posted April 27, 2012 11:17 AM            

I think putting too much pressure on unmarried people to stay in relationships out of loyalty is just crazy. No wonder the divorce rate is so high, if you can't have the flexibility to move from one relationship to the next without causing some kind of scandal.

posted April 27, 2012 11:24 AM            

There is a certain decorum for men. Basically, don't encroach on another guy's territory. It's uncool.

Of course, it's the woman's perrogative to choose whomever she wants to be with.

posted April 27, 2012 01:46 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
It's a figure of speech. Let's not take everything literally. This is coming from a Capricorn, so you can see the irony.

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I realize that. Basically what I am trying to say is, it is not something that should be looked at as extreme d-bag behavior...it is ridiculous...

posted April 27, 2012 01:50 PM            

This male mind thinks differently, but I don't speak for all men.

On the other hand, I would be confident enough that my companion wouldn't even take something like that under consideration, so the joke is on the guy trying.

posted April 27, 2012 02:13 PM            

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Glad you think so.

This male mind thinks differently, but I don't speak for all men.

On the other hand, I would be confident enough that my companion wouldn't even take something like that under consideration, so the joke is on the guy trying.

Best wishes to you.

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posted April 27, 2012 03:55 PM            

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Originally posted by beenylove:
May I know your planetary placements? You seem to be a heavy cappy, and more outwardly romantic than most cappies I know...

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Sure. Be advised I use Whole Houses for simplicity.

11th House Capricorn Sun (10th/11th), Mercury and Mars
3rd/4th House Gemini Moon
Pisces ASC
2nd House Aries Jupiter
7th House Virgo Pluto and Uranus
9th House Scorpio Nepttune
12th House Aquarius Venus and Saturn
5th House North Node in Cancer

In Placidus, my Sun is in the 10th House and my Moon is in the 3rd House.

posted April 27, 2012 05:52 PM            

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Sure. Be advised I use Whole Houses for simplicity.

11th House Capricorn Sun (10th/11th), Mercury and Mars
3rd/4th House Gemini Moon
Pisces ASC
2nd House Aries Jupiter
7th House Virgo Pluto and Uranus
9th House Scorpio Nepttune
12th House Aquarius Venus and Saturn
5th House North Node in Cancer

In Placidus, my Sun is in the 10th House and my Moon is in the 3rd House.

Yes, I am highly expressive and communicative as a Capricorn, but only when it comes to love and business.

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That is a whole lotta capricorn!! Are you a high-powered attorney? A high end businessman? Wall Street Guy?

posted April 27, 2012 08:20 PM            

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That is a whole lotta capricorn!! Are you a high-powered attorney? A high end businessman? Wall Street Guy?

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posted April 28, 2012 05:17 AM            

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Yes. I'm in the finance industry. Banker: corporate finance, not securities. How can you tell?

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Nice. I just had this feeling...Especially with all that cappy And sun in the 10th house...my sun is in the 10th house so I personally have experienced the benefits of that placement...

posted April 28, 2012 08:45 AM            

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Nice. I just had this feeling...Especially with all that cappy And sun in the 10th house...my sun is in the 10th house so I personally have experienced the benefits of that placement...

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posted April 28, 2012 08:48 AM            

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So, this begs the question: what is your profession?

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posted April 28, 2012 09:30 AM            

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I am finishing up my college degree and I will be entering medical school in the fall So excited!

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Awesome! .

posted April 28, 2012 09:40 AM            

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Awesome! .

Once upon a time, I had much enthusiasm for school, but that was a long time ago.

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posted April 28, 2012 11:00 AM            

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Are you attending Columbia P&S or NYU?

I had two college girlfriends who became physicians, and another who studied medical sciences. One studied at Harvard and now does cardiac transplants at Mass General. Another studied at Johns Hopkins and does pediatric internal medicine in the Chicago area. The third remained at Columbia, where she got her PhD plus MD and works for big pharma at Pfizer.

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That is a pretty impressive girlfriend resume you got there! Columbia! I am assuming you went to Columbia for undergrad?

posted April 28, 2012 11:07 AM            

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That is a pretty impressive girlfriend resume you got there! Columbia! I am assuming you went to Columbia for undergrad?

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posted April 28, 2012 12:33 PM            

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And grad school, and business school, and intl. affairs school. Yeah, masters times three. So you understand why I've had just about enough of school. . But I have a son who is college bound soon. . And my first choice for him isn't Columbia.

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posted April 28, 2012 02:28 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Beenylove,

I'm out with the family but I'll get back to you later with answers to your complex question. . Meanwhile, here is my chart.
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum28/HTML/000929.html

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Wonderful!! Thanks! Read the comments about your charts. That is so amazing!

posted April 28, 2012 08:59 PM            

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How do you act when in love? Are you someone who shows love mostly through providing? Do you feel this intense, passionate love or is it more of a grounded and lasting love? Do you show affection in public? Also I am interested in how you pursue a woman..the courting process and all. Thanks!

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OK Beenylove,

First of all, I speak only for myself and can only relay my experience and thought process. I'm not sure how transferrable this is to other Capricorns.

I'm going to break this down into three parts: (1) courtship, (2) as a boyfriend in college, and (3) as a husband. I've definitely been different at each stage of my life.

Courtship was definitely more business-like for me. An expression of interest was conveyed, and if there was less than enthusiastic reciprocal interest, I would just walk away. Some girls like to play "hard to get" and I was never in tune with the mind games. I would cordially withdraw interest and those girls would be puzzled. I never exhibited the passionate chase, leaving the Shakespearean acts to others.

As a boyfriend, love grew increasingly passionate. Feelings were often verbally and physically expressed, with increasing vigor over time. I would write original poetry when creating my own greeting cards.

With rare exception, most of my girlfriends were very well to do, with many far better off than I was, so there wasn't anything material that I had to supply to win love, and neither do I impress any of them with anything material.

I expressed love in other ways, and many of them were practical based: do their grocery shopping, cook meals for time, especially during tense exam periods, clean their apartments (they did the same for me, so I wasn't their maid!), do their laundry and fold their clothes neatly, summarize notes for exams, make photocopies, organize their study agenda, etc.

Other than that, we did the usual fun things that couples would do. We took vacations abroad, drove like maniacs, even attended weddings. The common understanding was that we wouldn't be this dedicated to each other unless there was to be the overaching objective of marriage at the end. Yes, affection was displayed in public, although conservative people tend to exercise polite restraint. Would I kiss my girlfriend on the street corner? Yes. But I wouldn't "go for it," unlike some guys who would fondle their girlfriends all over in a public display of lewd lust.

The current cardiac transplant surgeon and I had a unique relationship of almost that of a married couple. We never moved in together, but we went a couple of steps further than that. We established a Limited Liability Corporation and had a joint bank account to fund market investments. Thanks to the level of her market savvy, we made a ton of money, which funded her entire medical school tuition.

The current pediatrician was somewhat more laid back and we had humorous times taking a lot of the same classes. One of us would attend and share notes with the other. When we were busy, one of us would write both term papers, etc. I did all I could to get her every "A" she needed to get into Johns Hopkins.

Unfortunately, there was always something preventing marriage. At that time, my mindset was that I wanted to win over the future in-laws, and that was an impossible task.

First of all, I'm Chinese. My girlfriends were almost all Caucasian. I did have an African (no, not African American) girl, a Latin girl and one Chinese girl (which was a total disaster).

Anyway, I was either: no White, not Catholic, not Jewish, not rich enough, not a doctor (lol).. etc etc.

And then I shift to being a husband. Love is intense and passionate upfront, but there is a gradual shift to the lasting type of love. About every five years, there's this resurgence of intensity as though we just met. The passion is constant thanks to her libido. I'm the one that most often have had enough, but she demands passion daily. Enough said.

Naturally, being a husband and father means being a provider of material stuff, emotional strength and overall security of well being. That's what Capricorns do best.

posted April 29, 2012 09:50 AM            

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Thank you so much for your wonderful answer. Are you generous with your money when it comes to your family? Are you the type of who believes in buying only the best things, or are you not so concerned about the quality of material things that they get? Were you also okay with a girlfriend who wasn't sexual with you immediately? (As in she took a at least five months.) Did you ever exhibit any reticent behavior with a woman that you were dating, at least for the first few months?

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I give the best I can afford to my family. Both sons ride horses. My elder son plays music on instruments costing more than cars. My wife has a shoe closet .. Nothing but her shoes. I tend not to spend on myself.

I buy only high quality and what's reliable. Not everything expensive is of high quality, but my family has strong old school conservative brand preferences (eg. Mercedes, Rolex, etc). That doesn't mean I don't like shopping at Wal Mart or Target got bargains.

When in love, I'm strangely indifferent to sex. I married my wife without having sex. We even slept in the same bed for two months and didn't touch each other. On the other hand, she found her life's mission as a nymph after marriage and outright demands it sometimes multiple times daily. For the girlfriends who were virgins, I never touched them. On the other hand, the cardiac surgeon's first date at the art museum suddenly turned lustful in the presence of a Renoir and we adjourned for steamy action. Lol

I would never be reticent with a woman I'm dating because I would have already done my vetting. Instead, I would be reticent about dating women. The pretty drunkards with miniskirts were struck off my list. Therefore, I tend to be left with the brainy, confident but pretty ones who went to church or synagogue growing up (ie, they wouldn't be part of Occupy Wall Street). I have had a couple of bad dates in my life, but I'm usually right with my intuition. I would never date a woman a third time without her having potential to be my future wife. Scary but true.