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Topic: What do you look for in a partner/friend?
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L0veLess
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From: Midgard
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted August 28, 2012 05:30 PM
  
In a guy or girl what do you like??? What attracts you to them? And how do they differ from what you look for in a friend? Name all the placements you attribute your tastes to! ***What i like***
I like smart people! Or people who tickle my brain in that electric way! I like my beliefs to be challenged so that my perspectives can be better defined. I don't take criticism well but i still welcome it because i know it may be good for me. I get really disappointed when all i get are people who agree with me! It's fine sometimes because, well, I AM right typically  , but nobody likes a pushover people pleaser! I want to grow and change always! and learn! And i like someone to bring me new experiences and to take me away (physically)! I like people who are sort of social too because i lack sociability.
Also most of all which i think everyone wants, is understanding and acceptance 
This is what i look for in both a friend and lover. ~i have aries dsc, libra asc, cap sun& venus, sag mars, scorp moon. ~~I'm not sure, astrologically, where my preferences stem from. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
Knowflake Posts: 1791
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted August 28, 2012 05:42 PM
Well there's always Gemini, Sagittarius or Aquarius in the Mars or Venus sign for some reason when it comes to partners.IP: Logged |
L0veLess
Knowflake Posts: 1293
From: Midgard
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted August 28, 2012 07:01 PM
for you, ya mean? even for friends?IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
Moderator Posts: 3781
From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted August 28, 2012 07:14 PM
for a friend:--likes to talk/doesn't mind that I'm talkative: I have to be able to not feel like I'm bothering someone by talking
--doesn't find me annoying
--can deal with me being emotionally expressive and intense, and someone that I would be able to tell about the anxiety issues/things like that which I have
--patient
--understanding
--compassionate, but still helps me grow
--has a loony sense of humor, and can find a lot of things funny: not someone easily offended or someone that I have to watch myself around
--I prefer to agree on a lot of things and to be compatible, but be different enough to be interesting; I hate conflict and fighting and bad energy/negativity I don't date. IP: Logged |
ail221
Knowflake Posts: 1011
From: Mary Margaret Blanchard's home
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted August 28, 2012 07:14 PM
Someone who knows how to "Tickle my mental taco"IP: Logged |
L0veLess
Knowflake Posts: 1293
From: Midgard
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted August 28, 2012 07:47 PM
^lolIP: Logged |
AriesKat
Knowflake Posts: 120
From: Brooklyn, NY USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted August 28, 2012 07:50 PM
quote:
Originally posted by ail221:
Someone who knows how to "Tickle my mental taco"
lmao IP: Logged |
Lazyscarecrow
Knowflake Posts: 557
From: En Cee
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted August 28, 2012 07:54 PM
What attracts me to someone?When they are attracted to me, lol. Seriously it is rare that I like someone in that way but they have to carry themselves in a confident and different way. Like, not stand out like "Oh I'm bad mutha...and I know it" but in such a way that it is intriguing to me and not blatant. Otherwise, typical stuff. Stable personality. Funny. Can see past his ego (does this even exist?) and does not need validation from crowds and other women. Intelligent and ahead of his time. Friendship and sex. Gemini DSC, Taurus Mars. IP: Logged |
ail221
Knowflake Posts: 1011
From: Mary Margaret Blanchard's home
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted August 28, 2012 08:16 PM
LMAO I am serious Initially intelligent, witty, entertaining people I love them especially if they can be a little sarcastic. I suppose this is where my Gemini Moon and Venus with Virgo 5h cusp comes in. The thing that really gets me to stay friends with someone or being romantically interested in someone is passion, emotional depth, creativity etc. Someone whose dreams are constantly expanding I guess this is where my Sagittarius 8th house and Jupiter influence on my natal chart comes in. Lastly hardworkers, passion can very easily burn up but to be able thrive on regardless of the obstacles in your way; that's even more commendable to me. Effects of Mars in Taurus , Saturn aspecting Taurus Asc and Saturn 9th, Uranus and Neptune in Capricorn 8th house. IP: Logged |
awakemer
Knowflake Posts: 556
From: sherman oaks, ca,USA
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted August 28, 2012 09:43 PM
Someone who is sincere and has depth. Someone spiritual. Someone who comes on time and isn't late or disrespectful. Respects me(big one). Someone fun-loving. A good listener. Someone who is generous (don't like cheap people) Someone who is very caring and loving, and warm. Trusthworthy. Sun and moon in leo. venus in virgo . mars in cancer. Cap asc... i have three planets in the 8th house and sun in 7th. IP: Logged |
sand
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Registered: May 2011
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posted August 28, 2012 10:07 PM
a friend i want fun/ good times. i'm not going to cry on your shoulder or ask you for advice. but i'll do that for a friend if they are the type. some of mine have become quite powerful and it is advantageous in some instances in business but i grew up with them (one even before i was born! our parents knew each other when they were both pregnant. we were born the same year.) and did not seek them out. i am picky with my friends i didn't grow up with. virgo h11. IP: Logged |
RedScorp
Knowflake Posts: 3061
From: GMT-5
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 28, 2012 10:23 PM
I'll be inviting and friendly to everyone and anyone but if you have baggage or issues and it bugs me, I'm gone. I don't want to babysit people who cry on me all the time or can't socialize without my help, who disable me having a good time... And yet I have a Cancer 11th house! Though if I really like you, maybe I'll stick around...  IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
Knowflake Posts: 2214
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posted August 28, 2012 10:35 PM
I don't know how to explain what I want in a friend because I've kept the same friends for so long! The majority of my friends are initiators though. I'm not, I tend to like being invited vs. doing the inviting. My friends are also intuitive, and articulate but not cultured. I'm not too concerned with that unless it coincides with our environment. They're pretty low key in that what we wear or who we're seen with doesn't matter to us. They're also responsible! Some more than me. They also all have siblings and are sympathetic. I don't actively seek this out but it's something they have in common (oh, and being good with directions too lol.) In a partner, I want them to be the initiator and to intuit me. I know that is a very grand order but I think I'm easy enough to learn (so does everybody else about themselves I'm sure.) OH! I like guys who can put me in my place. Not aggressively or rudely but someone that doesn't take ALL of my BS. Because sometimes it really is just testing them to see their strengths/weaknesses. Someone with a lot of common sense. Ideally I would like an equal relationship where we can give and take, but I tend to be attracted to relationships in which I can teach or "fix" them, or they can teach me something about myself, life, etc. Sigh... I also tend to be attracted to guys my friends say I'm "better than." Guys who are grungy, dirty, low class, poor manners, disrespectful. In high school I had a pattern of liking guys with substance abuse problems, ambitionless and liked drumming. I didn't know they all liked to drum but it came out that way and I always thought it was pretty weird. I think I'm probably afraid to go after someone I consider my "equal" lest I be rejected. Me:
Gem ASC
Aries Sun (negatively aspected)
Taurus Moon (strongly, and positively aspected)
Aries Mercury (negatively aspected)
Aries Venus (negatively aspected)
Gem Mars
Gem Jupiter
Capricorn Saturn (Saturn - Neptune all aspected to Moon)
Capricorn Uranus
Capricorn Neptune
Scorpio Pluto (negatively aspected) Sun, Mercury and Venus all in the 11th House
Saturn, Uranus, Neptune all in the 7th House
Mars and Jupiter in the 12th House
Pluto in the 5th House. IP: Logged |
L0veLess
Knowflake Posts: 1293
From: Midgard
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted August 28, 2012 10:58 PM
@hanna
bout that intuit thing, i think we all kind of expect the other person to just KNOW how we feel or think but its kind of not possible! we aren't mind readers. i've learned not to expect that out of people anymore. because a lot of times drama was started due to me thinking they just KNEW how i felt. I'm now into being more verbal.
There are body language cues, but on a deeper level like true feelings people can't know unless you tell them or really show them.IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
Knowflake Posts: 69
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 29, 2012 01:06 AM
I hate fake people.I like someone who has self respect,someone who can stand his/her ground about his/her opinion.I dont like people who make others laugh by making fun of themselves behaving like a clown.I attribute that to my jupiter in first house.I have learned the importance of self-respect with time. I like witty people.I like dark humour as well.I always find people with a bit of dark side in them interesting.I like sarcastic people as well.It maybe because of my gemini moon in the 8th and pluto squaring all of my personal planets. I like passionate,loyal people.I like powerful people as well.I like people to have self control and composure.I attribute that to my scorpio ascendant,pluto in first house and saturn conjuct sun. I like people with some sort of interest in music and art.I attribute that to my 4 planets in pisces. Well it became an essay,probably my jupiter in first boasting and leo mc seeking attention. IP: Logged |
frankie2912
Knowflake Posts: 802
From: yep,ks,usa
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted August 29, 2012 01:15 AM
I'm pretty shallow, I guess....because when it comes to people I like, romantically or sexually, the one thing that matters to me is how physically attractive they are to me. Usually the ones I like are NOT attractive to most others...I like skinny guys who are younger than me, dark hair, nice face..even if they are high school drop outs or in prison LMAO...I have a tendency to not see past the primal attraction when it comes to my love interests. Stupid people ruin it, though. Like..really stupid..can't do that.As for friends, I prefer people who are funny, unique or "weird", have similar music/tv/movie interests or hobbies..and people who can have conversations. I tend to be a little on the quiet side, so I gravitate toward people who talk a lot. IP: Logged |
L0veLess
Knowflake Posts: 1293
From: Midgard
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted August 29, 2012 01:23 AM
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Originally posted by frankie2912:
..and people who can have conversations. I tend to be a little on the quiet side, so I gravitate toward people who talk a lot.
heeey me too! IP: Logged |
L0veLess
Knowflake Posts: 1293
From: Midgard
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted August 29, 2012 01:24 AM
quote:
Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
I hate fake people.I like someone who has self respect,someone who can stand his/her ground about his/her opinion.
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hannaramaa
Knowflake Posts: 2214
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Registered: Nov 2011
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posted August 29, 2012 01:25 AM
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Originally posted by L0veLess:
@hanna
bout that intuit thing, i think we all kind of expect the other person to just KNOW how we feel or think but its kind of not possible! we aren't mind readers. i've learned not to expect that out of people anymore. because a lot of times drama was started due to me thinking they just KNEW how i felt. I'm now into being more verbal.
There are body language cues, but on a deeper level like true feelings people can't know unless you tell them or really show them.
Oh no, I understand that. I don't mean be a mind reader! I guess I've just been spoiled because all of my friends already had the same mindset as me, so if I would give them a look (you know that look you give your friend that is like "OH MY GOD ARE WE THINKING THE SAME THING?" big deal kind of look lol) I never had to explain it, or I'll say "Can you hand me the -" and they know what I'm talking about. Maybe that's just basic stuff, iono. IP: Logged |
L0veLess
Knowflake Posts: 1293
From: Midgard
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted August 30, 2012 01:18 AM
lol oh okay gotcha IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted August 30, 2012 03:53 AM
Friends: I like them nurturing, affectionate but not smothering. Someone I can talk to about personal issues and be comfortable but also someone who can talk about different topics especially spiritual. If
I have none of that, you're probably not my friend but a "buddy".Saturn in the 11th, Libra Venus Partners: honesty and integrity. All I ask for is no lies, no BS and some respect. Talkative, but not too much, intelligence is a big plus. Someone who can compromise and adapt themselves to the situation, and not always be "MY way blah blah". Scorp Sun & Mars
Sag DSC
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