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posted July 20, 2012 06:47 PM            

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I'm the Venus person. What experience does anyone have with this synastry aspect? What problems did you encounter in relationships with this aspect, and if you overcame them, how did you do so?

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posted July 20, 2012 06:53 PM            

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I read that the Venus person puts the Neptune person on a pedestal. The Venus person sees the Neptune person as their perfect type. I have not experienced this, but its just what I read along time ago.
I think it sparks alot of romance as well.

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posted July 20, 2012 10:58 PM            

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This is very much a 'rose-coloured glasses' aspect. It condones romance but Venus may idealize Neptune to a fault. If things happen too fast, a lot of false promises can be made leading to the detriment of the relationship.
But if the rest of the synastry is stable, and you're able to look past each other's shortcomings it can definitely add a romantic 'glow'

I've experienced this in a relationship, I also have this aspect natally.

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posted July 20, 2012 11:22 PM            

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I didn't realize this was a synastry type of question. The title says "Venus square Neptune," so I clicked to read it. I have this aspect natally, with Neptune (in Sag. in the 9th) ruling my chart, and Venus in Pisces conjunct the ascendant squaring Neptune.

Yeah, I guess you could say "rose-colored glasses," but since Neptune rules my 1st house and Venus is in my 1st, I'm not really sure how to translate that. I don't think I really view the world strictly through rose colored glasses, but when I've given my poetry to people to read, they tell me, "You're definitely a romantic." I'll admit to seeing life in romantic terms, but I don't think I over-romanticize it. The question is, how others would see me (since the aspect involves a 1st house placement squaring the ruler of the 1st.) I'm not really sure.

At any rate, my take would be that I'm a romantic. If you'd like to read two of my poems I've had published, here they are:
http://www.bluemountain.com/blog/2011/04/origami-soul/
http://www.bluemountain.com/blog/2011/03/sudoku-memories-poem/

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posted July 21, 2012 05:24 PM            

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I currently have the aspect with my boyfriend. It's definitely an emotional ride when it comes to trusting and not trusting. I do wish I could move past it. (We had a good relationship until he divulged some things, and now I keep getting a negative feeling). ::sigh:: I just want to feel for him how I did before all that. I'm hoping it has something to do with Rx and what not, and that time will bring me comfort.

Your poems are very good. I enjoy writing as well, and have been told I'm pretty good at it. I have Merc in Pisces, which I heard is a very imaginative position for writing. Not sure, though.

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posted July 21, 2012 05:32 PM            

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Huh? I have this aspect with my boyfriend. He is Venus, I'm Neptune. I don't think he views me with rose colored glasses, if anything I'm the one that has this problem. Also he has Venus square Neptune in his natal as well.

There are bouts between us when we are so into each other, its like a romantic magical web, and then reality hits and we've got to go back to our daily lives. We seek refuge from the "real" world by hanging together and escaping it sorta speak, we hike a lot, to escape the concrete jungle.

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posted July 21, 2012 09:01 PM            

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Here is a poem of mine that sums up this type of relationship and I pray that it resonates with others......

Becky was not Becky back in 1995
Back then she put her faith
In others, over herself
She put her faith and herself
All in one person
The only person in her life
That she asked out and pursued
In a romantic way
The one she gave to wholeheartedly
And unconditionally
The one she thought
She wanted to settle down with

He never LOVED her in return
He never returned to her
All that she gave him
He never gave her acceptance or commitment

Many times he would
Scornfully, lecture her
He could be so negative with her
Tear her spirits down
She became the person
He wanted her to be instead
He didn't accept her for her

The only person back then
She would surrender to
It was a great sacrifice
Relations were more than friends
But he NEVER
Admitted to being a couple

In the end he was not worth
All that time and sacrifice
There were many times she went
Against her intuition
Intuitively, he was not
What she desired or needed
It was the "relationship"
That nearly destroyed her life!

He got news that changed the
Whole landscape of things
Many times before she
Had sent him away from her
Now it was time to
Go their own ways
Two days later,
She wanted to very quickly
End her tragic life

They told her
All her caring friends
Nurses at the hospital
It was self hate
She didn't love HERSELF

~END~

A little intense and in depth with elements of drama in it but this is how I would sum it up.......

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posted July 22, 2012 04:19 AM            

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Wow that is intense and moving! ^^^

Why is it that nine times out of ten the woman is the one in the relationship that changes for the man. My advice to this poem is to never lose touch with your own goals and dreams for another person. It doesn't help anyone. Especially your self-esteem.

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posted July 22, 2012 09:51 AM            

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I had the sq in a relati0nship but I was the neptune pers0n. All I remember's being extremely r0mantic...letters, sms, gifts, day dreaming. We even had my Uranus sq his Venus and I was m0re into being the unstable on/off Uranus, my chart ruler, than nept. So what happened was, he was cheating on me and assumed I was cheating as well. The end.

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posted July 22, 2012 08:34 PM            

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Originally posted by WaterBearingMaiden:
I'm the Venus person. What experience does anyone have with this synastry aspect? What problems did you encounter in relationships with this aspect, and if you overcame them, how did you do so?

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I find this a magical aspect. I have this aspect natally and in synastry with my husband. I have venus in pisces, his in virgo and both our neptune in sagg. We have been together 15 years. I think in practice, we don't idealise the other person, but we both tend to see the best in the other's intentions all the time. This makes it easy to forgive and to have faith in each other, which we both find inspiring. Maybe this took about 2 years & some patience for us to reach this stage. People often comment that we are still like honeymooners and I guess that could be annoying. But, for me, the romance and the depth of our relationship just grows and grows!!

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posted July 23, 2012 01:21 AM            

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I second what Dreamweaver said. Me and my husband have a DW Venus square Neptune and we're very much in love even after almost 7 years of marriage. Some ppl say this aspect has something to do with cheating, but I never cheated on him and I'm pretty sure he never cheated on me either.

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posted July 23, 2012 08:00 AM            

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Unless you have this aspect natally and are willing and able to deal with it, I would advise you to stay away from relationships in which you form this aspect with someone. IMO, it's a heartbreaker of the worst kind. They say Saturn is the Lord of Time, but so is Neptnue to some extent, and it can takes years for the clouds of illusions to lift off. When they eventually lift off one or both will be left with the worst kind of disenchantment.

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