posted June 09, 2012 10:31 PM            

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I just feel as if, I'm not going to miss people that much when I move away from them, and this partially makes me feel guilty.

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posted June 09, 2012 10:53 PM            

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But it's because I feel like they are always with me in spirit.

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I have this view, maybe it's a weird view, where...I don't miss someone because if that person is special enough for me to miss them, they must have had an impact on me (which isn't a hard thing to achieve!)

So, instead of pining for them, I appreciate the time that I did spend with them. And even then, like you said, they're always with you. That's actually the lesson of the Heart Chakra: do not grieve for the ones you love, whether they've, say, passed away or are simply out of reach. The bond you have is still there.

posted June 10, 2012 03:17 AM            

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Originally posted by KingTaurus2104:
I've thinking a lot recently about my friendships, and even family relationships. I want to make it clear I love them all very much, and I'm a very loyal and steadfast person, but thinking about it, I'm actually quite detached, although it's not actually very obvious.

I just feel as if, I'm not going to miss people that much when I move away from them, and this partially makes me feel guilty. I do want to stay in contact with all of them, of course, but it would pain me as much as it should, not to. I also feel as if I'm not as close to anyone as I'd like to be. I must stress, that I have NO trust issues, whatsoever! I want to be close to people, but it makes me feel uncomfortable and squirmy.

Lastly, I don't really have a bestfriend, I have 'close' friends, but no bestfriend. Now the funny thing is, through out my life, many people have actually admitted that they saw me as their bestfriend. Even people I hardly have know for a lot time, people who I've not been intimate with at all. I can be quite charming to people, and people seem to attach very easily!

As a footnote, I sometimes feel like I have to fake certain emotions to appear normal... anyone else relate?

I CAN'T PUT THE CHART ON THIS PAGE, so go to this link...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/11970812@N08/7170847229/in/photostream/

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KingTaurus,

Our charts have some similarities, including Moon in Cap, and you have articulated very well some very similar feelings.

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They key words in your description of your predicament are "should." Drop the *shoulds* and you will find your life much easier to navigate emotionally. Don't rely on them. Instead simply communicate honestly and people will know where you stand.

Also, you will probably find that if you are certain within yourself how you feel about certain important things and are truthful in that, the 'fake' feelings will go away as you simply relate to what others feel or say about their lives. If the 'fake' feeling persists you can be certain that in some way you are people-pleasing too much or playing the moderation-in-all-things strategy too much and not being authentic.

Be Intent on becoming authentic and you won't feel fake or worry about how others may react. I too feel great affection for my loved ones, even for humanity and random individuals, but don't express it outwardly. I've learned not to make a big deal of it. The feelings themselves are more important. What would you or your life be without them?

posted June 10, 2012 03:18 AM            

Our charts have some similarities, including Moon in Cap, and you have articulated very well some very similar feelings, although I have always had at least one best friend who knew it.

They key words in your description of your predicament are "should." Drop the *shoulds* and you will find your life much easier to navigate emotionally. Don't rely on them. Instead simply communicate honestly and people will know where you stand.

Also, you will probably find that if you are certain within yourself how you feel about certain important things and are truthful in that, the 'fake' feelings will go away as you simply relate to what others feel or say about their lives. If the 'fake' feeling persists you can be certain that in some way you are people-pleasing too much or playing the moderation-in-all-things strategy too much and not being authentic.

Be Intent on becoming authentic and you won't feel fake or worry about how others may react. I too feel great affection for my loved ones, even for humanity and random individuals, but don't express it outwardly. I've learned not to make a big deal of it. The feelings themselves are more important. What would you or your life be without them?

posted June 10, 2012 08:19 AM            

Overall, for me to forget about someone I once cared, that person would have to have hurt me deeply in some way. As for close friends, I've lost contact with some, it was painful but I just had to accept it.

I'm a cancer ascendant, moon is my chart ruler and it is in capricorn.

posted June 10, 2012 09:19 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
I'm the same about missing people.
But it's because I feel like they are always with me in spirit.
When I'm close to someone - I don't feel like physical distance matters.

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This. But this is Neptune's doing,too.