Virgo-AriesArtist
Knowflake Posts: 509
From: Michigan :)
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 12, 2012 08:21 AM
  
I'm just done with dealing with my mother...I'm tired of volunteering to "save" her after she gets in another one of her messes and pulls the "poor me, they are all out to get me" card. I've yet again offered to help her work on finishing some professional CEU classes, but all it does is backfire when she is not willing to put as much effort in, and then it becomes **all MY fault**. Seriously? Grown UP! I am an only child and she gets my help by whining, and crying, and playing the martyr card too, and I fall for it, Virgo-ness and all and want to save the day. The song by Papa Roach, "Scars", totally describes how we were before I moved out of the house, and I swore never again, but here I am, helping her out on a bigger scale than before and being guilted into doing more than I should. And I ALLOW it.  Our relationship is soooo messed up, and here I thought I'd fixed it by removing myself from the situation...of course, for the last few months, she has been staying at the house my husband and I just bought (paying rent to us) after another one of her decisions ended badly, as she waits for the new house she paid cash for to be renovated. So I can't avoid dealing with the fallout from this, and I feel stupid for letting myself get used. Here is her chart (I suppose I will post mine too at some point...)  IP: Logged |
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Lindaland
posted June 12, 2012 09:30 PM
