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sexyaqua30
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posted June 05, 2012 03:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sexyaqua30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This asc hates me, i'm almost sure of it. I'm a scatter brain i can't help it. So much so if i don't write a to do list it wont get done. Not only is my aqua sun scorp asc ex freezing me out so is my pisces sun scorp asc fwb is doing the same.

I sent the pisces a text today asking for his address so i can use him as a referrence on a job application (something he's done to me plenty of times). We've been really close for a couple of years when we both worked together. It was an instant attraction but we didn't act on it til we were both single and it was explosive but i just don't see him as more than just a fwb. He's 8 years younger than me and i feel like such a cougar because i've been intimate with him since be was 20. Starting to have such a strong attraction to younger men the older i get.

Anyways after i asked for the reference here was his reply "Hi aqua.....so great to hear from you..yea...i know you've been busy right...yea whatever.....sure just whenever you freaking feel like it...i'm here." Wth? I reply asking if he was being sarcastic. His response "Maybe." True we haven't talked in a month but hey in aqua heads one month is like a week.

I'm thinking where'd this come from last time we talked we had a great time. He let me hear a song he wrote for me and we laughed and talked as usual. Scorpio asc men always act as if they love my happy go lucky attitude and extreme need for space and independence but as soon as i display those things about me i get freezed out for as long as they see fit then they're back to their old selves and pretend their reaction was no big deal. His freeze usually last however long it was since i last contacted him so i'm looking at a month this go round. He knows my stubborn ass is not going to budge so bring on the cold. Proof air and water is dangerous mix.

I apologized for the big gap since our last encounter and said sorry i love ya buddy big hug. His reply........nothing. Fine brood all you want.

They always try to teach me some freaking lesson! His lesson....you didn't go out with me but had sex with me and left quickly even though i wrote you a song. Ummm....aren't fwb just that? Wham bam thank you mam. The whole point of that is to have the sex without the stress. Ugh...they make me rethink our last encounters everytime to discover why they're mad. I learned my lesson now quit with the stinger.

Scorpio asc people help me understand you all please. Why go the trouble of ignoring someone when you can just confront them sooner with what's bothering you?

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posted June 05, 2012 04:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm not a Scorpio ASC, but I do have a Scorpio Venus and Pluto, and am a Libra sun. Also have water elsewhere in my chart.

I personally HATE confrontation. And besides the bad feelings, I also feel like I would be creepy if someone was avoiding me and I asked them about it: even though that hurts a lot, I don't want to come off as stalker-ish or weird or obsessive, so I just don't say anything. If I am upset with someone, I tend to withdraw and avoid, especially if I feel like that's what they are doing--avoiding me. To me, when someone is avoiding you, what else can you do but avoid back? Avoiding someone sends the message that you don't want to be around them, so it would be very difficult for the person being avoided to say anything. I'm currently dealing with being avoided in my own life, so I can relate to your Scorp ASC friend's perspective.

I really do wish that there was a way that you could just approach a person when they've done/are doing something that bothers you that would result in improved relations, but that's a very tricky act to pull off. The other person has to really like you and be willing to work with you to make things better. You have to have a really good relationship with a lot of trust and security for that to really happen.

In addition, I myself tend to prioritize social relationships/people and am also pretty organized and on top of things. I respond to messages quickly most of the time, unless I'm feeling nervous about what the person might have said and feel anxious about opening a message, or if I just don't check them for awhile or if they go to a spam filter. Even then, though, I will apologize about not getting back/will explain that, and then will reply. I personally find it very irritating and in some cases hurtful when people do not respond. Not responding can be a signal that someone is avoiding you, so that might make a person feel like he/she can't talk to you: it might make them feel self-conscious about approaching you. In other cases, not responding can be seen as really rude: some people don't care about it, but others find it impolite to do that.

Also, water-influenced people really are sensitive. It's not a bad thing all of the time, and we can experience the emotional highs as well as the lows; we have a pretty big range there. However, one of the downsides is that we do feel hurt easily and in an intense way when we do feel hurt. At best, we can just try not to let it get to us and not take it too seriously, but we'll still feel that. And, too, water influence can create insecurity/amplify it, and sometimes water-influenced people seek a lot of reassurance. I know that I certainly do, and my Libra sun contributes to that too.

I'm also wondering if maybe he has developed feelings for you. This does tend to happen fairly often with FWB and it's not uncommon. It doesn't always happen, but it is one of the risks of having that kind of relationship with somebody.

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posted June 05, 2012 04:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Why go the trouble of ignoring someone when you can just confront them sooner with what's bothering you?

hmmm
When a watery person ignores you they are a sending you the message that something is wrong.... They are hoping you will pick up on the message and be sympathetic. It is kind of like a warning sign. You get a few warnings and then they disappear.

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posted June 05, 2012 05:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Odette:
hmmm
When a watery person ignores you they are a sending you the message that something is wrong.... They are hoping you will pick up on the message and be sympathetic. It is kind of like a warning sign. You get a few warnings and then they disappear.

Exactly.

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posted June 05, 2012 05:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RedScorp     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I'm not a Scorpio ASC, but I do have a Scorpio Venus and Pluto, and am a Libra sun. Also have water elsewhere in my chart.

I personally HATE confrontation.


Five point Scorpio + water house Mars and Pisces Saturn. I'm confrontational.

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You get a few warnings and then they disappear.

I do this too, though...

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posted June 05, 2012 05:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sexyaqua30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you for your response very enlightening. Reading all of this is so frustrating to me because this is what he does....(they do). A simple hey don't do that would snap someone like me back to reality and all is back to normal but the month long hibernation approach only annoys my taurus rising bullheadness and cause me to dig my heels further in the ground which causes neither of us to reach a resolution.

With water influenced men I feel I end up taking more of the masculine role towards them and sad to say I like that because I do like that feeling of reverse gender roles. I know it sounds crazy but because of the fact I hate to feel vulnerable I find solace in sensitive men. The only thing is when they seem to play the sort of game women play like ignoring to teach lessons and waiting for the other to somehow get what they're thinking I lose patience and shutdown. It always seem my scorp asc friends want more than just an apology and I'm the type if I apologize which I rarely do it means a hell of a lot so when that is not enough old stubborn comes seaping out then it's a battle of who can hold their breath the longest.

As far as feelings developing on his part I will say I believe there is some there on his part from the beginning because others at work noticed his liking for me. He made sure he gave me extra attention and boy did that possessive side come out when other co workers even those who weren't flirting even so much as said hello he was right there trying his hardest to divert the attention but if he couldn't he'd go completely silent or loudly talk of other girls who fancy him. My being taken didn't stop his pursuit either but once single he was on it.

The funny thing is being a aqua sun sag moon this attempt at making me jealous would go completely over my head and he would try even harder the next time. It's cute though but when I strictly see you as just sex my possessive radar is off and all I'm thinking is damn you're hot take your clothes off and I'll call you but when i love you in a romantic way you're my POSSESSION mind, body and soul and help the poor soul who thinks they can come and take you from me.

I will say the sex is...my goodness. The attraction is is ubber intense (just like with my ex) so strong that on many occassions when didn't even wait to get off work before we'd go at it. We'd go at it in the bathrooms....you name it. He give me that stare and say I want you lets go at it now. If i turned him down he'd say you know i'll get it either so stop playing with me. Wow....flashback. lol At friends houses....anywhere but he was always so adament on what it would be like to have me in his bed. He's even revealed to me once after a short break while he dated someone that he think something might be wrong with the woman he's with because when they have sex he has to think of me inorder to um...well...you get the point.

*i need a sip of water* lol whew

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posted June 05, 2012 05:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RedScorp     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^Damn, gurl

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posted June 05, 2012 06:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sexyaqua30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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^Damn, gurl


Lol ikr we risked losing very high ranking jobs for it. It's that damn powerful.

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posted June 05, 2012 09:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for InfernoAbyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a Scorpio Asc, Female. I personally have no patience for people who play on the surface of anything in life, etc. I do not like being blown off or "forgotten" about. Drives me up the wall.

Of course we are drawn to that lovely flair of independence. At First. It's a strong trait.

Scorp rising is intense and when interested in someone, we like to be the only thing on your mind. Constantly.

However, I do have Venus in Leo so that could be coloring how I feel..haha.

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posted June 06, 2012 04:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for IndigoDirae     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by sexyaqua30:
He's even revealed to me once after a short break while he dated someone that he think something might be wrong with the woman he's with because when they have sex he has to think of me inorder to um...well...you get the point.

I wonder this sometimes myself. That's obviously not something you just ask someone, after all. No matter if I'm the one with all the Scorp (and Libra) and he's got the Sag-Aqu. (But his chart ruler's Saturn in Scorpio, so he most definitely does the sudden outbursts of seemingly sarcastic emoting. The last one I recall being, 'if I cared enough to bother' to return his calls. Ouch.

-A.

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posted June 06, 2012 06:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by InfernoAbyss:
I'm a Scorpio Asc, Female. I personally have no patience for people who play on the surface of anything in life, etc. I do not like being blown off or "forgotten" about. Drives me up the wall.

Of course we are drawn to that lovely flair of independence. At First. It's a strong trait.

Scorp rising is intense and when interested in someone, we like to be the only thing on your mind. Constantly.

However, I do have Venus in Leo so that could be coloring how I feel..haha.


I have Venus and Pluto in Scorpio and being ignored, avoided, blown off, not treated as warmly as other people are treated, and forgotten hurt me deeply. As in, being treated like that makes me feel anxious, self-conscious, ashamed, unwanted, unloved, embarrassed, and when it's really bad, I don't want to leave my house or be seen. It is really hurtful.

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posted June 06, 2012 07:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I won't sting unless you sting first - and even then, it's rare.

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posted June 06, 2012 07:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sexyaqua30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
I have Venus and Pluto in Scorpio and being ignored, avoided, blown off, not treated as warmly as other people are treated, and forgotten hurt me [b]deeply. As in, being treated like that makes me feel anxious, self-conscious, ashamed, unwanted, unloved, embarrassed, and when it's really bad, I don't want to leave my house or be seen. It is really hurtful. [/B]

Although this type of behaviour you've mentioned is not my intentions I do believe they feel I'm this way. The only scorpio or scorpio influenced person who understands me is my mom and the only pisces who understood me was my dad. To water signs I annoy them because there is no logic to my ways it's just who I am and instead of seeing it for what it is I'm freezed out or stung instead. I'm guarded to an extint so that may give water influenced people the need to protect themselves me? Who knows? I just want to get along.

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posted June 06, 2012 09:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by sexyaqua30:
Although this type of behaviour you've mentioned is not my intentions I do believe they feel I'm this way. The only scorpio or scorpio influenced person who understands me is my mom and the only pisces who understood me was my dad. To water signs I annoy them because there is no logic to my ways it's just who I am and instead of seeing it for what it is I'm freezed out or stung instead. I'm guarded to an extint so that may give water influenced people the need to protect themselves me? Who knows? I just want to get along.


Have you ever tried explaining how you are to them/maybe trying to meet them halfway and compromise?

I'm someone who just wants to get along, too (hello, Libra sun here!), but when people think that I'm creepy and weird and avoid me, I feel so much shame about that, I don't even want to show my face anywhere. I feel guilty for having bothered them and embarrassed that they think that I'm creepy; I feel ashamed that I failed socially, too.

When that happens, there is no way that the person considered creepy can approach the avoidant person without reinforcing the opinion (i.e., that the avoidant person thinks that the person being avoided is creepy). Talking about things is not an option for the person considered creepy because that would make things worse. The only solution is to be cold and avoid them back, since being avoided very, very clearly sends the "I can't stand you, you are a freak, get away from me you creep" message. There simply is no other interpretation for that--that's what being avoided means.

If you are not purposely avoiding someone, I'd like to throw a suggestion out there. Here's what my father does (he gets lots of calls and messages at work): he will say something like "I did get your message, but I'll be really busy and may not get back to you for awhile". That way, he gets the time he needs to get back to people, no one thinks that they are being avoided, and it takes very little time and effort on your part. This way, you're being sensitive to both your feelings and theirs, and it will save a lot of problems in the long run. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it when people do that for me, and it makes me feel a LOT more secure.

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posted June 07, 2012 11:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RunAroundScreaming     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I apologized for the big gap since our last encounter and said sorry i love ya buddy big hug. His reply........nothing. Fine brood all you want.

They always try to teach me some freaking lesson! His lesson....you didn't go out with me but had sex with me and left quickly even though i wrote you a song. Ummm....aren't fwb just that? Wham bam thank you mam. The whole point of that is to have the sex without the stress. Ugh...they make me rethink our last encounters everytime to discover why they're mad. I learned my lesson now quit with the stinger.


Sounds to me like he's getting attached

He doesn't want a fling anymore, it seems. He wants something serious.

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posted June 07, 2012 11:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sexyaqua30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Have you ever tried explaining how you are to them/maybe trying to meet them halfway and compromise?

I'm someone who just wants to get along, too (hello, Libra sun here!), but when people think that I'm creepy and weird and avoid me, I feel so much shame about that, I don't even want to show my face anywhere. I feel guilty for having bothered them and embarrassed that they think that I'm creepy; I feel ashamed that I failed socially, too.

When that happens, there is no way that the person considered creepy can approach the avoidant person without reinforcing the opinion (i.e., that the avoidant person thinks that the person being avoided is creepy). Talking about things is not an option for the person considered creepy because that would make things worse. The only solution is to be cold and avoid them back, since being avoided very, very clearly sends the "I can't stand you, you are a freak, get away from me you creep" message. There simply is no other interpretation for that--that's what being avoided means.

If you are not purposely avoiding someone, I'd like to throw a suggestion out there. Here's what my father does (he gets lots of calls and messages at work): he will say something like "I did get your message, but I'll be really busy and may not get back to you for awhile". That way, he gets the time he needs to get back to people, no one thinks that they are being avoided, and it takes very little time and effort on your part. This way, you're being sensitive to both your feelings and theirs, and it will save a lot of problems in the long run. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it when people do that for me, and it makes me feel a LOT more secure.


I will admit after going over everything I've never really explained to them the kind of person I am. I just assumed it was obvious. I'm going to try and work on being more sympathetic and less in the clouds because when I get in the clouds I forget everyone else and just assume they'll be there when I land. I'll update you all on the pisces. I'm going to send a big apology his way.

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posted June 07, 2012 11:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sexyaqua30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Sounds to me like he's getting attached

He doesn't want a fling anymore, it seems. He wants something serious.


I'm starting to get that vibe from him his social network activity lately is making me question him.

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posted June 07, 2012 02:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by sexyaqua30:
I will admit after going over everything I've never really explained to them the kind of person I am. I just assumed it was obvious. I'm going to try and work on being more sympathetic and less in the clouds because when I get in the clouds I forget everyone else and just assume they'll be there when I land. I'll update you all on the pisces. I'm going to send a big apology his way.


I really hope that he'll be understanding and that you guys can work it out. Best wishes to you!

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posted June 08, 2012 01:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sexyaqua30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So me and Mr Pisces made up I took the advice that was given and let him know that I should be more considerate of his time and that I can get so caught up in my own life that I forget and expect others to still be there. He laughed at my long text and said that's so not like you to send long text.

At first he responded with sarcasm when I asked if he was still mad at me it took him hours to reply only to say. "I've been busy." (He used my own words gainst me) but he later replied with "A hello every once in awhile would be nice." I agree no more being inconsiderate.

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posted June 08, 2012 04:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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So me and Mr Pisces made up I took the advice that was given and let him know that I should be more considerate of his time and that I can get so caught up in my own life that I forget and expect others to still be there. He laughed at my long text and said that's so not like you to send long text.

At first he responded with sarcasm when I asked if he was still mad at me it took him hours to reply only to say. "I've been busy." (He used my own words gainst me) but he later replied with "A hello every once in awhile would be nice." I agree no more being inconsiderate.


Really glad that you guys are understanding each other more :-)

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posted June 23, 2012 10:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sexyaqua30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Whoa nelly.....lol


Update on Mr Pisces:

He's doing millitary training in Cali and gave me a call and we talked about the usual then the conversation turned to relationships and he said "I think I always end up dating people who are safe and that don't fulfill me completely. It seems those who fulfill all of those needs end up just being my friend."

He admitted when we initally started sleeping together he ended things because at that time he was single he was still considering getting back with his ex and he started getting confused about his feelings because when he would be with her sometimes he would be thinking of me and he felt guilty because he didn't feel guilty.

He tells me of how he's jealous of my relationship with my sag because he hates the thought of someone else having me because he feels I am his and secretly always wanted to know if I hated the thought of others being with him. Then he asked, "Do you tell others about us? Like in the past when we would be together did you tell others of me and what we've done?" It was just awkward because he really wanted to know. Then he goes "I talk about you all the time and that you're the best I've had. I talk about you a lot."

He's never been the emotionally open type (taurus moon/venus in capricorn) so it was so shocking to hear him talk like this. He even asked me would it be hard to go on a double date with our partners and try and keep the desire for eachother from being obvious. He says he doesn't think he could that he would be thinking the whole time I can't wait for them to leave so I can have her. I was so taken back he was just sprewing everything out. He remembers every single detail of our encounters, every touch, every word. And how he was disappointed I turned him down when he planned a date for us. I turned it down because it was awkward.

Which brings me back to a time he text I love you. He did it in a round about way and I said i love you too because I do as a friend and from that point on I love you became a part of most of our communication.

He told me to promise him that we would always be in eachothers lives and when I said ok he said, "No I'm serious no telling me you can't do this anymore and that you're moving on I need you to tell me this bond wont break." I said ok and the conversation ended shortly after.


Wow.....

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posted June 23, 2012 11:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by sexyaqua30:
Whoa nelly.....lol


Update on Mr Pisces:

He's doing millitary training in Cali and gave me a call and we talked about the usual then the conversation turned to relationships and he said "I think I always end up dating people who are safe and that don't fulfill me completely. It seems those who fulfill all of those needs end up just being my friend."

He admitted when we initally started sleeping together he ended things because at that time he was single he was still considering getting back with his ex and he started getting confused about his feelings because when he would be with her sometimes he would be thinking of me and he felt guilty because he didn't feel guilty.

He tells me of how he's jealous of my relationship with my sag because he hates the thought of someone else having me because he feels I am his and secretly always wanted to know if I hated the thought of others being with him. Then he asked, "Do you tell others about us? Like in the past when we would be together did you tell others of me and what we've done?" It was just awkward because he really wanted to know. Then he goes "I talk about you all the time and that you're the best I've had. I talk about you a lot."

He's never been the emotionally open type (taurus moon/venus in capricorn) so it was so shocking to hear him talk like this. He even asked me would it be hard to go on a double date with our partners and try and keep the desire for eachother from being obvious. He says he doesn't think he could that he would be thinking the whole time I can't wait for them to leave so I can have her. I was so taken back he was just sprewing everything out. He remembers every single detail of our encounters, every touch, every word. And how he was disappointed I turned him down when he planned a date for us. I turned it down because it was awkward.

Which brings me back to a time he text I love you. He did it in a round about way and I said i love you too because I do as a friend and from that point on I love you became a part of most of our communication.

He told me to promise him that we would always be in eachothers lives and when I said ok he said, "No I'm serious no telling me you can't do this anymore and that you're moving on I need you to tell me this bond wont break." I said ok and the conversation ended shortly after.


Wow.....



whoa

that is a lot...and I'm very intense myself; that's a lot even by my standards

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posted June 23, 2012 11:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sexyaqua30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by sexyaqua30:
[b]Whoa nelly.....lol


Update on Mr Pisces:

He's doing millitary training in Cali and gave me a call and we talked about the usual then the conversation turned to relationships and he said "I think I always end up dating people who are safe and that don't fulfill me completely. It seems those who fulfill all of those needs end up just being my friend."

He admitted when we initally started sleeping together he ended things because at that time he was single he was still considering getting back with his ex and he started getting confused about his feelings because when he would be with her sometimes he would be thinking of me and he felt guilty because he didn't feel guilty.

He tells me of how he's jealous of my relationship with my sag because he hates the thought of someone else having me because he feels I am his and secretly always wanted to know if I hated the thought of others being with him. Then he asked, "Do you tell others about us? Like in the past when we would be together did you tell others of me and what we've done?" It was just awkward because he really wanted to know. Then he goes "I talk about you all the time and that you're the best I've had. I talk about you a lot."

He's never been the emotionally open type (taurus moon/venus in capricorn) so it was so shocking to hear him talk like this. He even asked me would it be hard to go on a double date with our partners and try and keep the desire for eachother from being obvious. He says he doesn't think he could that he would be thinking the whole time I can't wait for them to leave so I can have her. I was so taken back he was just sprewing everything out. He remembers every single detail of our encounters, every touch, every word. And how he was disappointed I turned him down when he planned a date for us. I turned it down because it was awkward.

Which brings me back to a time he text I love you. He did it in a round about way and I said i love you too because I do as a friend and from that point on I love you became a part of most of our communication.

He told me to promise him that we would always be in eachothers lives and when I said ok he said, "No I'm serious no telling me you can't do this anymore and that you're moving on I need you to tell me this bond wont break." I said ok and the conversation ended shortly after.


Wow.....



whoa

that is a lot...I felt uncomfortable and uneasy reading that...and I'm an intense person myself

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Ikr imagine being on the other end of the phone. I was mostly quiet and he just let it all out. I'm still shocked. Normally he's a little goofy and fast talking this time around he was really calm and not tripping over his words. I've seen the passion in him come out through his music in the past but never like this for anything else. I'm completely taken back.

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posted June 23, 2012 12:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Milkyshutter     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Really enjoyed your post. I somewhat feel sorry for the guy. He clearly wants more than fwb. Are you really giving into it or are you just playing along to see how far the rabbit hole goes?

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posted June 23, 2012 01:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sexyaqua30     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Milkyshutter:
Really enjoyed your post. I somewhat feel sorry for the guy. He clearly wants more than fwb. Are you really giving into it or are you just playing along to see how far the rabbit hole goes?


Thank you. I know he wants more but we're in two different states now and we're both taken. He was devistated when I left and wanted me to just end things with him and come back. I would ask why and he'd say you can't leave me aqua. I miss you. He say it in that sweet childlike way. I mostly see his scorpio rising side in his stare. My goodness when he stares at me I feel exposed.

But we wouldn't work out even if we tried simply because like a lot of pisces he has this connection with his on again off again girlfriend that is just too much for me. For me I want you all to myself no second guessing. I want to consume the other person mind body and soul in a relationship and knowing that if she calls he's back in a somewhat unhappy relationship just because it's familiar would irk me.

He uses her in my opinion as a safety net. And not to mention sex is most of my driving force behind this situation so I would be hard pressed to believe I would truly want him beyond the physical. Yes I do want to continue to be a part of his life because we have a great connection outside of sex. He tells me everything good and bad. I've been a shoulder for him during some pretty hard times. Like when they lost their unborn son. He called me and automatically I knew there was something wrong because of the urgency in his voice and being a pisces it's natural for them to go off into another world when things hurt so I told him when he's ready to open up I'm here. He did just that and he came back to me because I didn't rush him to open up. So yes there's a bond there but hey who knows we may just wind up together later down the line. But I believe we would be much older if and when that happens.

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