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YeaIamavirgoactually
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posted June 18, 2012 01:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YeaIamavirgoactually     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello, I'm new here but hoping someone out there can shed some light.

I'm a virgo woman, (moon in sag, venus in scorpio) and for the past two months I've been dating a Taurus man (moon in leo, venus in aries).

I've read that we should be compatible and for the most part we were, but probably about 3 weeks ago he did a complete 360 on me. He used to chat with me just about everday, with him initiating most of the contact. We would talk all day long and never ran out of things to talk about. Then, all of sudden he went cold and I didn't hear from him for a week and a half. I texted him and he did respond but he was kind of aloof, and short (one word responses, didn't engage in the convo) I asked him if what the problem was but he brushed it off and said I was "thinking too much." I wasn't buying it, but I backed off a little, and a few days later he reached out to me, we chatted for a little bit then all of sudden he just ignored the last text I sent him. I texted him one last time and he ignored that also.

A few more days passed and he reached out again, this time I waited a few hours before responding. He didn't respond for at least 8 or 9 hours after that which he had never done before and it was apparent that he had purposely delayed responding. I did manage to text him back but he didn't respond at all. I finally had had enough and just decided to ask him once and for all if he just didn't want to talk to me anymore and he flat out ignored me. Its been a couple days and still no response.

My apologies for the long post but I'm wondering if this is a typical thing for a taurus guy? I know that it would seem obvious that if someone is ignoring you that they must not be interested, but why ignore someone, and then contact them again out of the blue only to go cold again?

Also, I thought those with venus in Aries were more "forward" when it came to romance. Does that mean he just lost interest? Or does he want to be chased?

Any personal experiences would be really appreciated!

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Lazyscarecrow
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posted June 18, 2012 02:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lazyscarecrow     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How old is he? I ask because this doesn't seem like a Taurus thing...there are a lot of men and signs that do this.

The "hot and cold" behavior can be interpreted as an Aries thing, since you say that's his Venus sign. Venus in Aries tend to be straightforward and into the chase, and may sometimes appear indifferent and uninterested. Don't take it too personally, it's part of their independent nature. But I can see how this would confuse a Venus in Scorpio who seeks more consistency.

Honestly, if you are not satisfied with how he communicates with you, it will be hell getting him to change because he is a fixed sun/moon...very stubborn most likely. I would find another friend or just accept his behavior, and let him initiate contact. It seems as though he may have been busy or seeking alone time, but I don't know him enough to say.

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YeaIamavirgoactually
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posted June 18, 2012 02:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YeaIamavirgoactually     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Lazyscarecrow:
How old is he? I ask because this doesn't seem like a Taurus thing...there are a lot of men and signs that do this.

The "hot and cold" behavior can be interpreted as an Aries thing, since you say that's his Venus sign. Venus in Aries tend to be straightforward and into the chase, and may sometimes appear indifferent and uninterested. Don't take it too personally. But I can see how this would confuse a Venus in Scorpio who seeks more consistency.

Honestly, if you are not satisfied with how he communicates with you, it will be hell getting him to change because he is a fixed sun/moon...very stubborn most likely. I would find another friend or just accept his behavior, and let him initiate contact.


We are both 25 yo, although he just turned 25 and I will be 26 in September. I definitely see the stubborness and almost a need for conrtol, I guess I'm just wondering if I should take it as him not being interested anymore, or just something typical of his personality. I've heard that Taurus men "go after what they want" and he did seem that way at first but now he's backed off quite a bit.

You're right though, my venus in scorpio does value consistency. I like to know for sure that someone is into me or else I feel very "vulnerable"

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posted June 18, 2012 02:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DepTaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I found this interesting because i have most of the same placements as your guy.

Taurus sun and Venus in Aries but i have the opposite moon sign in Aquarius.

My emotions differ from him i am by nature and have always been more aloof and cold and needing my personal space but i do enjoy socializing.I find when it comes to serious topics that i just get uninterested very quickly.I tend to back off if somebody becomes very serious to early or serious to fast.

I enjoy my space and i find with my taurus sun i can call upon this placement to be withdrawn as well.I think most fixed signs are really good at closing off from people when they need to for whatever reason.

Venus in Aries for me makes me want to be chased more often so then me doing the chasing,i don`t know why but i have always liked the idea of being approached instead of having to do the approaching.

it all depends what aspect the sun makes to his moon he could have sun/moon square what are the positions of both his sun and moon?I have this placement and i find it hard in deciding what my ego wants and what i want emotionally as well.

Where is his Mars,that could tell you how he goes about intiating and getting what he want`s.

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YeaIamavirgoactually
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posted June 18, 2012 03:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YeaIamavirgoactually     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by DepTaurus:

it all depends what aspect the sun makes to his moon he could have sun/moon square what are the positions of both his sun and moon?I have this placement and i find it hard in deciding what my ego wants and what i want emotionally as well.

Where is his Mars,that could tell you how he goes about intiating and getting what he want`s.


I wish I knew about the aspects thing, but I'm pretty new to the whole chart thing unfortunately lol. I do know that his Mars is in Gemini, my Mars is in Capricorn.

Can I ask, when you back off from someone is it usually for good? Or is it just when you want a little space and then you come back?

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DepTaurus
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posted June 18, 2012 03:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DepTaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Depends on how the person is/was with me.

But when i make my mind up i`m done just finished for good.

I usually let people know whether i need space or not.

Mars in gemini is known for being talkative which explains his constant communication but then again gemini is a mutable sign and venus rx over his mars right now could be making him feel for you but then backing of.All venus Rx do that.I would just wait until it`s done rx and continue on from there.If you wish too.

another thing venus in aries is pretty flighty i have been in situations where i have been interested then the next day i felt nothing.

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posted June 18, 2012 03:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by YeaIamavirgoactually:
I wish I knew about the aspects thing, but I'm pretty new to the whole chart thing unfortunately lol. I do know that his Mars is in Gemini, my Mars is in Capricorn.

Can I ask, when you back off from someone is it usually for good? Or is it just when you want a little space and then you come back?


I have venus in aries and mars in gemini, so hopefully I can shed some light. This particular venus/mars combo is straightforward. If he wants to break up with you, then he will tell you directly. Right now he may have something stressful in his life that needs his attention or he may just need some space. I know that I cannot stand to be in constant communication with others; I pull away when I need space.

It would've been polite of him to let you know that he needs a little private time or that he has something that requires his attention so you aren't kept in the dark. This is immaturity more than anything else.

I realize this behavior can be frustrating, so when he calls you again, ask him directly if everything is ok since you hadn't heard from him in a long time. If he tells you he had some big project at work/school to work on, tell him that you understand, but in the future you would like him to let you know when he's busy so you aren't left wondering whether you did something to upset him.

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YeaIamavirgoactually
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posted June 18, 2012 03:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YeaIamavirgoactually     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by DepTaurus:

another thing venus in aries is pretty flighty i have been in situations where i have been interested then the next day i felt nothing.


Thanks DepTaurus you've been very helpful

One last question, as for the venus in aries being interested one day and not interested the next, is it possible to once again "regain" that interest?

If so, is it something the other person has to do to spark your interest again or is it just your personal decision?

I've just been leaving him alone. I figured if I continued to text him it would only irritate him further.

I can't wait until this venus rx is done!

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posted June 18, 2012 03:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DepTaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by YeaIamavirgoactually:
Thanks DepTaurus you've been very helpful

One last question, as for the venus in aries being interested one day and not interested the next, is it possible to once again "regain" that interest?

If so, is it something the other person has to do to spark your interest again or is it just your personal decision?

I've just been leaving him alone. I figured if I continued to text him it would only irritate him further.

I can't wait until this venus rx is done!


I have at times,if i am not fully over that person and i randomly see them one day then yes it can somehow show up for me at least.

It really does not have to be anything that they do at all,it could be there physical presence that is reminder enough for me.

It`s best to give him space if that is what he want`s then yeah don`t force thing`s ive done that and it never works.

you and me both,but yeah no problem any time.

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YeaIamavirgoactually
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posted June 18, 2012 03:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YeaIamavirgoactually     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Astra:
I have venus in aries and mars in gemini, so hopefully I can shed some light. This particular venus/mars combo is straightforward. If he wants to break up with you, then he will tell you directly. Right now he may have something stressful in his life that needs his attention or he may just need some space. I know that I cannot stand to be in constant communication with others; I pull away when I need space.

It would've been polite of him to let you know that he needs a little private time or that he has something that requires his attention so you aren't kept in the dark. This is immaturity more than anything else.

I realize this behavior can be frustrating, so when he calls you again, ask him directly if everything is ok since you hadn't heard from him in a long time. If he tells you he had some big project at work/school to work on, tell him that you understand, but in the future you would like him to let you know when he's busy so you aren't left wondering whether you did something to upset him.


Thanks Astra. So with that placement in mind, you also appreciate when someone is direct with you also right? I have been contemplating how to get the point across that I didn't appreciate being ignored (If I ever heard from him again). It actually really ****** me off but I didn't want to come across as nagging or mean about it.

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posted June 18, 2012 04:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aquacheeka     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
3 weeks ago? I'm surprised no one mentioned the Venus r/x.

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posted June 18, 2012 04:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lalalinda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello YeaIamavirgoactually! welcome to LL

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YeaIamavirgoactually
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posted June 18, 2012 05:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YeaIamavirgoactually     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by lalalinda:
Hello YeaIamavirgoactually! welcome to LL

Thank You

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posted June 18, 2012 05:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aquacheeka     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
3 weeks ago? I'm surprised no one mentioned the Venus r/x.

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YeaIamavirgoactually
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posted June 18, 2012 05:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YeaIamavirgoactually     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
3 weeks ago? I'm surprised no one mentioned the Venus r/x.

DepTaurus mentioned it

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posted June 18, 2012 08:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for vertiver     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Avoid Taurus Sun. I just got out of a relationship with a Taurus, talk about one selfish, arrogant nerd!

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posted June 18, 2012 10:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by YeaIamavirgoactually:
Thanks Astra. So with that placement in mind, you also appreciate when someone is direct with you also right? I have been contemplating how to get the point across that I didn't appreciate being ignored (If I ever heard from him again). It actually really ****** me off but I didn't want to come across as nagging or mean about it.

Yes, be direct with him. As an aries venus, I absolutely cannot stand when people are passive aggressive or expect me to read their minds. You don't need to come up with any complex speech. Just say, "You haven't been returning my calls, so I was wondering whether you were ok or if I did something wrong?" If he says that he's just been really busy, then tell him straight up that you understand he's busy, but you'd like him to just give you a heads up that he won't be in contact for a while so you aren't left wondering whether something went wrong. If he tells you that sometimes he needs time to himself, let him know that you understand, and that he should feel free to let you know when he needs time to himself instead of shutting you out.

It's absolutely crucial in the beginning stages of a relationship, particularly with an aries venus, to establish how you expect to be treated. If you can't stand being ignored, then you need to tell him directly. Avoid flowery words. Just get to the point, but do not yell or say anything in anger. His mars in gemini will shut you out if you get worked up since this placement values rationality. Speak to him very matter-of-factly. Good luck!

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YeaIamavirgoactually
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posted June 19, 2012 04:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YeaIamavirgoactually     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Astra:
Yes, be direct with him. As an aries venus, I absolutely cannot stand when people are passive aggressive or expect me to read their minds. You don't need to come up with any complex speech. Just say, "You haven't been returning my calls, so I was wondering whether you were ok or if I did something wrong?" If he says that he's just been really busy, then tell him straight up that you understand he's busy, but you'd like him to just give you a heads up that he won't be in contact for a while so you aren't left wondering whether something went wrong. If he tells you that sometimes he needs time to himself, let him know that you understand, and that he should feel free to let you know when he needs time to himself instead of shutting you out.

It's absolutely crucial in the beginning stages of a relationship, particularly with an aries venus, to establish how you expect to be treated. If you can't stand being ignored, then you need to tell him directly. Avoid flowery words. Just get to the point, but do not yell or say anything in anger. His mars in gemini will shut you out if you get worked up since this placement values rationality. Speak to him very matter-of-factly. Good luck!


I have another question for you if you don't mind, with having mars in gemini has the venus rx had an effect on you in particular when it comes to dealing with people? Like have you found yourself pulling away at all?

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posted June 19, 2012 07:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by YeaIamavirgoactually:
I have another question for you if you don't mind, with having mars in gemini has the venus rx had an effect on you in particular when it comes to dealing with people? Like have you found yourself pulling away at all?

Yes, I have been wanting to pull away more, but unfortunately, my line of work requires me to deal with the public. My ex-boyfriend is also trying his hardest to win me back, which is annoying as hell.

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