posted June 16, 2012 01:07 AM            

Anyway, this pretty much exactly sums up my experiences I have with someone, and I don’t know how I missed that his venus was unaspected before... He’ll make it extremely obvious that he cares about me, but then will run away and act like it never happened…, Not to mention his off again on again situation with his ex, who I know he sees as a comfort zone but is not someone who can help him grow as a person or that he can be honest with (in my biased opinion lol but really)

I posted a rant about this earlier (so I apologize for talking about it again lol), as we got into our first *argument* ever, but he contacted me the other day and I don’t think we can’t really stay mad at each other for long (I was more hurt than anything but he picked up on that right away and has gone out of his way to be nice since). We get each other on that level, and don’t want to hurt each other. And the whole “let’s just be friends” thing doesn’t really work with us as our relationship doesn’t seem to fit into any normal category. I honestly have always seen him as a soul mate/twin flame relationship (soul mate for sure, twin flame because I’ve read both people have to be highly evolved for the relationship to work or sustain itself which is how I see our relationship). But it’s still a frustrating situation…

posted June 16, 2012 01:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
Well it depends on the astrologer because some consider minor aspects, others take into account aspects to angles etc - so he might not have Venus unaspected.

I have it and yeah, I can be like that. I have learned to express how I feel, but I don't always know if I really love someone. Of course I think I do, every time, but time and experience proved me wrong. I have proven to be a little commitment-phobe before but I don't think that's the case anymore (have done therapy and lots of things settled inside). In my opinion this is one configuration that requires a lot of maturity and insight from the person having it, because it isn't easy to grasp, it is your "blind spot" sort of speak. The thing you desire most but the one that always seems to slip through your fingers. That's because (and I strongly believe this) it should start within - loving oneself truly. Until someone with unaspected Venus does that, I don't think they are truly able to love someone else because they have no idea what love is or how it should feel.

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Thanks for your response Hera, he does have minor aspects from venus to his Sun and Saturn, but since they are stressful aspects I'm thinking they don't help much. Also his Sun is almost exactly opposite mine, and his Saturn is almost exactly conjunct my Sun, so yeah not necessarily easy lol.

Of course it could just have more to do with general circumstances and the fact that we're still young and don't have a lot of stability in our lives yet, and etc., not to mention he's a Cancer...

But that's interesting what you're saying about Venus being like a "blind spot" where it's what you want the most but is difficult to grasp. I think he's scared to be on his own emotionally and let's that hold him back and tie him down to circumstances he's not happy in even though he talks a big talk about all the things he wants in life... (Which is probably where the attraction is, even if I FEEL alone emotionally, I'm not waiting to go after the things I want. So classic Cancer/Capricorn we both have what the other needs)

Anyway, sorry for rambling, thanks again for your response

posted June 16, 2012 01:29 PM            

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