posted July 04, 2012 09:29 AM            

What Kind of Lover is He?
By amiann | Published: July 3, 2012

You can tell what kind of a lover he will be by how he talks. Does he talk incessantly, so you have to hit him with a sledge hammer to get in a word? Does he shut up and go into a shell? Does he grunt instead of converse? Does he explain his feelings, deeply and passionately. Astrologically, when we talk about how he converses, we need to look at his Mercury. Mercury is the planet of communication. Mercury rules Gemini and Virgo. With these two signs, you have a lot of mental activity. I think Mercury really rules Gemini and Chiron rules Virgo. However, that is a subject for another day. To me, Mercury in Gemini is the best communicator of the Zodiac.

However, both Gemini and Virgo have fluid mental processes, but the sign, alone, will not make one a good communicator. Actually, it is a complicated process, I realize, as I attempt to elaborate on it. WHEW. A good lover communicates with his body and his mind. That is what he is doing, if you break it down. He is expressing himself( body, mind and soul) and he is reading you (body, mind and soul). Making love is a complex form of communication.

A good lover will have a well placed and aspected Mercury, the planet of communication. If his Mercury has many squares, which are aspects of non connection between planets( to put it simply), I think he would not have the connections to be a good lover.Lets take some squares and see how they would play out. If a man had Mercury square the Moon, his ability to communicate would be thwarting his emotions( the Moon) If his Mercury squares his Ascendant, his ability to communicate would have a war with his external self(how he acts in the world)which is his Ascendant.In each of the above examples, his Mercury is not free to let loose.

One of my all time favorite aspects in a mans chart is Mercury conjunct Mars. This man will be honest. He will tell you how he feels. He will not be politically correct. He will not be wimpy in how he expresses his thoughts and feelings. He will tell it like it is. I think this is super, super sexy.

Mercury in the various signs makes for a different flavor in expression. Mercury in the bold sign of Aries would speak his mind. He may be cave man like, though, in an Archie Bunker manner. Mercury in Taurus may think and reason, slowly. He may take his time with how he speaks and how he makes love. Mercury in Gemini loves words, as a Taurus loves food and sweets. Mercury in Gemini would say all the right words, if you are the type who loves words as an aphrodisiac.Mercury in Leo will be confident and speak with a sense of ease about himself. Mercury in Scorpio will be attracted to dark things such as fetishes and kinky fantasies. Mercury in Saggi may not be able to explain himself well, verbally, as this Mercury is in it’s detriment. Mercury in Cappy will speak tastefully. Mercury in Aquarius may be detached from his emotions. Mercury in Pisces is an interesting one. He is not a linear thinker. He may not be logical,as Pisces has one foot in the next dimension of creativity and mysticism. However, all Mercury in Pisces natives will be quick to tell you that Albert Einstein was a Mercury in Pisces So, I will leave Mercury in Pisces to you, to decipher.

Before, I get off Mercury in the signs, I will explain Venus in the signs, as it relates to this discussion. Your Venus is what you find beautiful. Venus in Gemini loves words. Venus in Scorpio loves dark passions, black silk , spike heels, whips and chains and kink. Venus in Saggi loves humor, a sense of adventure and a joy about life. Venus in Cappy likes antiques, things of value, things that one can respect such as values of loyalty and fidelity. Venus in Aqua loves to help those who are far away, but my not want to snuggle up to the person who is beside him. Venus in Aqua may live in his head, not his body. Venus in Taurus loves sensual things whether they be good food or long lingering kisses. From this, I hope you can see how Venus plays into this.

In trying to answer the question, I realized that I bit off a lot. However, we are into it, now. We have looked at his ease, or non ease, of communication(Mercury)We have looked at what he loves(Venus). I will discuss the Mars, as this is is drive and how he will express it. One’s Mars is a direct look into the drive of a man. If a man can communicate like chocolate dripping off a mouth(Mercury), but cannot go after the woman of his desires, you do not have much to go on. So, one must always look at the Mars when one wants to see what kind of lover he will be. A strong Mars will be a man who can chase. A weak Mars will render him impotent, not to use the wrong word. A weak Mars may make him unable to go after you and later, to fight for you. Mars in Cancer is a weak Mars. If one is a woman, it is one thing, as woman do not have to chase. If one is a man, it can be a problem. Mars in Pisces is a a weak Mars, as it is too dreamy and other worldly. A strong Mars would be Aries, as it has fire to achieve what it wants. The strongest Mars is in Scorpio. It has all the best concerning drive and persistence. It is the sexiest Mars sign, bar none.

To finish off the discussion, I will talk about synastry, a bit. One man’s passion is another man’s poison. So, the man who would make you wild in bed, could be thrown out by another woman. Synastry rules. It does and it always will. If you want to get into a serious relationship, check the synastry. If you want to get married, put a synastry chart on your wedding registry along with the silver and dishes. It will go a long way when the silver is tarnished and the dish patterns have become yesterdays news.

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posted July 04, 2012 09:57 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
If his Mercury squares his Venus, his communication ability would be fighting with his ability to love freely( Venus).

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Oops, Mercury and Venus cannot square each other in a natal chart, Ami! They're too close to each other, they can only make a conjunction or a sextile (or some minor aspects).

Hey, Mars in Cancer can be quite assertive and has no trouble chasing when they really want something (or someone)! Especially if it's supported by other aspects, like a trine to Pluto or the Sun, etc. But I see what you mean, it's in its fall after all and that is usually considered "weak". Probably because Cancer is too emotional for the go-getter Mars.

I love how you always mention Mars in Scorpio in your articles! So endearing. *ego inflates* even though I'm a girl lol.

Oh and also, I think hard aspects to Mercury would actually make the individual quite focused on communication, maybe they have problems expressing themselves in an adequate manner but usually they'd be willing to work these issues out and may become very eloquent and good communicators. Hard aspects make us aware of our issues and force us to work on them! That's why they're so potent. =)

posted July 04, 2012 09:58 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Oops, Mercury and Venus cannot square each other in a natal chart, Ami! They're too close to each other, they can only make a conjunction or a sextile (or some minor aspects).

Hey, Mars in Cancer can be quite assertive and has no trouble chasing when they really want something (or someone)! Especially if it's supported by other aspects, like a trine to Pluto or the Sun, etc. But I see what you mean, it's in its fall after all and that is usually considered "weak". Probably because Cancer is too emotional for the go-getter Mars.

I love how you always mention Mars in Scorpio in your articles! So endearing. *ego inflates* even though I'm a girl lol.

Oh and also, I think hard aspects to Mercury would actually make the individual quite focused on communication, maybe they have problems expressing themselves in an adequate manner but usually they'd be willing to work these issues out and may become very eloquent and good communicators. Hard aspects make us aware of our issues and force us to work on them! That's why they're so potent. =)

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OOPS Thanks Doux! xxx

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posted July 04, 2012 10:08 AM            

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posted July 04, 2012 10:26 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
It's okay Ami sweetie! No worries

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Thanks Sweetie!

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posted July 04, 2012 10:33 AM            

And its quite apt to say that the sqaure between mercury and mars has made me work on my communication ability consciously.

I do tend to speak fast and slur my words, due to the fact that I am trying to put both sides of the argument(mars in Libra) in a clear, concise way(mercury in cap).

Mercury(Cap) opposition Moon (Can)makes me able to argue without taking it too personaly.

But I do consider arguments against my reasoning ability or being called "stupid"-no matter how unintended- hurts my feelings a lot(Moon Cancer).

Someone I often have debates with has Mercury/mars conjunction in Fire(Sagittarius). I often feel like he comes across as "know it all" and "matter of fact" in his opinion.

I find that sometimes, even when I know that I do have a point in mind, he has a way of making it seem ridiculous(and ludicrous). To be honest, I avoid talking to him for lengthly periods.

posted July 04, 2012 10:46 AM            

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Interesting! Thank you so much for sharing. I need to add Moons, too!

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posted July 04, 2012 11:07 AM            

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As always, this is my personal opinion, combined with my personal observations and experience of doing charts.

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A good lover will have a well placed and aspected Mercury...If his Mercury squares his Venus, his communication ability would be fighting with his ability to love freely( Venus).

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Fascinating.

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Oops, Mercury and Venus cannot square each other in a natal chart, Ami! They're too close to each other...

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ROTFLMAO!!! kekeke...

posted July 04, 2012 11:15 AM            

I am out doing things with my life and HELPING people. Can you say the same? Use your energy to UPLIFT, not tear down.

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posted July 04, 2012 11:09 PM            

I need to talk about the Moons. I was reminded my my dear friend, DL, that the Moon is a major player in our connection to our emotions.Some moons are very connected to their emotions. Some moons are not.The Moon which is the most connected to it’s emotions is the Cancer Moon, as the Moon is in it’s home. All water Moons are emotional creatures. Pisces is too sensitive for this world. Scorpio Moon is very sensitive, but wears a suit or armor, which it takes a very long time to penetrate. The Moon in Taurus is a sweetheart and connected to his emotions. The Moon is exalted in Taurus. The Cappy Moon is classic for being a planning Moon rather than a feeling Moon. This could be a “marry for money moon” as it is very,very practical. Practicality can trump feelings. Libra Moon is a hard Moon. This is called the Courtesans Moon, as they can have sex with no feeling, according to folk lore. Aqua Moon and Virgo Moons are cold moons. Aqua likes to detach from feelings. Virgo is very, very picky about anything, including his feelings ( and yours). I do need to add a very important piece of information, when talking about Moons. If your Moon is in good aspect( trine or sextile) with another person’s moon, you will have simpatico. Watch your moons for soul connections. The synastry with the moons trumps the sign of the Moon, in my opinion.

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posted July 05, 2012 02:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I added this about Moons:

I need to talk about the Moons. I was reminded my my dear friend, DL, that the Moon is a major player in our connection to our emotions.Some moons are very connected to their emotions. Some moons are not.The Moon which is the most connected to it’s emotions is the Cancer Moon, as the Moon is in it’s home. All water Moons are emotional creatures. Pisces is too sensitive for this world. Scorpio Moon is very sensitive, but wears a suit or armor, which it takes a very long time to penetrate. The Moon in Taurus is a sweetheart and connected to his emotions. The Moon is exalted in Taurus. The Cappy Moon is classic for being a planning Moon rather than a feeling Moon. This could be a “marry for money moon” as it is very,very practical. Practicality can trump feelings. Libra Moon is in it’s Fall. This is called the Courtesans Moon, as they can have sex with no feeling, according to folk lore. Aqua Moon and Virgo Moons are cold moons. Aqua likes to detach from feelings. Virgo is very, very picky about anything, including his feelings ( and yours). I do need to add a very important piece of information, when talking about Moons. If your Moon is in good aspect( trine or sextile) with another person’s moon, you will have simpatico. Watch your moons for soul connections. The synastry with the moons trumps the sign of the Moon, in my opinion.

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posted July 05, 2012 08:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
What you said would make sense for Mercury square Moon.
Maybe edit it to Moon.
It's actually accurate for Moon/Merc.. in my own experience...

With the square it's difficult for them to express/communicate their actual emotions - There is a disconnect happening.

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Thank you Odette! Yes, the squares are a thwarting that will always be there. I know people can say that it forces you to overcome. However, it will always be one leg shorter than the other, imo
This goes for any of our challenges such as a planet in the Fall.

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posted July 05, 2012 10:10 AM            

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Originally posted by 12thhouser:
Mercury in Aquarius has perspective on his or her emotions, not detached (as in removed). Aquarius is the sign of "being in control." As an air sign, think of Aquarius as a bubble in water (emotions).

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Interesting perspective! Thanks 12th houser

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posted July 05, 2012 04:07 PM            

The horny goat weed is called that for a reason

We're normally subdued but once the switch goes on we're insatiable.

posted July 05, 2012 05:26 PM            

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Sun in pisces
Moon in scorpio
Venus, Mars, and Mercury in Aries
Capricorn rising

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Sun in aries
moon in virgo
Mercury in pisces
Venus in Taurus
Mars in capricorn
Capricorn rising

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posted July 05, 2012 05:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Thefish:
Us Mars in Capricorn always get the short shift when compared to Mars in Aries.

The horny goat weed is called that for a reason

We're normally subdued but once the switch goes on we're insatiable.

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Great info. Thank you. Too bad you can't sample everyone

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posted July 05, 2012 05:35 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Two of the guys I've met/known I think would make really great lovers. They were really sensual. I think pisces/taurus/aries/capricorn combination people are pretty sensual---and libra and cancer sun people.

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Sun in pisces
Moon in scorpio
Venus, Mars, and Mercury in Aries
Capricorn rising

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Sun in aries
moon in virgo
Mercury in pisces
Venus in Taurus
Mars in capricorn
Capricorn rising

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Thank you. Interesting insights!

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