posted August 15, 2012 07:19 PM
So I've been trolling away trying to find some answers - aren't we all - and finally got the courage to ask. I had a flirtation with a cancer man that slowly progressed into us starting an intimate affair. We saw each other frequently, texted all the time, and had such a light and playful relationship, with a lot of warmth and depth too. He at times would talk about our future, and then at other times advised me not to get too attached - sending a lot of mixed signals. I kept a cool head and said I was happy with how things stood. He invited me to his house and we spent many good times cuddling and just being together.Then all of a sudden I sensed a withdrawal. His communication was not what it had been and just seemed like he wanted to detach, and all conversations lost a note of romanticism and kinda like he reinserted me in the friend zone. Though I wanted to completely breakdown, I avoided the urge to cling and just let him kinda slip into that new spot. The first time I saw him after nearly a week of this withdrawal, he was at first aloof, then opened up a bit more, making eye contact with me, making inside jokes that are only known between he and I, and then came and sat like 2 inches from me.
I engaged him, was friendly, smiled, but didn't cross this new line.
Now another week has gone by and he has withdrawn even more, going a few days without any communication. Thinking this is the 'dance,' I have just backed off and left the ball in his court. Smart move? Am I blowing it? Does he need more reassurance? Should I say I miss him... because I so totally do. I hope he can't sense my slightly pathetic nature at the moment, because I really would love nothing more than how it was.
Any thoughts? I'm a sun/sag, moon/taurus, asc/aquarius, with my venus in capricorn and my mercury in scorpio.
He's a sun/cancer, moon/sag, asc/aries, with both venus and mercury in leo.
Also, when I charted us in the composite, we have venus, mercury, mars, and sun all in our 7th house. Venus is very favorably aspected, but our sun has much less favorable aspects like sun square neptune. Any thoughts on this type of composite 7th house?
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Lindaland
posted August 15, 2012 07:19 PM
posted August 15, 2012 07:26 PM