posted May 27, 2012 02:51 PM            

As you all can guess, my sun sign is Cancer. My Venus is in Taurus and my Mars is in Virgo.

I am having feelings for someone I have known for the last one year through a mutual friend of mine.
We would chat online sometimes (maybe after a month or two, he would knock or I would knock). Just two weeks back, we were chatting online when suddenly we were becoming WAY too flirty with each other - apparently that led to a misunderstanding and it was getting pretty serious when he asked me for my number to clear it up.

He called me instantly and we continued the argument for like an hour or so. Later everything got okay and he suggested that maybe we should try to be better friends and get to know each other more.
Since that day, we have been communicating over online or text or the phone frequently. If not everyday, then at least after every 2/3 days. Being a cancer, that KILLS me! I suddenly feel SO drawn to him that I feel like talking to him every single day! (But well, that doesn't happen and I find myself waiting and waiting for the time when we will talk again). I know Cancer girls are very clingy and I try SO HARD to not be clingy.

Sometimes he acts a little detached. Sometimes he is friendly. Sometimes he is careless. Sometimes he is caring.
But we tease each other in a friendly and funny way often. We would flirt too at times. But not too much.

I just feel so happy when I am around him. With my emotional side always kicking in, he shows me the practical side of my dreams and somehow I feel inspired.

Problem is . . . he told me once that he is not interested in getting into any serious relationship in the next few years. Plus, we are just friends. The more I am getting to know him, a closer friend I am becoming to him (he told me that). And I know, probably I am stuck in the friendzone already.
We admitted to each other how we like each other's company. I just LOVE talking to him. And I am sure he likes talking to me too.

To my horror, in front of him I find myself opening up big time. I don't open up that easy. I found myself sharing some dreams of mine with him which I shared with no other friend. But often I feel like he is not opening up. Being a cancer, it is hard for me to open up too, but with him, it's like I REALLY want to open up, but I cannot cause he might not reciprocate. Then again, I have started to show some of my emotions (and I regret doing that - cause I am feeling what if it scared him off?)

What do I do? My feelings are growing every single day. I want more from him. But I cannot ask for it. I really want to take this to a next level (I know it has ONLY been two weeks and I sound like I am rushing too early). Sometimes I feel like I should just confess about my feelings, but that will not be a good idea. If I see he doesn't feel the same, it will apparently shatter me. Any suggestions?

You might tell me to wait. And yes, I am ready to wait. What bothers me is during this time period, he might have flings and who knows? He might serious with somebody else. I don't know . . . I am just . . . lovestruck.

posted May 29, 2012 09:21 AM            

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Originally posted by lulubunny:
Aww bless you sound all lovey dovey ! Beautiful feeling that well I find that Virgo and cancer are very compatible in lots of ways like because Virgo is practical and organised cancers usually like a sense of that and can relax around them instead of being overwhelmed by a more fiery character. And I think virgos like the caring and nurturing side to cancers and that can eventually help them to open up a lot more emotionally. From what I've seen they definitely like to please eachother and can there relationship will be quite sensual.. Anyways you have probably already attracted him and I'm sure he appreciates you opening up but yes it will take TIME for him to open up to you. Hope it all works out okay

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posted May 29, 2012 11:31 AM            

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Imagination is intelligence having fun.
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posted May 29, 2012 11:48 AM            

But they are genuinely nice people, usually.

And broadly speaking, I love Cancer with Virgo. One of my favorite match-ups for the whole year.

posted May 29, 2012 01:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Ugh...Virgo men! Too alluring!! And they CAN make you feel all cozy telling them your whole life story and feeling exposed and horrified afterwards.

But they are genuinely nice people, usually.

And broadly speaking, I love Cancer with Virgo. One of my favorite match-ups for the whole year.

I realize this doesn't answer any of your questions...I am just babbling.

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posted May 29, 2012 01:27 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
No, don't make the first move. I wouldn't recommend it. I think he already made it clear he didn't want a serious relationship. I'm sorry. :/ I think you're better off letting this one guy, especially since you're sensing he seems more detached than you.

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posted June 03, 2012 11:49 AM            

He's going to want to make sure that you being emotionally inclined isn't going to make you neglect the important stuff in life He's just practical like that.

posted June 03, 2012 11:58 AM            

One other thing that bothers me is that he has too many female friends! And often he gets involved in not-serious flings.

I just want to show him that I am NOT gonna fall in his trap like the other girls. I don't know how to do that though.

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Originally posted by Gracelives:
If a Virgo is talking to you this much then he's mentally sorting you out. You should let him make the first move while doing your own thing.

He's going to want to make sure that you being emotionally inclined isn't going to make you neglect the important stuff in life He's just practical like that.

Do your thing and take your time. He's paying attention so don't let his moodiness stop you from being happy during your daily activities.

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posted June 03, 2012 12:06 PM            

Do NOT approach and do side step the first offer (possibly the second if it comes too soon). Especially if you're seriously interested. Subtly make you're interest known but not up front and stay interested.

You'll get tested... just remain, even if you get thrown off a little, go back to the position you were before you got thrown off. The tests are to see how you will act in all sorts of different situations that could come up around him, emotionally and otherwise. Be honest with your reactions, because if you fail the tests, at least you'll know ahead of time that you wouldn't work well together.

Not sure how Mars Cancer would effect things though, so the advice may be bad.

All I know is, Sun Cancer doesn't always have the patience for the Sun Virgo/Venus Libra combo. They take awhile (we're talking years, not months), but it's worth it.