posted July 20, 2012 04:29 PM            

I'm a pretty typical Virgal; Shy, modest, reserved, quiet, not emotionally loud etc. He, a typical Stinger; outgoing, emotional, intense, sexy...blah, blah, blah. Thus far he's been pretty kind, goes out of his way to help me, and is quite protective of me. I sense he's a very loyal person as well (like all scorps)

He asked me one day to have lunch with some people and I told him no (was too shy) and he quickly gave me a look of dissatisfaction. He asked me to have lunch with him two days in a row but I didn't (secretly I was starting to crush on him and my feelings were getting stronger and stronger) because he is a typical flirt and goes to lunch with many girls. He hung his head when I told him that I couldn't but I did this--kept my distance, to avoid getting in too deep.

He is an artist and has an upcoming show and asked me immediately upon meeting me if I would attend and I told him yes. I also helped him with his website a bit (for a day or so) and then told him that I couldn't help him anymore because I just didn't want to. He frowned. Told him to get an intern/assistant (I don't know why but he strikes me as a bit of a user)

He mentioned one day that he wanted to go to the zoo around where I lived (soooo not the type of guy that would hang out at the zoo so immediately my eyebrow was raised) and started asking me about when was the best time to go yadda, yadda, yadda...told him I didn't know, and he just looked at me clueless, and we just left it at that.

Ok, so finally getting to my point here, one day he asked me to call him and when I did, he had absolutely nothing to say. The convo lasted all but 2 minutes, lol. Why? Granted, a week before that he did call me and we pretty much confirmed that we missed each other and the only reason I called him the following week was because he kept asking me to (my friend tells me it was an ego thing) and once I did...nada!

At this point, the relationship seems more like big brother/lil sister but we did some light flirting and I noticed that his eyes get real soft towards me when I speak to him in a more womanly tone and carry myself with more confidence. He doesn't know my age, but I look at least a decade younger than I am (Virgos in da house! woot! woot!), and he's at least 8-10 years older than me.

He called me again a few weeks ago and this time we talked for a minute. Just general stuff. His co-worker also told me that he missed me, and he invited me to his job to watch the fireworks for the 4th (not necessarily with him I think) but I told him no. I mentioned I wanted to see fireworks but I wasn't about to go to his job to do it.

So, having said that, from what you've read, am I taking this too far? And it's just a friendship? I know Scorp men tend to relate to the female populace very easily so, maybe I need to relax? lol I know he definitely sees me as a friend.
I think I'm gonna just leave him alone because my feelings are starting to develop for him and I see how many women he flirts with and how many of them practically throw themselves at him and I don't want to get played. I know Scorp men are known for playing games and the whole phone call thing just spoke volumes.

posted July 20, 2012 06:33 PM            

The only Virgo/Scorpio couple I know.. broke up because the Virgo girl was too much like the girl-next-door.. she was nice/sweet etc... but she didn't have an edge.. and the Scorpio guy couldn't stay in the relationship anymore.
This Virgo girl tried a lot to change him and to turn him into a sweeter, nicer version of himself.. Scorpio will definitely NOT like this.
Virgo has a way of trying to fix people - and he will never let you fix him. He just is who he is. He is a fixed sign.. so this won't work.

posted July 21, 2012 02:39 PM            

If you're suspicious of shifty behavior on the part of the Scorpio, I would stay away, particularly if that's not your cup of tea.

I've had a lot of Scorpio friends and I've known both mature and immature Scorpios. The ones who are mature know exactly what they want and go directly for what they want and for WHO they want. They will stay in relationships until the end of time.

The ones who are immature also go directly for what they want, but it is usually just casual sex. The immature ones will also try to outmaneuver you and will become vengeful if they sense that you are playing any sort of 'game' with them (even when you AREN'T playing a game). The natural Virgo shyness can often translate to a Scorpio as a challenge or as a 'game' and they will respond accordingly.

posted July 22, 2012 12:10 PM            

From a Scorpio perspective, it sounds like you are rejecting him a lot and keeping him at a distance. That he's even still trying to connect with you, to me, is an indicator that he's very interested, but probably being extra cautious to protect his intense emotions. We are very vulnerable you know!

If you don't get the right vibe of off him, so be it, but it sounds like you dig him and are just afraid of trusting his intentions.

posted July 22, 2012 03:12 PM            

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Originally posted by redshift:
I'm not a man, but I am a Scorpio and I am often attracted or drawn to Virgos because they seem to have a guarded mystery that I want in on and they are so picky about people, that I want to win them over.

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posted July 22, 2012 03:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:

The BEST type of Virgo girl for a Scorpio.. would be the girl who seems cute & proper.. on the outside... but goes crazy behind closed doors.

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posted July 23, 2012 10:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
I think this can work really well as friends and *may* work romantically if the Virgo girl is open to experimenting.

The only Virgo/Scorpio couple I know.. broke up because the Virgo girl was too much like the girl-next-door.. she was nice/sweet etc... but she didn't have an edge.. and the Scorpio guy couldn't stay in the relationship anymore.
This Virgo girl tried a lot to change him and to turn him into a sweeter, nicer version of himself.. Scorpio will definitely NOT like this.
Virgo has a way of trying to fix people - and he will never let you fix him. He just is who he is. He is a fixed sign.. so this won't work.

In terms of communication - it can be great. You will always have things to talk about and it is probably an easy/nice connection.
But emotionally/sexually there can be differences..
The BEST type of Virgo girl for a Scorpio.. would be the girl who seems cute & proper.. on the outside... but goes crazy behind closed doors.

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Hi Odette,

Thanks for your post.

I'm sure it can work well too as I've heard many success stories. Just not sure if it's gonna work for me.

posted July 23, 2012 10:57 AM            

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Originally posted by awakemer:
hmm it can work only if you don't try to judge or nitpick the Scorpio who is very secretive and usually isn't open to knowing about its shadow self. I think the scorpio is scared of virgo's. JMO

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posted July 23, 2012 11:01 AM            

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Originally posted by enchantress299:
I will say this about the Scorpio/Virgo pairings... When it works, it REALLY REALLY WORKS and when it doesn't work, it REALLY DOESN'T work. I've seen both.

If you're suspicious of shifty behavior on the part of the Scorpio, I would stay away, particularly if that's not your cup of tea.

I've had a lot of Scorpio friends and I've known both mature and immature Scorpios. The ones who are mature know exactly what they want and go directly for what they want and for WHO they want. They will stay in relationships until the end of time.

The ones who are immature also go directly for what they want, but it is usually just casual sex. The immature ones will also try to outmaneuver you and will become vengeful if they sense that you are playing any sort of 'game' with them (even when you AREN'T playing a game). The natural Virgo shyness can often translate to a Scorpio as a challenge or as a 'game' and they will respond accordingly.

So yeah... I think a good rule of thumb (for anyone really), is if they aren't treating you well or respecting your boundaries, they probably aren't serious about you. If they are being evasive or manipulative, they probably aren't serious about you. Keep it at the friendship level if you see that type of behavior. Otherwise, if you like the guy and he seems trustworthy, etc. go for it. Trust your instincts about him.

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Thanks for this.

posted July 23, 2012 11:05 AM            

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Originally posted by redshift:
I'm not a man, but I am a Scorpio and I am often attracted or drawn to Virgos because they seem to have a guarded mystery that I want in on and they are so picky about people, that I want to win them over.

From a Scorpio perspective, it sounds like you are rejecting him a lot and keeping him at a distance. That he's even still trying to connect with you, to me, is an indicator that he's very interested, but probably being extra cautious to protect his intense emotions. We are very vulnerable you know!

If you don't get the right vibe of off him, so be it, but it sounds like you dig him and are just afraid of trusting his intentions.

Why not go out with him and talk about it. Lay it on the line. Any Scorpio I know, myself included, loves and admires honesty and respects the hell out of anyone with the guts to open up and be real. If you like him, why not take a leap and give it a shot. Could be very very hot. Just don't play games with a Scorpio.

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Everything you have said is correct. I do keep him at arm's length because as I mentioned in my previous post, I just can't seem to get a good read on him and I prefer simplicity and to not have to play all of these games.

posted July 23, 2012 12:50 PM            

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Originally posted by VirgoMaiden:
Everything you have said is correct. I do keep him at arm's length because as I mentioned in my previous post, I just can't seem to get a good read on him and I prefer simplicity and to not have to play all of these games.

I do feel as if he is trying to connect with me but for what reason I'm not sure. That's the real question. I will let this one go because my gut doesn't trust him.

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Of course, you should follow your gut. I would say that there is no ambiguity about it though, he is into you and trying to win you over. Men, rarely, especially Scorpio men, rarely rarely just want to be friends.

posted July 23, 2012 04:35 PM            

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Originally posted by redshift:
Of course, you should follow your gut. I would say that there is no ambiguity about it though, he is into you and trying to win you over. Men, rarely, especially Scorpio men, rarely rarely just want to be friends.

I wish I had your sensible ability to just say no, even when you feel attraction. Probably drives him crazy!

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redshift,