posted May 04, 2012 01:54 PM            

j Aspect jj j Orb/Value Sun Square Venus 0.39 -285 Sun Square Uranus 1.55 -121 Moon Conjunction Sun 2.41 390 Mercury Trine Jupiter 3.52 55 Mercury Sextile Ascendant 1.14 74 Venus Conjunction Mars 4.14 102 Venus Square Pluto 0.37 -103 Mars Sextile Mercury 0.20 110 Mars Square Mars 1.08 -130 Mars Conjunction Pluto 4.46 56 Jupiter Opposition Moon 1.39 -95 Saturn Square Mars 1.40 -96 Saturn Sextile Neptune 0.37 51 Saturn Conjunction Pluto 1.58 76 Uranus Conjunction Venus 4.12 77 Uranus Conjunction Ascendant 1.11 101 Neptune Conjunction Sun 0.05 159 Neptune Conjunction Neptune 4.04 53 Pluto Sextile Sun 0.06 85 Pluto Conjunction Pluto 2.54 57 1446 -830 616

He's a sag sun taurus moon 12/18/1980 6:13am Bham, Al
Me an aqua sun sag moon 2/18/1982 9:21am Bham, Al

posted May 04, 2012 03:13 PM            

The possibility of the problem persisting is strong.

Your attraction appears to be strong - Your M conjunct his S, his MR conjunct your VE, and his VE conjunct your UR.

posted May 04, 2012 08:34 PM            

In order to make this work and to stop arguing - there is some kind of inner conflict you have to get past. I'm saying this, because he is directly triggering your Venus/Mars square.
One problem is that he does not conform to your Libra Mars ideals. He is not diplomatic enough, intellectual enough, reasonable enough and so on.. (from your perspective).
In many Venus conj Mars relationships.. the Venus might see Mars as a bull in a China shop.. so fights are likely.
But in your case - you also have Mars square Mars and Mars/Pluto DW which can make things even more intense - for better or worse.

You are both naturally aggressive. This is only amplified when you are together. The difference is that your aggression is in control.. and it is mostly there on a verbal level.. whereas his aggression (Mars square Pluto) - can be out of control... and sometimes physical (Earth Mars).

And since we're on the subject of *him* - he also has his own inner problems to deal with.
This can be *difficult* for both of you. There are things in your past that you both - cannot open up about or heal... and sometimes, you are reacting to each other on auto-pilot, almost as though you were arguing with *others* (possibly parents or people in authority) who hurt you in the past.
There is a lot of projection happening.

I think you do care about each other - very genuinely. And it would break your hearts to split.

But making it work is going to require BOTH of you *trying* to make it work. If he is not into astrology/psychology like you are.. and he cannot be self-analytical.. so you cannot find a way to resolve these issues... then I don't think this is going to work out.
It would be a shame because, as I said your are clearly in love. It is not an easy situation though.

You both need to 'back off'.. In most situations - you just need to take some time to chill and then try to discuss things calmly. It would also be helpful for you to get some counselling together (if he is up for this).
Because it would be good to have a middle person - who can see things from a more reasonable perspective and help you understand what is really going on.

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Cap Moon-Pisces Merc-Taurus Venus-Cap Mars conj Neptune-Pisces Jupiter.

posted May 04, 2012 09:06 PM            

There is an underlining conflict going on. With him he's experienced horrible physical abuse at the hands of his father which he's opened up about but of course there is still more he hasn't opened up about.

In my situation I had issues with my father as a kid as well. He was a womanizer while married to my mom and I carried deep seeded anger from that with me throughout my life. So yes our arguments do seem as if we're arguing at our parents instead of eachother.

To be honest I'm more of the aggressive one. He's more of the one backing out and has never resulted to violence. And not conforming to my Mars Libra....absolutely! He is so stuck in his ways that sometimes it drives me up the wall.

I do believe astrology would be a good outlet for him as well I'll just have to slowly introduce to him. I'm definitely going to work on backing off when I see the situation getting out of hand because sometimes he tries to rectify it but once I get started my mind goes blank and I'm hurling insults like crazy which only in the end make me cry and come back with my tail between my legs because I hate hurting him. And once again he opens his arms and let me in.