posted June 30, 2012 02:23 PM            

We were later officially introduced and he gave me a big smile, I asked him if he graduated from my college and he replied that he didn't. A few days later he came in the office to turn in some paper work to my coworker. I was doing something else and he started talking to me about the weather and then we went on to talking about other things like where we were from, college and tv.

The weird thing was the convo just seemed to flow, not at all like we were at work or anything. Anyway that was a week ago and for some reason I can't stop thinking about this guy. The weird thing is that when he was around I had this huge desire for him to do really dirty things to me lol.

I actually emailed him (ugh I know I actually admonished myself for this, he may have been super creeped out and it was not terribly professional) with the company directory. I found out by a co-worker that he has a son and a few years ago while he was still in college he adopted him. He had him when he was 17, but the mother was killed by her boyfriend when the child was 9 months old. And he spent those years fighting her parents for custody. Anyway when I heard this I thought it was terrible, and that he could maybe use help in the area. I said that if he needed help figuring out where anything was or needed anything that I would be more than willing to help. I know what it's like to move abruptly to a place and not know anything or that many people. I also said I hope he was enjoying working at our company so far. He replied back. The email said, "Thanks____ (my name) I'll keep you in mind if I have any questions about the area. _____(name of our company) has kept me pretty busy so far. I replied back and said, "you're welcome, and if you needs anything my cell is such and such, and don't hesitate to contact me. And I'm glad he's enjoying our company."

I don't get it. The mantra, "he's just not that into you" springs into mind. I guess I'm wondering if I'm the only one who felt it, or felt something...or is it completely in my head. If he's not sexually attracted to me I understand...but I also enjoyed talking to him, and would like to at least have him as a friend. I guess I just thought there would be desire to keep the convo going as in person he was more than willing to keep it going when my coworker would leave the room and even after she came in. I should add he isn't married.

I normally don't post much, but this attraction and the fact that I can't get him out of my mind has made me wonder what the heck is going on with me.

Me:
7/3/85 Born in Brea, Ca at 5:34 am

Him:
6/17/85 Born in Toledo, Oh at around 4:15 am (we also talked about when we were born)

I know we have Asc Conjunct Mars, and Mars Conjunct Sun, the same Mars and Venus...and his Mercury is Conjunct my Sun/Asc/Mars (which is probably the reason I liked talking to him) and others that might be the culprit for my strong attraction.

Have any of you had these aspects or what type of aspects have you experienced that resulted in an intense attraction.

posted June 30, 2012 03:40 PM            

It depends sometimes, some people take a little longer to notice others, but if you flirt with them they will usually start to like you. I feel like the guys who liked me who i didnt like back only wanted to win me over, because we just didnt have the chemistry. So they didnt actually like me, it just might have been about winning me over because they thought i was pretty.

Funny things have happened to me. Like for example, once I was walking by a group of people on campus and i noticed one of the guys in the group was really hot. Three days later there was a performance, and I randomly got on stage and asked if I could sing because they had the background for this jazz song I know, and after the show, he came up to me and was like bewildered and really nervous, and it was very obvious he liked me too. Yet, he hadnt even seen me before that. Another time I was walking to class and this guy was walking really far away, and i thought he was really cute. Then, like a month later we both happened to be in a mutual group of friends, it was my second time seeing him, and when i joined the group he immedtialy made eye contact with me and smiled like he liked me. Another time, I was sitting next to people i didnt know at a party and there was a guy sitting next to me but i hadnt seen his face because it was dark, but i guess he had seen mine because he started talking to me and being really friendly, and then when i could see his face in better light i was like oh he's really cute. and we hit it off. Another time, there was a guy who was friends with my guy friend and we made really strong eye contact and after that i could tell he liked me bc every time he saw me he would look at me with puppy eyes. Recently, i was walking to the bus that takes you from campus to campus and i saw this guy walking in front of me who i thought seemed really cute from the way he was dressed and the side of his face, and well i never actually saw his face but i just walked ahead of him a little and got on the bus and i didnt know if he was even going for the bus or gonna drive home in his car or what. But when i got off the bus i sat down on a bench to see if he did go on the bus and it was so funny because he actually got off the bus and started looking for me, and then he started pacing nervously looking up at me from time to time as if he was thinking about how to approach me. He ended up asking me if he could use my phone haha. But he seemed so nervous. It was just really funny how we had both liked each other just by looking at each other when we never even made eye contact. There are a lot more examples of times when I've just really connected with a guy and they looked me up on facebook, or when i didnt even talk to or sometimes even make eye contact with a guy but we both liked each other because of our synastry and composite

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posted June 30, 2012 04:46 PM            

It's not too terribly often I feel such a strong attraction for anyone. With this guy from work I'm baffled. There seemed to be chemistry, I'm wondering if it's the Cancer Mars (opp Neptune) that's making him taciturn. I have the same Mars but in the 1st and conjunct my Sun and Asc.

He had an opportunity to keep the convo going (he's a double Gemini so I know he's got to be a talker)...so what gives lol. Esp since his Moon's ruling planet (Mercury) is right on my Asc,and Conjunct my Sun and Mars.

I've dated another double Gemini before with Mercury in Cancer. His was also right on my Asc, and Conjunct my Sun and Mars. To this day he can't let go. He had Taurus Mars that touched my Taurus Venus. This Gemini from work has a Taurus Venus like I do.

posted June 30, 2012 05:27 PM            

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posted June 30, 2012 05:33 PM            

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posted June 30, 2012 11:16 PM            

Penny you are right. I agree with this. I guess I'm just kinda bummed that he wasn't interested or at the very least open to friendship. I haven't had an immediate attraction to someone like this in a VERY long time. I've just been telling myself that maybe he talked a lot to me because he was being friendly and that his attraction to me was in my head. His reply back was polite, but did not in any way convey he was interested. Plus he has my number so even if he is a super cautious Cancer Mars I'm sure he would have texted by now if he was interested. My poor Cap moon gets negative about things very quickly lol. Plus I'm feeling beyond stupid and a bit embarrassed...I still have to see this guy at work...and I'm sure he picked up on my interest.

Runaround we have one big negative Saturn aspect...his Saturn is Opposite my Venus...which I have natally. He does not have it natally. It's also in the Composite.

posted July 01, 2012 12:27 AM            

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posted July 01, 2012 01:30 AM            

Your venus exactly conjuncts his Ascendant, and trines your moon. His Mars is on his way to conjunct your AC. Sexual attractions should be mutual. On top of that, his Mars and your Pluto loosely trine. You mentioned you had desire for him to do really dirty things to you, Mars/Pluto contact is extremely sexual.

His Mercury conjuncts your AC, exact., and as you described conversation would¡¯ve flow effortlessly. These are the indicators of initial attraction.

However, this relationship is rather a heavy one. You said in your original post that you would lend a helping hand to him. That is huge commitment, but you offered as if you are asking him out for lunch. You might feel extremely sympathetic towards the guy, if not indebted to him. I¡¯ve noticed his Chiron/moon/sun/mars/mercury all fall in your 12th house which is the house of hidden karmic debts.

posted July 01, 2012 01:43 AM            

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Originally posted by GrlyGirl200:

Runaround we have one big negative Saturn aspect...his Saturn is Opposite my Venus...

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posted July 01, 2012 02:01 AM            

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posted July 02, 2012 01:06 PM            

His venus exact conjunct my AC. , and also saturn, mercury sun loose conjunction.

A whole pack of his planets fallen in my 12th house , which are Jupiter, sun, mercury, saturn, venus , NN.

And we have mars square pluto, he is cancer mars .

With this venus conjunct AC aspect , I heard that the Ac person will notice the venus person first. Like me , I saw him first .. but I don't know in your case , you saw him first and you the venus's person.

At the first tme, we've met , he's like a magnetic dark force for me. I coundn't let him out of my mind . I try not too interested him as much as I could . Then one day, I think (WTF) , just do the synastry , I 'm shocked . And I just decided I will go far away from him as I could . I decided I just want to admire him from the distance . He is super Virgo (every planets 'here) and cancer mars , so I think he will not easily notice me .

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Originally posted by Milkyshutter:
I saw your synastry chart with his. You know that your birthdays are very close to one another, so many of the planets are not apart. So, that convolutes the reading, but it could also mean that it is easier to build rapport and comradery.

Your venus exactly conjuncts his Ascendant, and trines your moon. His Mars is on his way to conjunct your AC. Sexual attractions should be mutual. On top of that, his Mars and your Pluto loosely trine. You mentioned you had desire for him to do really dirty things to you, Mars/Pluto contact is extremely sexual.

His Mercury conjuncts your AC, exact., and as you described conversation would¡¯ve flow effortlessly. These are the indicators of initial attraction.

However, this relationship is rather a heavy one. You said in your original post that you would lend a helping hand to him. That is huge commitment, but you offered as if you are asking him out for lunch. You might feel extremely sympathetic towards the guy, if not indebted to him. I¡¯ve noticed his Chiron/moon/sun/mars/mercury all fall in your 12th house which is the house of hidden karmic debts.

I don't really see heavy indication of romance. If you ask me, I think you deserve a better guy.

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posted July 02, 2012 04:58 PM            

But I do have a question for you guys. This is my first "grown up" job...I'm an assistant in HR...so the more I thought about it I realized I put him in an awkward and unprofessional position. Do you think it's the best for me to casually but respectfully apologize if I get an opportunity to talk to him? Really when I said I wanted to help him find things...I meant code word (but couldn't say it lol) bars and clubs. Basically I talked to him like a peer and he's not. He's an engineer and I'm just an assistant. So do you think it's best I do apologize for not respecting his position, and that we aren’t peers. I trust you guys to be much more knowledgeable about what to do on a job and what not to do lol. I think if it were an older person I would apologize. So is it best if I do it in this circumstance?

Actually LovelyKitty he kinda saw me first. I wasn't going to talk to him (beyond hi) or really look at him...because of above. I don't really talk to the higher up people...to them I'm a nobody lol. So I felt like someone was looking at me when I came in. Granted he were passing each other, but I wasn't focused on anyone and you can tell when someone is focused on you. And that’s when we made eye contact and he gave me a half smile. It wasn’t me who noticed him until I felt like someone was looking at me.