posted July 24, 2012 07:40 PM
First, I apologize for this being so long. I am an Aries woman(3-31) and I have been talking to a Cancer man(7-7). We have known each other for 4 years. We don't always see each other, maybe once a week if that. In the time we have known each other he has told me about his life little by little including his divorce a few years ago. We have always joked around and he can "dish it out" to which I dish it back, then we laugh.He is a wonderful father to his kids, a sympathetic ear when I need it, and always makes me laugh. However, he can also be very in your face when it comes to some things, and has a take no **** attitude from anyone. I think this may stem from his being hurt in his divorce and he has built a wall to protect himself. He says that love and relationships are all ****. He can be caring at times, but is not the typical Cancer that I have read about. Unless he is different behind closed doors, which I have never been around.
Around the end of May he asked me what I was doing for Memorial Day and I told him spending time with my mom who had just had a procedure done. He then backed off for a while and the joking around was light. He came around again and we then became friends on Facebook. And for a while he would put silly comments on things that I posted. All fun. But after a while he backed off. Now for about the last month his joking has become more sexual than usual. I joke back and its fun but I don't want it to be all about just that.
And now about a week and a half ago I was sick. So I posted on FB that I was "sick and you could dress me up but couldn't take me anywhere". So the next day when I saw him he said "I wouldn't take you anywhere with all that **** wrong anyway." To which I responded "then you will have to wait until I am better." He got real quiet. And then he was like "I'll just post something funny on your page." Which he did later that night.
The weird thing is that when he walked around to say goodbye to me, he had a look in his eyes I had never seen before. They were very deep and he actually looked like he was going to cry. His eyes were kind of misty. Why?
Since then, I have not seen him. His job has kept him busy, and when I go online on FB, if he is already on there he will go offline. He hasn't said anything or sent any messages. Nothing. I figured that if he wasn't interested, or I did something wrong, that we know each other enough for him to at least be honest and upfront with me.
I feel like I have offended him and hurt him. But I do really like him and am very attracted to him. I would like the chance to spend more time with him and get to know him more.
Should I reach out to him and make the first move? Do you think I should apologize to him?
Do you think he may feel the same way about me?
If he does then why is he acting this way?
I do understand his trepidation about being hurt again by another possible relationship, and he needs to make sure whoever he brings around his children is acceptable
I am very confused. And am not quite sure what I should say or do when we finally do see each other again.
Any help is appreciated. Thank you.