!
Have you considered going to a dietician? What about a trainer?"
Then she'll tell me she's too busy too workout b/c she's juggling work & school. She'll say buying groceries in NYC is as expensive as eating out. Plus she can't cook. She goes to happy hour to socialize & get dates, it's a necessary evil. She'll tell me she doesn't have money to hire a dietician. So as an aqua I really don't take into consideration the details of the individual, I just focus on the problem as a whole...if that makes sense!

So I don't necessarily think it's a matter of aquas sucking at 1:1 interactions b/c they don't care about the person at hand, but rather aquas find it easier to find a "fix" if we think of problems as a whole.

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This.

And it's been my experience that a lot of people will get mad at aqua's for trying to help hem find a way out. They don't want to change their situation, they want to complain and expect you to listen to them, which we'll do up to a certain point, but eventually it gets on our nerves, especially when they get defensive about any suggestion to help them out of their predicament.

posted March 27, 2012 06:55 PM            

PS This does not apply to Aqua Mars and Venus which I like.

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posted March 27, 2012 06:59 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
My limited experience with Aqua Suns is that they have grandiose plans for the world far away but do not know what to do with a warm embrace in the here and now

PS This does not apply to Aqua Mars and Venus which I like.

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posted March 28, 2012 06:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
My limited experience with Aqua Suns is that they have grandiose plans for the world far away but do not know what to do with a warm embrace in the here and now

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I totally disagree. Always have to start with the man in the mirror.
If anything the main problem is we have too much foresight. I can say to someone, look, if you do this and that then here's what's going to happen, and that's going to make you very unhappy. People don't appreciate that kind of honesty, especially when they were hoping for the opposite answer. I always say, if all you wanted was a gentle nudge and not the whole picture then don't ask me. But then that might be my Sagg mars talking.

posted March 28, 2012 08:44 AM            

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Originally posted by Wild-flower:
Hmm I'm totally not getting it about the emotional thing. Maybe it's cos I have moon conjunct ascendant, and a Pisces one at that. Always believed it was good for ones health, a good cry. Now what I do hate is people applying for the "sympathy vote"

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Pisces Moon conj the ASC would make you lead with your heart/emotions. It sounds like a lovely placement for the Pisces moon, to me!

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posted March 29, 2012 05:25 AM            

People will sometimes say they envy the way I can cut dry a relationship that isn't working for me. It doesn't mean I don't love the person or that I don't cry alone in my room but I feel I'm a great catch and deserve a hell of a lot more than a half --- relationship. My sag is the only man I've met that can tame me and probably ever will.

posted March 29, 2012 05:27 AM            

People will sometimes say they envy the way I can cut dry a relationship that isn't working for me. It doesn't mean I don't love the person or that I don't cry alone in my room but I feel I'm a great catch and deserve a hell of a lot more than a half --- relationship. My sag is the only man I've met that can tame me and probably ever will.

posted March 29, 2012 05:41 AM            

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Originally posted by laurenbabiiee7:
yes aqua guy suck theyre too detached, they talk about their interests too much...n thennnnn they bore me. i use to reallllly dig aquariuses but now im just starting to think aqua guys r a joke. no offense to anybody here but one aqua guy in particular like had a whole novel memorized of what he was going to say to each girl he wanted to get with the same **** over n over agai and always mentioned his highschool gf that cheated on him..prob to make girls feel bad for him w.e it was. then the other ones just cant commit and thats friggin annoying like dont be such a pussy or there too clingy..im starting to think therapy shuld be aquariuses best friend

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posted March 29, 2012 10:44 AM            

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Originally posted by hippichick:
In my opinion and experience with lots (and I do mean lots) of Aqua suns, they dont suck at 1:1 interactions, they become uncomfortable in situations of "emotions" can not be bothered, so to speak.

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I think this is a good point. I will say that I have met some Aquas (including my darling sister) who are so allergic to other people's emotions that even the slightest mention makes them clam up. That is not the problem of the person being "emotional," IMO. Emotions are a part of every day life and interaction, and it's unrealistic to expect otherwise. Doesn't mean you have to involve yourself intimately in every single emotional problem you come across, but a basic inability to acknowledge other people's emotions is a problem.

posted March 29, 2012 11:12 AM            

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Originally posted by Wild-flower:
I totally disagree. Always have to start with the man in the mirror.
If anything the main problem is we have too much foresight. I can say to someone, look, if you do this and that then here's what's going to happen, and that's going to make you very unhappy. People don't appreciate that kind of honesty, especially when they were hoping for the opposite answer. I always say, if all you wanted was a gentle nudge and not the whole picture then don't ask me. But then that might be my Sagg mars talking.

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Totally agree w/this.

Aquas are honest to the core, I think many like to think in the abstract rather that the personal/emotional/details -- that's the way I solve problems. We're not known for diplomacy but not b/c we don't care or are heartless, it's b/c our minds are more pragmatic. And I agree, I'm not a person that will coddle you if you are complaining, I encourage action... I rarely support excuses.

posted March 29, 2012 04:50 PM            

And I'm noticing a pattern here: a lot of you guys seem to have either Sagittarius influences in your chart or influential Sags in your life. Seems like a good match: both signs are freedom-loving and often honest--always exceptions, of course, but very generally speaking, a lot seem to be that way.

I know a Sag moon to whom honesty is very important; one of the nicest things about talking to this person is that (a) the person is NOT easily offended and (b) you can pretty much say anything to this person, and this person will tell it to you straight."

***Agreed. I think often times other signs are annoyed with us because no matter how close we get to a person friend or lover we can't be tied down. We still have our own lives and opinions. And most importantly we're stubborn as hell and as soon as you try to push your moral views on us we rebel and still do it with a smile while cutting those we don't mesh with completely out of our lives....yet still add them as friends on fb. Lol true story.

posted March 29, 2012 10:58 PM            

Aquarius can be delightful, and will shock you with the odd sweet things they do. Personally, I think there's a lot of ice floating through those veins. The cost to entertain and hold their interest takes too much out of me, and the return hasn't been that good.

Those with the #1 anywhere in their birthdate ( 1st, 10th, 11th - 19th & 1 lifepath) have been the trickiest.

One of the biggest issues I've had with them is how nasty they get when you back them into a corner intellectually. Or stubbornly holding on to an argument which was resoundingly thrashed just to irritate you.

posted March 29, 2012 11:26 PM            

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Originally posted by freebrainstorms:
I agree with everything you just said, I just didn't want to re-quote it because it was long.

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Same LOL! Sagittarians just understand us in this implicit way that other signs just don't. At least this is true of the men.