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Topic: Inability to handle emotions--cap moon, maybe?
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thisisaquarius Knowflake Posts: 51 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted July 13, 2012 05:24 PM
One of the things that I know for a fact I'm awful at is handling my personal emotions. Other people's I'm okay with: my friends always come to me for advice because I have a knack of being able to dig down into the nitty gritty of their emotional issues to come out with the heart of the matter. This sort of 'middle man' role is what I've played for my entire life, quite literally since I was nine or ten.My own emotions, however, are so confusing I simply don't know what to do with them. I laugh or smile when I'm upset or stressed, don't express affection well at all, and take ages to feel comfortable enough with a person to tell them that I love them. On the flip side, there are points where my emotions are so huge that I cannot control them and the burst out of me for no apparent reason whatsoever. For example: a half a year back my mom asked me if I wanted to go out for coffee with her. I felt sort of bad telling her no because I had already went out earlier that day, but I did and went back to messing around on the computer. Suddenly though I just felt overwhelmed with sadness, and when I tried to go and talk to my mom about it (it was horribly frightening) I burst out into tears. This went on for twenty minutes and ended up with me unable to support myself, in throes of tears and laughter on my living room floor for no apparent reason. Anyway, tangent over: is their anything in my chart that could be affecting me like this? I was thinking it could be a mix of having a lot of aqua and cap moon, but I really am so new to astrology I don't really know. http://i49.tinypic.com/1zdm9hi.jpg This is a link to my natal chart, in case that helps. IP: Logged |
Faith Knowflake Posts: 2041 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 13, 2012 05:43 PM
Third decan Aquarius is especially prone to laughing at what other people might consider inappropriate times.Emotional lability could come from Mercury conjunct Saturn in Pisces, trine Jupiter Scorpio, too. (Although I can't tell what the orbs are.) Basically you have a lot of psychic heavy stuff going on, and with it in your 11th house, it demands expression. It seems to be that it would be tough feeling like that with your moon on the rather volatile Cap-Aqua Cusp. As you develop along your nodal axis, from the Taurus-Gemini Cusp to the Scorpio-Sag Cusp, you will get better at expressing yourself more to your liking. Your chart gives me the impression that you are a VERY, VERY intelligent person. Emotional intelligence is just one more thing to develop. Best wishes to you. IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 797 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted July 13, 2012 06:07 PM
I don't relate to this.. I don't analyse my emotions. I just feel/experience.I think the fact that you are overanalysing is an air-sign thing. My Moon is in Capricorn, but I lack air. IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 797 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted July 13, 2012 06:09 PM
quote: I burst out into tears. This went on for twenty minutes and ended up with me unable to support myself, in throes of tears and laughter on my living room floor for no apparent reason.
It's all good. JUST do what you feel like doing. There is nothing 'wrong' with you. I mean - I'm sure we've all had nervous breakdowns before. I get the feeling you think you are weird.. but we all cope with things in different ways. It is not weird. IP: Logged |
thisisaquarius Knowflake Posts: 51 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted July 13, 2012 06:13 PM
quote: Originally posted by Faith: Third decan Aquarius is especially prone to laughing at what other people might consider inappropriate times.Emotional lability could come from Mercury conjunct Saturn in Pisces, trine Jupiter Scorpio, too. (Although I can't tell what the orbs are.) Basically you have a lot of psychic heavy stuff going on, and with it in your 11th house, it demands expression. It seems to be that it would be tough feeling like that with your moon on the rather volatile Cap-Aqua Cusp. As you develop along your nodal axis, from the Taurus-Gemini Cusp to the Scorpio-Sag Cusp, you will get better at expressing yourself more to your liking. Your chart gives me the impression that you are a VERY, VERY intelligent person. Emotional intelligence is just one more thing to develop. Best wishes to you.
Third decan is between the tenth and ninteenth, right? In which case I'd actually be in the second seeing as my birthday is the eight--close to the cusp though, if that matters at all. Orbs...that's something I'll have to go look up. I've been reading a bit and have seen them being mentioned, but haven't actually gotten around to figuring out what they mean or are calculated or anything. I'd agree with being heavy on psychic stuff. I have a feeling that if I could somehow figure out how to connect to that part of myself it would be amazing. Alas, all I've found so far is lucid dreaming, and that's not quite what I'm looking for, I don't think. Ah, thank you for responding, though! Everything here is so intriguing, I keep coming back even though I should probably get off the computer before my brain goes buggy...sigh. (As for being intelligent, I don't know but I'm definitely bigheaded. I tend to think more highly of myself than is probably necessary, so..... ) IP: Logged |
thisisaquarius Knowflake Posts: 51 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted July 13, 2012 06:23 PM
quote: Originally posted by Odette: I don't relate to this.. I don't analyse my emotions. I just feel/experience.I think the fact that you are overanalysing is an air-sign thing. My Moon is in Capricorn, but I lack air.
It's probably a combination of things, then. quote: Originally posted by Odette: It's all good. JUST do what you feel like doing. There is nothing 'wrong' with you.I mean - I'm sure we've all had nervous breakdowns before. I get the feeling you think you are weird.. but we all cope with things in different ways. It is not weird.
Hm, I think different is probably a better term than weird...maybe because I feel like all of my friends are taking different paths to growing up and I'm over here trying to figure out why on earth I'm not able to emote how it seems like they are. Not that it bothers me, because I really am happy that I'm feel unique. It just makes for a difficult transition into adulthood when there's no one around you who quite understands what you're going through! IP: Logged |
ueharaa Knowflake Posts: 202 From: Registered: Sep 2011
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posted July 13, 2012 07:53 PM
quote: Originally posted by thisisaquarius: One of the things that I know for a fact I'm awful at is handling my personal emotions. Other people's I'm okay with: my friends always come to me for advice because I have a knack of being able to dig down into the nitty gritty of their emotional issues to come out with the heart of the matter. This sort of 'middle man' role is what I've played for my entire life, quite literally since I was nine or ten.My own emotions, however, are so confusing I simply don't know what to do with them. I laugh or smile when I'm upset or stressed, don't express affection well at all, and take ages to feel comfortable enough with a person to tell them that I love them.
I can very much relate to everything you said except for the emotional outburst. My moon is in cap too and in the exact same degree as you! I find myself not being able to handle my emotions as long as I can't explain them. Ii's kind of weird but sometimes I truly feel like I can only experience my emotions once I have understood why I felt that way. If I don't then I sort of repress them or at least feel awkward about them. But even when I finally can explain what it is that I feel and why I feel like that I have a hard time expressing them. IP: Logged |
ueharaa Knowflake Posts: 202 From: Registered: Sep 2011
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posted July 13, 2012 08:03 PM
Your moon is conjunct uranus and neptune. Maybe the neptune conjunction explains your confused state about them and the uranus conjunction be the reason why sometimes they become "uncontrollable" and burst out? IP: Logged |
awakemer Knowflake Posts: 491 From: sherman oaks, ca,USA Registered: Aug 2011
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posted July 13, 2012 08:32 PM
quote: Originally posted by ueharaa: Your moon is conjunct uranus and neptune. Maybe the neptune conjunction explains your confused state about them and the uranus conjunction be the reason why sometimes they become "uncontrollable" and burst out?
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JohnFKennedy Knowflake Posts: 555 From: US Registered: Aug 2009
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posted July 13, 2012 08:49 PM
That's one fascinating chart you've got there. We also have pretty intense north node synastry together as well - I rarely feel inclined to interpret charts here but I'm thinking with your moon in an already "dispassionate" Capricorn, conjunct Uranus, you swing between emotions more often than you like to admit. With your stellium in Aquarius, you naturally feel inclined to step back from your skin and analyze your emotions as if they were something outside of yourself (the Uranian flavor of your moon intensifies this), but the conjunction to dreamy, emotional Neptune gives you major intuitive prowess. Not only do you have a rich emotional life, but you absorb other peoples feelings to an extreme degree, and THAT is probably the catalyst to releasing your own emotions at random (Uranus). Then to add to the tone of 'restraint', you have a Piscean Merucry conjunct a Piscean Saturn.. both signs in their detriment here. You exude control in your intellect but this also lacks boundaries, any kind of 'solidification'. Your mind and ideas come and go like the tides. They seem like pillars of strength but they can dissolve into something else just as strongly and rapidly. Again, a fascinating chart. Your chart ruler Venus is also conjunct Saturn as well.. IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius Knowflake Posts: 3928 From: Surfing Kite. Seriously. Registered: Aug 2010
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posted July 13, 2012 09:04 PM
And he is a teen,always good to remember IP: Logged |
thisisaquarius Knowflake Posts: 51 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted July 14, 2012 02:13 AM
quote: Originally posted by ueharaa: Your moon is conjunct uranus and neptune. Maybe the neptune conjunction explains your confused state about them and the uranus conjunction be the reason why sometimes they become "uncontrollable" and burst out?
Extremely interesting point there, especially with the uranus conjunction, which I definitely connect with. quote: Originally posted by JohnFKennedy: That's one fascinating chart you've got there. We also have pretty intense north node synastry together as well - I rarely feel inclined to interpret charts here but I'm thinking with your moon in an already "dispassionate" Capricorn, conjunct Uranus, you swing between emotions more often than you like to admit. With your stellium in Aquarius, you naturally feel inclined to step back from your skin and analyze your emotions as if they were something outside of yourself (the Uranian flavor of your moon intensifies this), but the conjunction to dreamy, emotional Neptune gives you major intuitive prowess. Not only do you have a rich emotional life, but you absorb other peoples feelings to an extreme degree, and THAT is probably the catalyst to releasing your own emotions at random (Uranus). Then to add to the tone of 'restraint', you have a Piscean Merucry conjunct a Piscean Saturn.. both signs in their detriment here. You exude control in your intellect but this also lacks boundaries, any kind of 'solidification'. Your mind and ideas come and go like the tides. They seem like pillars of strength but they can dissolve into something else just as strongly and rapidly. Again, a fascinating chart. Your chart ruler Venus is also conjunct Saturn as well..
I feel like you're hitting the nail on the head right now, and I'm feeling much better now that I have explanations for /why/ I get like this. It'd make sense that empathizing with people would be what eventually drives me to forcibly emote. When I was younger I was more prone to this too; my mom would sing me sad songs and I would burst into tears because I simply couldn't handle the emotional weight of them. I really think I ought to look into taking an astrology class sometime so I can better understand all of this, because it's incredibly fascinating. Thanks so much for taking the time to go through my chart! It's very, very appreciated. I have a lot to think about now. IP: Logged |
Mystic Melody Moderator Posts: 378 From: IL Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 14, 2012 09:20 PM
Air sun sign here with Cap moon. I can relate.IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl200 Knowflake Posts: 34 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted August 11, 2012 02:11 AM
quote: Originally posted by ueharaa: I can very much relate to everything you said except for the emotional outburst. My moon is in cap too and in the exact same degree as you! I find myself not being able to handle my emotions as long as I can't explain them. Ii's kind of weird but sometimes I truly feel like I can only experience my emotions once I have understood why I felt that way. If I don't then I sort of repress them or at least feel awkward about them. But even when I finally can explain what it is that I feel and why I feel like that I have a hard time expressing them.
Oh boy does this SOOO relate to me. I'm not an Air Sun or Asc. I'm actually a Water Sun and I'm terrible with my emotions. I try my hardest to step back from things and I analyze the crap out of something. In fact I hate that I can't control how I feel. I also have to know why I feel a certain way. In fact I dated an Aquarius Sun (it was his only Air placement) but he had a Pisces Mercury, and his Venus was Conjunct Neptune...I would ask him why he thought or felt the way he did...and he couldn't explain it. It just was (that is what frustrates me about Water Mercuries lol). I have a Yod between my Sun/Asc/Mars and Jupiter-Uranus Trine. I also have my Venus and NN in the 11th. Along with an Singleton Uranus, Mercury and IC Uranus (which being a Cancer Sun and Asc is a TERRIBLE thing to have...it's like a Uranus Moon aspect) Square, I do have some sort of Air in me lol. IP: Logged |
Kannon McAfee Knowflake Posts: 110 From: Portland, OR - USA Registered: Oct 2011
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posted August 11, 2012 07:45 PM
thisisaquarius,I hear ya. I was born when the Moon was in Capricorn. Moon conjunct Uranus-Neptune shows your internal complexity, that your essential mode of expression (Capricorn) in subjective, feeling things is to order it. It can be like working emotionally in left brain mode. With Uranus and Neptune so close to the Moon, however, there are two distinct energies of a soul-growth nature coming into play here. Uranus with the Moon allows for your great insight into others' psychology. Neptune increases your own sensitivity and feeling sensibilities at the cerebral level (imagination, empathy) so that you cannot 'keep it all under wraps.' Moon sextile Pluto shows that there is great intensity to what goes on inside you and it must be expressed. I'd say it is very important that you have some kind of creative outlet. Even drama might be good for you. Yes, I know it might seem like 'faking' emotion, but consider it play therapy. You will do better and better with time. You will be a silver haired fox, a youthful senior who learns more and more how to relax and appreciate yourself and others as you age gracefully. See if you can play a 'trick' on yourself in handling your own emotions: ask yourself "What would I do/say if this was happening to someone else?" Consider it in as detached a manner as you can and take your own advice! ------------------ World Class Rectification Specialist kannonmcafee.wordpress.com/ kannonmcafee@gmail.com IP: Logged |
earthypisces Knowflake Posts: 76 From: Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 11, 2012 07:57 PM
wow, this honestly sounded a lot like me. Cap Moon with Taurus Rising as well. I have a little bit of Aquarius also, although it's only in Mercury.IP: Logged |
Beautiful Disaster Knowflake Posts: 109 From: In the stars Registered: Nov 2011
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posted August 12, 2012 02:27 AM
Cap moon, aquarius moon....such a nightmare in my opinion.IP: Logged |
bhanna1110 Newflake Posts: 5 From: Registered: Jul 2012
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posted August 12, 2012 12:07 PM
I have my moon at 29 and 1/6 degrees capricorn and ascendant at 12 and 1/10 degrees taurus. Sun in 18 degrees scorp. I have had the laughing/crying thing before when I was younger. I also find it very difficult to express emotion. Now I try to control my emotions so that noone will see them, I have began crying for no apparent reason, if i am in public i just keep a straight face and noone will notice. I also tend to absorb other peoples emotions, even to the point of feeling nauseous or dizzy. I am extremely uncomfortable hugging people and I cant even say "I love you" to my parents. When I was a child, if i got extremely angry I would go lay down all various chairs in the house. My parents thought this was very funny, but this also shows what a tight reign I keep on my emotions, rather then explode, I adopt a cold and controlled fury. IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius Knowflake Posts: 3928 From: Surfing Kite. Seriously. Registered: Aug 2010
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posted August 12, 2012 01:27 PM
^That's not Cap doing.IP: Logged |
Nyah Knowflake Posts: 183 From: Europe Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 12, 2012 01:46 PM
quote: Originally posted by thisisaquarius: [B]One of the things that I know for a fact I'm awful at is handling my personal emotions. Other people's I'm okay with: my friends always come to me for advice because I have a knack of being able to dig down into the nitty gritty of their emotional issues to come out with the heart of the matter. This sort of 'middle man' role is what I've played for my entire life, quite literally since I was nine or ten.My own emotions, however, are so confusing I simply don't know what to do with them. I laugh or smile when I'm upset or stressed, don't express affection well at all, and take ages to feel comfortable enough with a person to tell them that I love them.
Cap Moon here. I can relate to this. For me my emotions are often confusing and I try to analyze what it is that I'm feeling, but my head and my heart don't communicate very well. People tend to think I'm cold and reserved, at least until they get to know me. But it's not about being emotionally numb. It's more like I have so many different emotions at the same time that I can't sort them out, and therefor not express them well or even at all. I laugh and joke when I have to say sad goodbyes, it's just too much. And sometimes I have such strong emotions that I'm scared I will explode if I let some of it out.. like lifting a lid and I will express too much instead. I don't know, I feel awkward. ------------------ Ascendant: Gemini Sun: Pisces Moon: Capricorn Mercury: Pisces Venus: Capricorn Mars: Aquarius IP: Logged |
freebrainstorms Knowflake Posts: 613 From: Registered: Sep 2010
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posted August 12, 2012 09:45 PM
quote: Originally posted by Faith: Third decan Aquarius is especially prone to laughing at what other people might consider inappropriate times.
Actually I'd say second decan based on me/my life experience - I grew up with two aquarius best friends and one was first, i was second, and the last was third and i was definitely the one who would laugh at weird times, the third as well but not nearly as much as me i'd say. my best friend's cat died and her mom broke it to me and another friend of ours (libra) and i starting weirdly giggling because i was so sad and loved that cat so much that i just couldn't figure out what to do or how to get my emotions out and my libra friend gave me SUCH a glare. Then my best (first aquraius decan) friend's mom went: all people react different ways and sometimes react in strange ways when they're unsure to to respond. i don't think the libra friend bought it but i loved the mom for understanding me. i'm an aqua sun, virgo moon so i'm air/earth as well.
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freebrainstorms Knowflake Posts: 613 From: Registered: Sep 2010
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posted August 12, 2012 09:47 PM
quote: Originally posted by Nyah: Cap Moon here. I can relate to this. For me my emotions are often confusing and I try to analyze what it is that I'm feeling, but my head and my heart don't communicate very well. People tend to think I'm cold and reserved, at least until they get to know me. But it's not about being emotionally numb. It's more like I have so many different emotions at the same time that I can't sort them out, and therefor not express them well or even at all. I laugh and joke when I have to say sad goodbyes, it's just too much. And sometimes I have such strong emotions that I'm scared I will explode if I let some of it out.. like lifting a lid and I will express too much instead. I don't know, I feel awkward.
I used to feel the exact same way and still do in some situations - usually the romantic ones, but it's lessened a little over time. it's hard because even though i'm not quite as awkward about my emotions as i used to be, i'm still more awkward than a lot of other people. my point being: i feel ya!
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Nyah Knowflake Posts: 183 From: Europe Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 13, 2012 04:21 AM
quote: Originally posted by freebrainstorms: I used to feel the exact same way and still do in some situations - usually the romantic ones, but it's lessened a little over time. it's hard because even though i'm not quite as awkward about my emotions as i used to be, i'm still more awkward than a lot of other people. my point being: i feel ya!
Good to know that I'm not alone thank you! I have a close friend that is extreeeemely emotional and I will actually recommend to have a friend like this! She expresses everything she feels and in the beginning I was so scared and confused by it but intrigued at the same time (I guess because I wanted to be like that too sometimes). Now she actually functions as some sort of emotional trigger for me, because I can be myself with her and express my emotions without feeling awkward because she will always respond very well to it. It's a blessing to have friends that can lure hidden sides out of you! IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius Knowflake Posts: 3928 From: Surfing Kite. Seriously. Registered: Aug 2010
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posted August 13, 2012 06:23 AM
Nyah,freebrainstorms would you mind posting your chart? Or listing your aspects?? IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 3575 From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop Registered: Sep 2011
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posted August 13, 2012 07:12 AM
I've had bad experiences with (some) Cap moons (though I do like Cap suns). I myself have a Cancer moon. I also have three other water placements and am an air Sun/Mercury. With Cap moons, I just feel like I annoy them and they find my emotions and expressiveness inconvenient and uncomfortable. It makes it hard for me to get along with them. I am expressive and I hate feeling pressured into burying that. Yes, sometimes it's better to keep your mouth shut/to keep things to yourself, but to not be allowed to express any feelings at all, ever, is just too much for me. I can't live that way. That's how I tend to feel around Cap moons: pressured to keep my feelings to myself and not show any flicker of expressiveness unless I'm like talking about something like the weather or some other boring thing. I tend to feel the same way with Cap Venus and with earth Mercury (though less so with Taurus). IP: Logged |