posted June 20, 2012 08:54 PM            

About a year ago I started dating my neighbor - I live in a duplex, it was a cozy, convenient set up! He's a Gemini, I'm a Scorpio - not as bad as it sounds..

Here's my chart -
Moon-Cancer
Mercury-Scorpio
Venus-Virgo
Mars-Sagittarius
Ascendant-Gemini

Here's his chart -
Moon-Virgo
Mercury-Taurus
Venus-Gemini :/
Mars-Leo
Ascendant-Aries

So, even though I'm a Scorpio, I'm a hard one! Never needed a man - always been very independent. But, some how he wore me down. We had an amazing friendship plus this explosive sexual attraction to one another. Great combination!

Things started to get more serious - after several months of us hanging out, I finally let my guard down with him. We shared things with each other that were very personal, things he's never told anyone before. He was changing as a person, for the better. It was an amazing connection we had. After dating for a year, one day he told me he was moving. Hit me kind of hard. My Scorpio intuition told me he was running. I had gotten too close and he was scared. I was aware he was wanting to find a bigger place at some point, he told me months ago - but stayed because of me. So, I did know this was coming eventually. But, this decision was made with such urgency, I knew something was up. He swore he wasn't running, that nothing would change - "we'd just have to drive to see one another." So, what happened? He disappeared. Didn't see him for about a month - then one day ran into him out and about. He was acting sweet, attentive & jealous when another guy was hitting on me - also insisted I come over soon. Now he's wanting to be friends. He's apologized for running out on me and on this "dating thing" we had, but he said I got more attached than he was "willing to allow himself to get". Not sure what this whole roller coaster is about! Can anyone help from an astrological point of view? I know the Venus in Gemini is more than likely the culprit.. but, is it worth sticking around for? If anyone can help me decode this Gemini puzzle (and what it is he wants from me), I'd be very grateful!

posted June 20, 2012 11:54 PM            

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Originally posted by sexyaqua30:
My intuition is telling me he's not worth the fight. He's going to do the same thing he did before which is run then expect you to accept him back. To me he's emotionally imature and not looking for what you're hoping for which is.....stablility.

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I agree. As a Gemini, if I'm not that interested in someone, I don't stay in contact. It's that simple. Remember, Geminis are the communicators of the zodiac. If he wanted to stay in contact with you, then he would've done so. Instead, he flaked out on you and did not properly end the relationship. He left you hanging, which is not fair to you.

posted June 21, 2012 12:42 AM            

Im sorry btw, i can say without a doubt, I KNOW JUST HOW YOU FEEL!! Exept in my case he was a Leo... he just disappeared.... then acted like almost nothing happened the next time we ran into eachother... grrrr men!! *bangs head against wall*

posted June 21, 2012 10:09 AM            

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Originally posted by Gem-Gurl:
I agree with the above posters! Im a gem.. and if we wanted contact, we would deff reach out.

Im sorry btw, i can say without a doubt, I KNOW JUST HOW YOU FEEL!! Exept in my case he was a Leo... he just disappeared.... then acted like almost nothing happened the next time we ran into eachother... grrrr men!! *bangs head against wall*

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posted June 21, 2012 10:29 AM            

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Originally posted by ariesdragon:
He might've got scared of his feelings for you & needed to get away to compose himself. Not calling for a month tho is really emotionally immature I agree. Does he have Venus Rx? Sorry to hear about your situation.

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posted June 21, 2012 02:37 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
haha its not just men, a libra girl did that to me, she was in constant contact with me while we dated 24/7 , the night before she dissapeared she gave me all this bs how she never wanted to lose me than the next day poof! never really talked again.

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Oh then let me re-phrase that. Ahem "grrrr people!!! *bangs heads against wall*"

posted July 14, 2012 01:07 PM            

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Originally posted by kennedy80:
Also, I do have to admit there is more to the story. I guess I can say this in here since none of you will ever know who this guy is! But, a huge reason he backed off is because of a problem he has in the bedroom. It's not every time, but it was enough to frustrate the hell out of him. I'm not a male, so I don't understand why you would rather end a completely wonderful relationship because of your "problem". But, I guess to a man, it's a completely devastating thing you want to run away from. I always told him I didn't care and gave him positive feedback - but I guess it's just something he's got to fix on his own. So, my point being, this may be why he's scared to flirt - he knows where that will lead to. So, this is why I'm being so patient. Hopefully in time it will fix itself.

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posted July 14, 2012 01:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Robin Goodfellow:
I don't know if there is any desperation on your part, or if there is any yearing or longing or even puzzlement but your charts look like a nice mesh. If you still have a good chemistry then you might as well be together but if there are contradictory undercurrents then you will have to decide what to do.

I like your ascendants and mars signs which could be nice combos.

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posted July 14, 2012 06:08 PM            

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Originally posted by kennedy80:

There definitely is a yearning, longing desire to still be with him, and I know he feels the same. But, I am puzzled - not sure what he's going to do with those feelings. With his moon in Virgo, he's completely capable of controlling his emotions and able to rationalize what's the most logical thing to do. I know he's jaded from past relationships and I know he's scared. Scared of losing some of his freedom and to be emotionally bound to someone else. So, I'm not sure what direction he's going to go. I'm fighting for this because he's a good man, just has baggage. But, so do I - everyone does. I'm just trying to show him I'm the kind of girl who will stick around and help him "unpack" some of it. But, if I continue to come in second place to his friends, I can't stick around for that. But, for right now, I'm just trying to stay friends and see what happens. I know Gemini's respond best to friendship first.

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Geminis hate the uncertainty of emotions. Come to think of it, I think a lot of people do...

The important thing is to talk with him about the status of your current relationship. Does he just want to be friends? Does he just want a causal fling? Or does he want a longterm relationship? You need to make sure you are both on the same page and want the same things because otherwise you'll both just end up frustrating each other. Assuming he wants a longterm relationship and is scared, you should both establish some ground rules. I know this doesn't seem romantic, but you need to know each other's expectations. The key is making sure that he doesn't feel smothered. You should absolutely demand quality time with him, but also make sure he has time for his friends. Friends are REALLY important to Geminis. If you ask him to choose between you and his friends, he will most likely pick his friends. If he chooses you, he'll just end up resenting you later when your relationship hits a rough patch.

Anyway, by establishing some ground rules, this will make him far more relaxed about the relationship knowing that he'll still have some freedom and won't have to deal with a clingy girlfriend. Reassure him that you are not the type who needs to be glued to her boyfriend's hip. That's every Gemini's worst fear. Here are some examples of ground rules just to get you brainstorming:

1. Spend time with friends 2 days a week and spend 3 days with girlfriend.

2. Call and say good morning on days you are not spending time with each other. Keep conversation under 5 min

3. If anyone feels smothered, they should feel free to ask for time to themselves. This does NOT indicate the relationship is in trouble.

4. If anyone has a particularly busy week with work, school or with other commitments and are not able to spend sufficient time with the other, they should let the other person know at least a few days in advance that they will be extremely busy and won't be calling, hanging out, etc.

5. If there are any problems in the relationship, both individuals should immediately and calmly express whatever is bothering them.

6. Agreeing with each other about everything is not going to happen, but both individuals should be supportive of each other.

posted July 22, 2012 10:00 PM            

I believe you have gotten addicted, as the two of you have Mars trine, and a Venus/Rising conjunction. It's probably one of those relationships where you might see the relationship as more than it is.

Addiction is what it sounds like on your end definitely. That panic feeling is a loss of control on your part, and he will hurt you if you press.

You must grow strong at this time, and fight this addiction, don't let it get out of hand, as it may really mess with your sweet/sensitive Cancer moon.

In my opinion, there is no doubt about it, he's going to hurt you. He's got a flimsy chart, and strikes me as a bail from fail type. You're better off leaving it as is.

posted August 05, 2012 07:19 PM            

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Originally posted by kennedy80:
Well, I've come to find out his rising is in Pisces, not Aries. Had his birth time wrong. This sheds light on the situation. He really is a sensitive guy. I really don't know any Pisces, never had any in my life. I did message him to say hi last week and he was very responsive. Seemed concerned and caring. Opened up more to me. Not sure if I should keep this communication going - we both have water influence and I think that feelings have gotten hurt on both sides, so walls came back up. He was telling me how excited he was about a trip he's taking this weekend - I was toying with the idea of messaging him when he comes back to ask how the trip went. But, really feel ultimately, he needs to start contacting me if this is ever going to go anywhere. So, my question is - with Gemini men is it more out of sight out of mind, or absence makes the heart grow fonder? I know there's still feelings there or he would have stopped all contact a long time ago. I'm a Scorpio and I'm going to win this game! Just need a good game plan!

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