posted March 30, 2012 07:01 AM            

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posted March 30, 2012 07:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
It is awesome how we all help each other. We are a family. It is a rare occasion that someone is so disruptive they must leave. We seem to be able to help each other as we have been doing here. All families have disagreements. It is not the end of the world but a chance for growth.

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Agreed!

Peace out, guys

posted March 30, 2012 08:31 AM            

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Originally posted by SmilingHeart:
Mods, please stop telling me to ignore things. This needs to be taken care of because there are new threads coming up related to this issue again and again. Please just end this by removing my account. I don't want to drive athenegoddess from the boards.

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Ignore isn't the right word, but it works in most circumstances.

I haven't been here long, but I would hate to see you (or athenegoddess) go. Because you both have been super nice to me.

Instead of ignoring... face it, but face it within yourself. When you get agitated by something that someone says (and I'm not just talking to you)... recognize that you're agitated. Then look again at what they said and force yourself to think of it in a different way. They could have just been being funny, or honestly trying to be helpful, or maybe they're having a bad day. Maybe you took it the wrong way.

Even if they did mean it to be negative, you don't know. And it doesn't really matter. If you take it as negative, then you will only receive negative. But if you can flip it to be positive, regardless of their intent, then you will only receive positive.

In a way that is ignoring it, but it does so in a way that is beneficial to you. It might make you naive to blatant negativism, but as long as you still get that agitation it won't make you blindly so.

I don't know if that's good advice or not, but it's something that I try to live by.

posted March 30, 2012 08:37 AM            

When someone is obviously trolling, I mean the HURRY UP DELETE THIS SLAVE type of poster, what are we accomplishing by having it as a policy to ignore that?

That's not Randall's policy. So we should be mindful of how Randall actually wants things handled, since it's his forum.

posted March 30, 2012 08:56 AM            

Often, people WANT you to fight so you can get them back more if you walk away

IF someone insults you with a slur or a swear or outright rudeness, Randall will give them a warning or ban them.

That is what I mean by ignore.

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posted March 30, 2012 09:11 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
This is what I personally mean by ignore. If someone says that all Venus in Geminis will cheat. I can say that I am a Venus in Gemini and don't. Then, I can walk away. The other option is to fight to the death with a voice on the computer which I have done countless times so you don't think I am a virgin in the whole thing
Sometimes, people will intentionally bait you. They may say something like people who believe a certain way are morons. I get that quite a bit as a Christian. Then, I may answer once but I should walk away. What is my option? Start a big brawl?

Often, people WANT you to fight so you can get them back more if you walk away

IF someone insults you with a slur or a swear or outright rudeness, Randall will give them a warning or ban them.

That is what I mean by ignore.

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posted March 30, 2012 09:23 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
This is what I personally mean by ignore. If someone says that all Venus in Geminis will cheat. I can say that I am a Venus in Gemini and don't. Then, I can walk away. The other option is to fight to the death with a voice on the computer which I have done countless times so you don't think I am a virgin
Sometimes, people will intentionally bait you. They may say something like people who believe a certain way are morons. I get that quite a bit as a Christian. Then, I may answer once but I should walk away. What is my option? Start a big brawl?

Often, people WANT you to fight so you can get them back more if you walk away

IF someone insults you with a slur or a swear or outright rudeness, Randall will give them a warning or ban them.

That is what I mean by ignore.

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posted March 30, 2012 10:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
This is what I personally mean by ignore. If someone says that all Venus in Geminis will cheat. I can say that I am a Venus in Gemini and don't. Then, I can walk away. The other option is to fight to the death with a voice on the computer which I have done countless times so you don't think I am a virgin
Sometimes, people will intentionally bait you. They may say something like people who believe a certain way are morons. I get that quite a bit as a Christian. Then, I may answer once but I should walk away. What is my option? Start a big brawl?

Often, people WANT you to fight so you can get them back more if you walk away

IF someone insults you with a slur or a swear or outright rudeness, Randall will give them a warning or ban them.

That is what I mean by ignore.

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posted March 30, 2012 10:17 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i agree,i see the behavior all the time as far as the venus in gemini example you used,i have seen people get offended by certain negative stereotypes of their signs,but what some dont think about is how there are good and bad of each sign,for example as you know i am an aquarius and i have seen numerous threads on here and other sites talking unkindly about aqua men being cold and commitment phobes but i dont take offense i just assume that they have met some unevolved aqua men.

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well-put

Me, if I see an anti-Libra thread, I try to explain us the best that I can, as tactfully as possible. If someone is just outright obstinate and hateful, though, there's no point in anything other than saying your peace once, like Ami pointed out, and moving on.

posted March 30, 2012 10:37 AM            

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=plx5HLi7HHs

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posted March 30, 2012 10:52 AM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
well-put

Me, if I see an anti-Libra thread, I try to explain us the best that I can, as tactfully as possible. If someone is just outright obstinate and hateful, though, there's no point in anything other than saying your peace once, like Ami pointed out, and moving on.

Obviously I'm not perfect and I mess up sometimes, but I do think that you and Ami have a good way of looking at this.

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