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love being Aries
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posted May 18, 2012 06:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for love being Aries     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This post is going to be a long one but I need some opinion.

This guy has been liking me for about 3-4 years. He expressed it only last year. so I asked for some time because I was not sure I wanted a relationship. we were getting closer etc but I could feel I was not that interested, no surges of the new love etc. For an Aries its very important to feel the excitement of NEW otherwise its not new. one day he scared me off, he was being so sensitive, i realized he was getting deeply involved while I was not even feeling it yet so I all of sudden broke contact with him. he kept ringing, reminded me of my promises etc everyhing,( man I'm too cruel).After a month another guy came in my life. This encounter was intense. It lasted 5 weeks but it got me over my ex (with whom i broke up 2.5years ago). during that time I contacted this guy in question and apologised for my misbehavior etc. After that its been a stupid kind of thing where we cannot get away from each other neither can we stay together. He is a very fixed guy I know, he loves me cares for me I know that too. I was just terrified of hurting him again but I could not let him go too.
Three days before venus retro I said to him I wanted to remain his friend (he had expressed his love again) and he clarified for once and all that he doesn't think of me as a friend. he thinks about me everyday, he cannot date another woman because he's stuck at thought of me. This was the first time he was very very explicit, usually he's the nice, respectable kind of guy but for first time he was being explicit about what he wants. This was more like a shock. I didn't realize he was so deeply involved despite my efforts to keep it at a sane level.

So now, the day Venus turned retro, Tuesday, I'm feeling surges of the "new" and a strange affection, hope, I don't know what to call it. we have been texting/talking like we have been lovers for a long time and this time I'm perfectly ok with this. I actually am drawn to him. but my question remains

why am I drawn to him now? Does Venus Retro does that to you? Will this change after Venus goes forward? Because honestly I cannot fake my feelings so if my feelings change after Venus Retro is over, this is going to be a mess and I will, again, end up hurting him which I absolutely have no right to do.

P.S Venus Retro is conjunct my Natal Chiron right now and squaring my True Node, opposing Saturn and sextiling Sun.

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sc0rpioRising
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posted May 18, 2012 06:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sc0rpioRising     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was just reading about Venus retrograde yesterday, and from what I remember it can be about re-evaluating relationships, people form the past can come up again, eg exes. But he isnt your ex, but maybe Venus Retro is giving you a chance to see what you have missed out on? and now you have this wonderful opportunity to really get to know him! If I was in your position I would use this month to really take things verrrrrry sloowly, and really ask yourself if you want to be with him, how YOU really feel about him (venus retro is about answering these questions) and when you are giving yourself the honest answers, take it from there, and perosnally I wouldnt make any decisions until venus retro is over. You would have given yourself that thinking period and then you can clearly make a decision afterwards. Make it clear to him too that you are just thinking things through so you dont feel obliged in any kind of way to be with him!

Ok this was more like advice than astro advice .. but oh well.. hope I helped! I'll post a few links that I think you might find helpful later.

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posted May 18, 2012 12:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for love being Aries     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by sc0rpioRising:
I was just reading about Venus retrograde yesterday, and from what I remember it can be about re-evaluating relationships, people form the past can come up again, eg exes. But he isnt your ex, but maybe Venus Retro is giving you a chance to see what you have missed out on? and now you have this wonderful opportunity to really get to know him! If I was in your position I would use this month to really take things verrrrrry sloowly, and really ask yourself if you want to be with him, how YOU really feel about him (venus retro is about answering these questions) and when you are giving yourself the honest answers, take it from there, and perosnally I wouldnt make any decisions until venus retro is over. You would have given yourself that thinking period and then you can clearly make a decision afterwards. Make it clear to him too that you are just thinking things through so you dont feel obliged in any kind of way to be with him!

Ok this was more like advice than astro advice .. but oh well.. hope I helped! I'll post a few links that I think you might find helpful later.


Thank you Scorpio Rising. I have actually taken it VERYYYYY slowly and the exact same thing you said about no committments. Made it clear to him too. It was for last 3 months. But I'm amazed by these shift of feelings since Venus turned Retro or lets say since the Venus transiting conjunct my natal Venus on my b'day last month. I was furiously trying to reach him and trying to somehow make my way back in his life. but even then I was not SURE that I wanted him. But since the day Venus Turned Retro, I have shift of feelings. all of sudden I just know that he is the one. I'm just concerned if my feelings will change after Venus has gone forward. I'm scared actually, m scared for us.

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posted May 18, 2012 03:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sc0rpioRising     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by love being Aries:
Thank you Scorpio Rising. I have actually taken it VERYYYYY slowly and the exact same thing you said about no committments. Made it clear to him too. It was for last 3 months. But I'm amazed by these shift of feelings since Venus turned Retro or lets say since the Venus transiting conjunct my natal Venus on my b'day last month. I was furiously trying to reach him and trying to somehow make my way back in his life. but even then I was not SURE that I wanted him. But since the day Venus Turned Retro, I have shift of feelings. all of sudden I just know that he is the one. I'm just concerned if my feelings will change after Venus has gone forward. I'm scared actually, m scared for us.


Awww... I feel for you!! It's all so confusing right now only we are only a day in the retrograde!! Ok here's what to do... Try not to analyse everything and take it as it comes... Maybe you liked the attention this guy gives you.. That's why you started to like him when he was off the radar.. And now you are trying to get back into his life. I mean he has declared his love for you so many times, your reaction is natural..... But just because he likes you... Doesn't mean you should make yourself like him too.. On the other hand maybe you are seeing him in a different light and now are attracted to him in ways you weren't before? Maybe that is the retrogrades fault!! But give yourself the opportunity to be friends again and really get to know him.. And then with a clear head make your decision... What is you gut feeling, your intuition telling you?? Go with that feeling, in the meantime enjoy the company you give each other and go with the flow... But sloooowwwwwlllyyy!! Lol!

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posted May 18, 2012 04:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for IndigoDirae     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

As Venus RX is all for re-evaluation, considering what we might not have before, and re-examining, it makes perfect sense that this would 'pop up' again. I would advise more than anything that you consider it COULD be much like the way people can fall madly in love with each other when their progressed luminaries are tightly linked, along with Venus and Mars. Then, once those aspects end ... the relationship is rarely the same.

Venus RX is an unusual period. It does tend to have us thinking about the past. The time in which we look up those we haven't seen in ages. Beginning a 'new romance' does happen, but, frankly, this seems like a 'not romance'. In your 'clearer headed moments' you seem to've just about written him off. Trust your instincts.

Stay friends, or warm up to him, or whatever you like, but go with your feelings. And, also, consider that if you do have a romance now, under these conditions, it will more than likely be short-lived.

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love being Aries
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posted May 19, 2012 07:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for love being Aries     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you Scorpiorising and Indigodiare my gut feeling is good, i'm happy, i'm content. I'm liking him, I'm seeing things more clearly and with a higher dose of emotions than I have before. I'm just sacred of my feelings being changed and me ending up hurting him.

Thank you for your responses. I will update once the Venus retro is over.

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