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Topic: My mother infuriates me to NO END but it's just me I think?
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Saraintheski Knowflake Posts: 611 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted June 29, 2012 12:06 PM
I am actually forced to depend on this woman , she can be such a dolt and so rough around the edges and and and she does nothing but complain , no solutions , no critical thinking , no sweetness just overbearing **** Like I loveee you you so I can say whatever or comparing herself to other people in my life like how come they can say that but If I say it kind of thing , I absolutely want to enjoy my time with her . But I hate this anger I have maybe it's me and not her . I hate feeling this way maybe I should try to join something with her . She has absolutely no life as do I but hers just consists of talking about how people don't do this or that for her/ with her . She's so close minded about my love for certain animals.iT'S LIKE A TICK , I see her face and it's all wideeyed and worried and anxious and she makes me anxious ! I had a good young childhood but she actually married my fathers brother who she never met while she was with my father it wasn't that strange because he's a good guy but we just don't talk . She seems to be really unhappy, she's always telling me what to do meaningless advice like you need to work on yourself , NO SH** , I just sound hostile and nasty right now I can't describe it this isn't a short phase I have felt this way since about 14 . My grandmother is actually much worse in ways I hate feeling this way about my mother and grandmother . I think what gets me is the pettiness and the whole middle class mindset , although I have lived below poverty line my whole life with my mother . She still has the unrealistic dreams for me like the whole independent women thing yet she's so dependent . I sound like a brat right now ...It could be all of the water and fire we have going on .. Neptune Conjunction Sun Orb 0°50' Neptune Conjunction Mercury Orb 2°20' Saturn Conjunction AS Orb 5°07' MC Conjunction MC Orb 9°45' Neptune Conjunction Pluto Orb 9°46' Pluto Opposite AS Orb 2°04' Mercury Opposite Neptune Orb 2°21' Mercury Opposite Uranus Orb 2°30' Uranus Opposite AS Orb 2°57' Venus Opposite MC Orb 2°59' Jupiter Opposite Sun Orb 3°49' Jupiter Opposite Mercury Orb 5°19' Jupiter Opposite Pluto Orb 6°46' Sun Opposite Neptune Orb 8°21' Sun Opposite Uranus Orb 8°29' Mars Square AS Orb 0°32' Chiron Square MC Orb 0°41' Jupiter Square Saturn Orb 5°30' Neptune Square Moon Orb 6°49' AS Trine Mars Orb 0°13' Sun Trine AS Orb 0°28' Jupiter Trine Neptune Orb 0°33' Jupiter Trine Uranus Orb 0°41' Venus Trine Saturn Orb 1°40' Mercury Trine Sun Orb 2°00' Sun Trine Mercury Orb 2°28' Node Trine Jupiter Orb 2°46' AS Trine Pluto Orb 3°02' Mercury Trine Mercury Orb 3°30' Chiron Trine Sun Orb 3°58' Sun Trine Sun Orb 3°58' Node Trine Venus Orb 4°53' Moon Trine Moon Orb 4°58' Venus Trine Venus Orb 5°05' Moon Trine Mars Orb 5°08' Neptune Trine AS Orb 5°17' Saturn Trine Jupiter Orb 5°33' Chiron Sextile Neptune Orb 0°23' MC Sextile Jupiter Orb 0°26' Chiron Sextile Uranus Orb 0°32' Pluto Sextile Mercury Orb 0°53' Lilith Sextile AS Orb 1°16' Lilith Sextile Mercury Orb 1°40' MC Sextile Venus Orb 1°40' Mars Sextile Moon Orb 2°04' Pluto Sextile Sun Orb 2°23' Lilith Sextile Sun Orb 3°10' Neptune Sextile Neptune Orb 3°32' Neptune Sextile Uranus Orb 3°41
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Xiiro Moderator Posts: 799 From: San Diego CA, USA Registered: Jun 2011
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posted June 29, 2012 12:33 PM
HAHa My mom is a Cancer Sun, Moon in Aries, Mars in Gemini too. I came to the conclusion that she is just not capable of fulfilling my maternal needs. I instead try to appreciate her as a person, not a mother. It has helped.I also focus on distancing my self when I feel that anger arise. I am a very fire oriented person, but my emotions are very Scorpio, it is difficult for me to restrain being hurtful or confrontational when she is on a good one. That Gemini mars will do everything in its power to argue she has never done anything negative or insensitive in her life (even as she is poking you with sharp sticks). One thing you may face which I do not, is a mother with Pluto in Virgo 6th House. My mother has Pluto in Leo, so her essential obsession is doing what she wants on her terms. Your mother may want to be more involved with you, hoping to fix any problems or be of service. Either way, My saving grace is the understanding that she is only conscious of about 2% of her actions, the rest of the time she is just emotionally reactionary and on autopilot. Mine is just not in control of her self, she is a ping pong ball being slapped around by her desires. It's no excuse for many of the things she has done, but at some point I just had to settle for what she was willing to give, not what I expected of her. It's not the most pleasant struggle to endure with one's mother, especially considering the deep bond these mothers create and later break with their children (only to attempt to revisit it when it is convenient for them). Once you allow her freedom and acceptance while exploring your emotional independence, she should at least step out of your way a bit and treat you with more respect. My advise is to move out as soon as possible. My mother is 100x more pleasent when we only see each other occasionally. IP: Logged |
Saraintheski Knowflake Posts: 611 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted June 29, 2012 09:29 PM
Woah it looks like we're dealing with pretty similar Mommas here .I've actually thought that ; my mom must not realize about half of what she does and funny understand consequences and other peoples reactions . The best part is how she also acts like everything she's done in her life is an experience so therefore telling me about it means I don't have to experience that , even though her younger days consist of partying ( MINE DO NOT !!!!) and will not , so I can't believe she has nerve sometime talking about my friends . It's pretty funny actually I think our mom's have similar charts too Pamela Anderson and Courtney Love . O.o totally instant reaction my mother will throw chairs and then burst into tears . I moved away for a few months with a guy but that strongly upset her and now that has ended because he really was a maniac . But she would call every single day , sometimes I felt bad but nobody understands it felt good just being free in ways I wasn't at home .IP: Logged |
cappy1277 Moderator Posts: 1140 From: philadelphia,pa Registered: Jul 2009
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posted June 29, 2012 09:41 PM
I had an overbearing mother too but they don't do it because they are criticizing you but because they see in you what they could've been. She is living vicariously through you. IP: Logged |
Xiiro Moderator Posts: 799 From: San Diego CA, USA Registered: Jun 2011
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posted June 29, 2012 10:19 PM
quote: Originally posted by cappy1277: I had an overbearing mother too but they don't do it because they are criticizing you but because they see in you what they could've been. She is living vicariously through you.
In my mother's case that is not her drive. She criticizes because she wants to hobble her children. It is an odd form of emotional Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome. The whole idea is to make her children so weak with depression or self doubt, that they will never leave. She emotionally poisons her host and then feeds off her host's need to recuperate (telling her self she is being a nurturing Cancer). slowly but surely, as her host gets better, she introduces more poison until they are infirm again. My mom used to dangle love over my head to make me seek her affection and then would repeatedly treat me like a sub-human. And Saraintheski, my mother was definitely not a party girl, her big thing is insisting others become emotionally independent (though she has never been on her own or without a husband her whole life). Any time someone mentions her total abandonment of any of us she says, "you're all adults, get over it". HAha One thing I learned from having parents like mine, was how to be a good parent though. IP: Logged |
ShadowLeo Knowflake Posts: 45 From: IL, USA Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 30, 2012 02:56 PM
Ugh... mothers... I really clash with my mom (better said, used to, when we lived together) and I'm no good as a mom either, LOL. My mom (Sun - Scorpio, Moon - Capricorn, Asc - Libra) turned nagging into an olympic sport. She's possesive and seems like nothing is ever good enough for her (now that we live so far apart, she's supportive, but still nagging - still thinks she would do anything I do better). And me (Sun - Leo, Moon - Taurus, Asc - Scorpio, Uranus in the 1st conjunct Asc)... well, I do insist on emotional independence, but I don't think that being financially dependent on my husband automatically disqualifies me from those demands... Emotional and financial independence are different things and, if I would work, I wouldn't mind if others would depend on the money I would make, it just bothers me how highly emotionally demanding a child can get... I know I sound mean right now... I just can't help it, the needier a person gets around me, the thicker the wall that I put up (probably that Uranus conjunct Asc). Don't get me wrong, I am nurturing (my twins are only 5 y/o), I do hold them and tell them I love them and take good care of them (by myself most of the time - hubbie is at work a lot and they've never been with a babysitter or with relatives), but I also tell them to "suck it up" a lot of times (like when they fear storms, spiders etc... not your typical mom)... IP: Logged |
Lonake Moderator Posts: 8295 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 30, 2012 08:07 PM
Merc opp Uranus - cancer merc can be pretty whiny, helpless - uranus is how you'll branch out on your own, opp her merc it's just not comfy for her, she thinks a lot prob about the fam being tight knit, keeping it together, that could be suffocating to you on some level. Jup opp Sun - clashing ideologies/sometimes different religious persuasions - jup wants to change sun to align with their ideals. her jup is opp nept, which is not so great on its own for practically realizing a dream. your sun/merc is on her neptune so she has high expectations of you, expecting you to fulfill a role that she couldn't, she wants you to go out and do what she couldn't. And maybe in a sense you will I mean it's your sun after all, but you won't do it as she hopes for you and that is the rub. Be happy you don't have squares to your sun cos that would make it worse. Sun/Merc - dw (i guess?) looks positive and you're right trine allow for free flow and in water you could end up feeling drowned in someone else's expectations cos you tune into them, and read them so easily but cancer the crab wants to cling and that is not scorp style, which is more self reliant and works better in the outside world. cancer can do well out there but it's not their niche, likewise scorp can do well in the home but it's not what they're made for really. You are more independent. Then you have that load falling in her 8th, you are tied to this woman like no other. Strong psychic ties. Just be wary of manipulation. Get with people outside of your home life, where you can breathe and have less co-dependence. That break will help to let you know when things are getting really off balance at home and what you're really contributing to it and what is being placed on you (water, murky situations, you forget who is doing what since it all just blends together in one deep feeling blob). IP: Logged |
Fuzzy Knowflake Posts: 94 From: Libra 25° Registered: Aug 2011
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posted July 01, 2012 06:48 PM
I've been having similar problems with my mother lately too, she is controlling and unreasonable and believes her opinion is the only worthy one, not just with me, but with everyone. She has Pluto conj ascendant and Saturn in 9th so she's really closeminded. I understand your anger...First thing I noticed though, about your mom's chart, is that she has mars in what looks like 10 degrees Gemini and she's born in 64... A difficult year to be born in with gem or sag planets around that degree.. if it's at 10 Gemini or near there then she has the tsquare of Saturn, Uranus and Pluto squaring her mars, which can't be easy to live with... I don't know your mom or why she acts the way she does, but I'd look into those aspects... IP: Logged |
Ann7 Knowflake Posts: 94 From: united states Registered: May 2009
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posted July 14, 2012 05:26 PM
Umm.... What about moms with daughters that have no respect and an abnormal sense of entitlement?! I love my 22 year old very much, she is my first -real- love BUT over the years her lack of respect and selfishness have wore me down to the point where I'm ready to keep my distance... A very far distance at that. IP: Logged |
sweet-scorpion Knowflake Posts: 484 From: PA, USA Registered: Apr 2012
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posted July 14, 2012 10:42 PM
quote: Originally posted by Ann7: Umm.... What about moms with daughters that have no respect and an abnormal sense of entitlement?! I love my 22 year old very much, she is my first -real- love BUT over the years her lack of respect and selfishness have wore me down to the point where I'm ready to keep my distance... A very far distance at that.
Hi Ann. I'm sorry to hear things have been tough with your daughter, Sydney. I wanted to reach out to you because for the past 8-9 years I have had very intense, tough on-and-off dealings with my own mother and I can see where you are coming from. It's apparent both of you are most likely loving but very frustrated and deep down, hurt with each other sometimes. I can see key things between you and Sydney. Sydney has the Moon in conjunction with Chiron. I personally have this aspect and it is very difficult. It means you feel that it is sometimes, intensely shaming or difficult to reveal your true emotions. You can feel sadness for showing your true heart in fear of resurfacing your wounds, which Chiron represents, in fear of being rejected. Not only does Sydney have this conjunction, she also has it in the ultra sensitive sign of Cancer. It is highly likely she feels she needs more love, and this deep, endless desire can scare her or shame her. Does she sometimes outpour her feelings in insults or cries for attention, and then clam up afterwards? This is a sign of this aspect. This aspect painful as it may be, often represents the distance or assumed rejection of the mother. Something could feel estranged about the relationship. Yet the person with it is often bound to the mother in unconventional and life-long ways even at a distance. It is most likely that Sydney is sometimes angry or callous, lacking respect towards you because her Chironic wound against her Moon is causing her to act out aggressively and erratically (Uranus) to avoid getting hurt and realizing that all she wants is to be close to you and you to love her even more than you do now. I don't doubt you love her at all - especially because Venus is conjunct Venus in your synastry. But for whatever reason, people with Chiron-Moon conjunctions especially seem to need a LOT more than average emotional care, yet they can't bring themselves to show it most of the time. I feel if you two recognize this about her, it will lead to big strides possibly. In truth Ann, you are only feeding into Sydney's Chironic wound by keeping that distance from her. I am telling the truth when I say, by doing that you are actually probably making her even more sad and hateful than ever. Because even if she pushes you away, in her heart this aspect of hers speaks louder than her words. She wants you there in her life, being a mother to her. You two have somewhat wide Mars-Mercury conjunction which is what is leading me to suspect she can sometimes throw out some serious verbal insults and disrespect due to the fires of Mars fueling her ability to communicating - making some words biting and sharp. But it's important to try to see past her words and look deep into her heart. Why I feel that Sydney's desire for protection and emotional care yet the horribly frustrating inability to show it to you, her mother, is causing these issues is because her Moon causes some definite issues in the synastry. For emotional issues between people you see if the Moon has any hard aspects. It seems your Moon makes no hard aspects to her planets which is why you are probably the one reaching out and saying, Yes I love her but she can hurt me so much. Well the reason why is because Sydney's Moon is the one with all the squares and hard aspects against your planets in the chart. There's Saturn square Moon to start with, meaning that the relationship could make both or one of you feel emotionally stifled and cold. Saturn at its worst can be a restrictive planet so one or both people in this relationship are going to be feeling restricted in emotional expression and sad in their heart at times from the way that the other person reacts. The other person could be unexpectedly tight-lipped, overtly logical, or too intense for the other to handle. This serious aspect is what most likely lead you to feel stifled by her and as you said, just wanting to keep your distance from her. The goal for you both is to understand how to emotionally express yourselves freely around one another. It's apparent that Sydney is fueling into Saturn, the other side of Chiron (it's situated between Uranus and Saturn). She might be the one doing the censoring, right? She might be doing this to avoid giving into her deepest pains about you and your relationship. To be cold and snippy might be easier for her than to break down and face the pain of her heart. Why you most likely feel so loving of her but just so frustrated and confused about the whole thing is your Venus quincunx her Jupiter. This is basically saying that the love you feel for her is definitely there; but it is quincunx her planet of luck and expansion, making you feel like something about the relationship makes it often subject to bad luck. In other words, everything could be going OK and then suddenly, as if bad luck strikes, the other person does something to ruin it all. Another reason Sydney could seem disrespectful to you is because the things you could say in arguing with her or being annoyed with her could hurt her so much deep down, she might feel the need to strike out and get revenge against you. I'm saying this because of the Mars-Mercury conjunction, but also because her Moon squares your Mercury, making her sensitive Cancer Moon (heart) painfully aware of each negative or angry thing you've ever said to her. She could possibly harbor old insults you've said, like from even years back, and throw them back into your face for whatever reason; Cancer is rooted in the memory, it is a sign that is hurt easily and does NOT easily forget. Both need to become aware of one another's feelings in reaction to words. A key issue that seems to be cropping up is a miscommunication error - neither know how to be sensitive to the other's feelings. One reacts to the other's seemingly cruel or sharp words by lashing out emotionally and/or verbally and then, by being so closed-off and rude that the second person just thinks that they can't be around them anymore.... It is a tough situation. But you know, Ann, looking it this it is NOT a hopeless one. The key to it all seems rooted in Syndney's Moon-Chiron conjunction. She desperately seems to need love. And if you actually forcibly break through those barriers and 'force' love onto her, she might just learn how to start accepting more your deep loving feelings towards her. Pride could be holding or back, or other things. But deep down she does want it, it might just take her time to allow herself to accept it, which is the key challenge to Moon-Chiron. I hope this helped. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 34347 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 14, 2012 11:19 PM
WOW Her Chiron is smack bad on your Uranus.------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 34347 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 14, 2012 11:21 PM
Neptune conj Sun/Merc You won't see each other but there can be deceptions, tooChiron conj Uranus. How do I explain that. All her pain comes to the part of you that wants to be unique and out of the box about who you are. Does that fit? ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Beautiful Disaster Knowflake Posts: 36 From: In the stars Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 15, 2012 12:17 AM
Oh my god my mom is the same way too.She doesnt understand my love of animals either. She talks about everyone's faults without looking at herself first.
She swears shes perfect and always say rude things in public for no reason. Something is always wrong.
She always complains to me and my sister about getting check ups and to take advantage because we have insurance. Mind you she's had a huge bunion on her toe for 3 years she's done nothing about :/
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awakemer Knowflake Posts: 139 From: sherman oaks, ca,USA Registered: Aug 2011
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posted July 15, 2012 01:17 AM
beautiful disaster.. she has moon in virgo just like my mother.. who also loved to gossip.I don't like to generalize and say all virgos are gossipy but I feel some tend to be.. and they can be very critical of others and the leo planets would make her not do much introspection. IP: Logged |
Beautiful Disaster Knowflake Posts: 36 From: In the stars Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 15, 2012 02:28 AM
quote: Originally posted by awakemer: beautiful disaster.. she has moon in virgo just like my mother.. who also loved to gossip.I don't like to generalize and say all virgos are gossipy but I feel some tend to be.. and they can be very critical of others and the leo planets would make her not do much introspection.
I always thought it was her virgo moon. Nags.
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Ann7 Knowflake Posts: 94 From: united states Registered: May 2009
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posted July 15, 2012 05:28 AM
Wow, sweet scorpion! Thank you so much! I see a lot of what you are talking about, especially when you say that she is more sensitive than she lets on (yes, very true). She tries to put on a tough front but I know she is a big softy. No matter how hard she pushes, I've never walked away. On the other hand, her father has walked out on us several times so maybe that's where you're reading the abandonment issue (chiron/moon). They now seem to have a decent relationship but in her heart she knows his nature. I feel that most of the issues I have with my daughter stem from her 8th house mars - she wants what she wants and tends to railroad the other person until she gets it. Also, she has extremely selfish tendencies. The saturn/moon thing- I think we are both cold and snippy as a result of frustration. And she is definitely not doing the censoring. She is prone to saying some unbelievably horrible things when she is angry, not just with me but with anyone that crosses her path. I find that most of the times Syd is disrespectful is when she isn't getting her own way. It seems, or at least, I feel that unless I am constantly doing for her she gets bitter and mean. An example of our issues - I have been helping her for 3 years now by offering her my time and money (the first year paying for the bulk of her bills while she was pregnant, the last two years babysitting my grandson while she works). I am at a point where I have to switch jobs (if I don't I will have no money) and can no longer help her like I once did. She is extremely resentful of this, assuming that things should be a certain way. There is no regard for my life and no gratitude for all that I have done. Just bitterness because I can't keep doing it. Along with all of the negative, I know my daughter has a lot of wonderful positives and I love her --very-- much... If I didn't I wouldn't lie awake at night worrying about how to fix this. Anyway, I have read and re-read everything you wrote. I see a lot of areas that I can work on to make our relationship better. Thank you again!!! IP: Logged |
Lonake Moderator Posts: 8295 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 15, 2012 08:23 PM
quote: Originally posted by Beautiful Disaster: Oh my god my mom is the same way too. (...) This is her chart:
Your Mom has Merc opp Saturn. This is NOT an aspect I'd ever want to see in a parent's chart. Scheming, critical, close-minded, assuming facts about people that happily collide with their negative mindset. It's ugly. I don't know how or if your natal plugs into your mom's opp, Beautiful Disaster, but if it does, and in a bad way, esp with Mars, just drown her out however you can, for the sake of your sanity. I've known people like this. The older they get, the more they're resistant to change and it never helps when a negative mentality is triggered. It's no wonder you're put off. quote: She talks about everyone's faults without looking at herself first. She swears shes perfect and always say rude things in public for no reason. Something is always wrong.
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Ann7 Knowflake Posts: 94 From: united states Registered: May 2009
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posted July 16, 2012 06:05 AM
Hi Lonake, I have this placement and I'm extremely open minded, very fair and very peace loving. If anything, I came to this thread to seek some help and advice, which I've taken as well as constructive criticism that I'm grateful for. There are a lot of people that have less than desirable placements, I'd like to think that some people are more evolved in how they handle/ center the energy involved.Personally, I will argue if I think I have a valid point (like now, for instance - btw, please know that I mean no disrespect). I also find with this placement that I have a very hard time verbally articulating what I'm thinking and that a lot of times I come across sounding harsher than I mean too. I will also own up to being critical but it's more in a smart ass way and more self critical than anything else. As far as close minded, assuming and scheming, those I am not. IP: Logged |
Lonake Moderator Posts: 8295 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 16, 2012 04:21 PM
I have zero respect for defensiveness on this board, and I've made that clear multiple times.IP: Logged |
Ann7 Knowflake Posts: 94 From: united states Registered: May 2009
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posted July 16, 2012 08:49 PM
Hi Lonake, that wasn't meant defensively. It's hard to interpret how someone is coming across when it's written and not verbal. (This is a good example of how the placement plagues me). Erm, if that wasn't meant for me, then I'm a derp and ignore this, lol. IP: Logged |
SpooL Knowflake Posts: 447 From: Toronto/Ottawa,Canada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 16, 2012 10:46 PM
Cancer women are like that. I have one question, Whats your mothers relationship like with your father?. If they experience an insecure relationship or some problems, they will act non motherly. My mom started becoming a b*tch after she started having problems with my dad. I know how you feel, I've had it with my Cancer mother. They cut back on all the bare necessities needed to raise there children, they provide no encouragement and did I mention they cut back anywhere they can. They think its cute to have children, but neglect how to raise them. A good comparison of a Cancer mother is the narrow minded gardener that assumes all that is needed for a plant to bloom is water. The d*mb gardener doesn't understand the importance of sunlight and soil, then the plant struggles to grow. -------------------------------- Capircorn Rising Gemini Sun, 5th House Aries Moon Mercury in Gemini Venus In Taurus IP: Logged |
ceecee* Newflake Posts: 21 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 16, 2012 11:20 PM
mothers are tough they're ours until we die. My mom is like this, she wants what is best for me so she controls me. whatever is going on with your mom she might just need to exert herself on you because she loves you.IP: Logged |
Ann7 Knowflake Posts: 94 From: united states Registered: May 2009
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posted July 16, 2012 11:21 PM
quote: Originally posted by ceecee*: mothers are tough they're ours until we die. My mom is like this, she wants what is best for me so she controls me. whatever is going on with your mom she might just need to exert herself on you because she loves you.
I'm not condoning trying to control another person, but speaking as a mom and a grandmom, it's hard not to worry..Which is usually followed by trying to correct. Personally, it is very hard for me to sit back when I see my kids about to do something that I know will hurt them in the long run. It can be a no win situation at times. If you do say something, you're a "know it all". If you don't say anything, you're a horrible parent that didn't, at least try to, protect your kid. This isn't to say that all moms are good. I've met a few that should have never had children. But most of us mean well regardless of how much we might nag IP: Logged |
Beautiful Disaster Knowflake Posts: 36 From: In the stars Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 17, 2012 03:03 AM
quote: Originally posted by Lonake: [QUOTE]Originally posted by Beautiful Disaster: [b]Oh my god my mom is the same way too. (...) This is her chart:
Your Mom has Merc opp Saturn. This is NOT an aspect I'd ever want to see in a parent's chart. Scheming, critical, close-minded, assuming facts about people that happily collide with their negative mindset. It's ugly. I don't know how or if your natal plugs into your mom's opp, Beautiful Disaster, but if it does, and in a bad way, esp with Mars, just drown her out however you can, for the sake of your sanity. I've known people like this. The older they get, the more they're resistant to change and it never helps when a negative mentality is triggered. It's no wonder you're put off. Classic.[/B][/QUOTE] Oh my god I am seriously laughing. You described her perfectly.
She thinks nagging is love for some reason. She will literally lecture and keep saying the same thing over and over again in different ways. I have had some nasty shoutings matches with her where I literally had to yell shut the ***** up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know its not right but she really makes my blood boil. There were times I wanted to seriously hit her. Never did though. She's very negative always thinking bad. Swears everyones out to get her. Talks bad about everyone. Most of the time she has a grumpy mean face. People always ask whats up with your mom? My father committed suicide when i was very young and honestly til this day I don't think she helped much. he was depressed since he was younger and her coldness and nagging probably made it worse. She's not understanding in that way. Don't get me wrong we can get along and joke and crack up.....maybe our Gemini Suns bonding?
Another example is. Me, my mom, and capricorn sister will be at a restaurant eating and my mom will make a loud comments about the food not tasting good when she knows it does. People hear it and we literally have to tell her to shut up and stop being rude. Then she smirks.
She knows what she is doing.
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