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Archylas
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posted July 28, 2012 05:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Archylas     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just needed to rant and hear some helpful opinions ):

I feel that Cancer Moon and Mercury in 12th house tends to suppress a lot of self-expression and makes me very passive + lack self esteem.

I tend to become very depressed quite often and for no apparent reason. I don't really know why, and because I appear very stressed and serious, I feel that people tend to avoid me.

I have major mood swings but I'm too passive to do anything about it sometimes. Sometimes I feel that my actions, thoughts and body language do not match up entirely and it usually gives people very negative impressions of me even though I genuinely care for them (Cancer moon, here we go), but I'm always either misinterpreting their actions or find them too insensitive, and then I hide back in my shell again. -sigh-

My mercury in 12th house gives me communication problems and I can

I'm very restless and can't focus on one topic at a time. This is especially unhelpful whenever I want to start a conversation with someone, but always jump from topic to topic and can't finish the conversation properly.

Then again, there may be other things in my chart that also causes me to feel like I'm constantly at a war with myself, such a Gemini Rising (according to some sources, but others say I'm an Aqua rising, so I'm not too sure), but Earth sun + Water moon.

Someone please give me advice, thanks.

EDIT: If this is in the wrong board, I apologise.

Here's my chart :
http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/graphic/daisy24?dformat=2&date=1995/5/5&time=9.24&lat=1.17&long=-103.55&adjust=8.00&lang=en&x=480&y=640

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Archylas
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posted July 28, 2012 05:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Archylas     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Forgot to add that having a Cancer dad (but Libra moon!!) and Pisces mum (Aries moon...) isn't helping since they tend to be very insensitive, so I'm not sure who to go to for advice sometimes.

I feel like I have no friends to talk to about personal issues. ):

If anyone needs a table with the planets, houses and their signs, just ask okay?

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AriesKat
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posted July 28, 2012 06:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesKat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have My moon and Mercury in Pisces in the 12th house so I know exaclty how you feel. My friends always make fun of me because when I tell stories I take a while because I get disracted easily my attention span is that of a gold fish.

I wasnt always like that though. In the last 5 years I feel like I turned into a Pisces. I am now easily depressed, negative thoughts that turn into negative feelings, moody, reclusive, elusive, always want to be left alone and I almost depise talking now. I avoind people all together because it just feels draining to be around them. I love to be in the comfort of apt alone with my thiughts. But my friends or life wont always permit that, I feel bad about it too. I have met and made alot of friends over the years but I find that in the last 5 years that its so hard to keep them going because Id rather be alone. My parents at times were insensitve while growing up.

For instance my mom used to always yell at me when in trouble and id start crying immediately. and she would get upset that I was crying she shunned it. And my dad felt I was always being a drama queen when i was upset about anything instead of trying to understand where I was coming from, and that was in the little time i did spend with him.

Also I have always been a bit serious on the outside and people always think im angry or super mean or really upset when Im not.

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AriesKat
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posted July 28, 2012 06:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesKat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I will say I am not that passive more aggresive and sometimes passive agressive. If I feel wronged you will hear bout it lol. But I do understand not having friends to talk about it. I have a handful of friends that I get super deep with and that know my deep struggles and that has been a cap moon scorp moon and virgo moon. But just the other day I was telling my friend how I was feeling on something I have struggled with for years ( relationships) and she made it seem like I was overreacting and that people had far more serious issues to deal with. it made me really upset because I never try to reduce peoples feelings because they feel what they feel and I cannot change that, all I can do is listen and try to help. Which is what I wish she would have done istead of telling me basucally get over it. I wont be getting deep with her like that agaon for a while. or Ever!

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AriesKat
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posted July 28, 2012 06:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesKat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I really wish I had some sound and good advice to give you but the truth is I am struggling too and I dont have the answers but I do understand you and where your coming from. My relationship has gotten so much better with my mom over the years so if your young and still living with them just know it will get better when you leave lol. Something I wish I could have done when I was younger is really be open and honest with my parents about my feelings and me period without getting emotional. So that they can better understand where I am coming from. I was far more sensi than they knew or than I showed them. I believe if they knew that they would have handled me differently and maybe with a little more gentleness, because I do need to be handle gently no matter how tough I may appear. sit them down and let them know who you really are, because I feel just because they were my parents doesnt mean they know exactly who I am, shoot im still trying to figure out who I am.

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Archylas
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posted July 28, 2012 10:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Archylas     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@AriesKat: I feel your pain ): It's definitely not fun when you want to concentrate on something important but you simply can't focus on it, like your career and schoolwork, even though you put in all your hardwork and effort but to no avail. Also applies for conversations, but people ignore me whenever I speak :/ And the worse thing is they make it very obvious.

Being a sensitive Pisces moon, it must be really hard for you to tune in and "absorb" others' emotions so easily all the time. -hugs- I guess we water moons understand each other better than with other moon signs. I dislike air moons, too insensitive and cold.

And I agree with the thing about being shunned whenever you're on the verge of tears yet people avoid you like a plaque or simply shrug their shoulders uncaringly; worse, if they happen to be your parents. ): Sometimes I feel jealous whenever I see happy families together...

Gah, why must it be so frustrating? -sigh-

I understand how you feel about wanting to be handled gently even though you appear tough on the outside. Makes me feel frustrated and angry whenever people with heavy air/fire placements (insensitive!) take your feelings with a pinch of salt, but in actual fact you feel at least 2x the pain of the emotional swings, particularly depression.

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virgolotus
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posted July 28, 2012 11:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for virgolotus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hm, my best friend has a Cancer Moon and a 12H Mercury too and extremely insensitive parents.
That's weird.. She's a Scorpio Sun so it's pretty intensified. Mercury is conj. her ASC so I think that she has a lot of charisma and knows how to talk her ways but at the same time holds back a lot of her creativity and feelings.
I know she's extremely sensitive and her parents pretty much left her to grow up on her own at 16 yrs old due to her drug use. I feel like I should take care of her but at the same time she's very misunderstood and sometimes she does things that are very... 'Scorpionic'. I know her reasons though but I feel like her mind is always clouded and comes to conclusions very fast.
It's weird how those 3 things on the title caught my attention because they're exactly what my friend has too.

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