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RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 5165 From: Registered: Oct 2010	posted September 07, 2012 08:27 PM and with my knowledge of astrology I was going to choose a child who had strong compatibility with me. I also told them that I felt that the world would be a much better place if everyone had kids they were strongly astrologically compatible with. They laughed and now joke around because they say I want to adopt a kid because I want to pick out his sun sign. Bahaha. Oh my gosh. Why are people so narrow minded. Just why? I don't get it. I think people like that must have a strong amount of arrogance which isn't healthy. ------------------ $3.50 ebay compatibility readings \| testimonials \| Past readings IP: Logged
vickymadness Knowflake Posts: 626 From: Minnesota Registered: Jan 2012	posted September 07, 2012 08:28 PM and what do you like him/her to be ? IP: Logged
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 5165 From: Registered: Oct 2010	posted September 07, 2012 08:41 PM huh, oh u mean the signs? no i dont care about the signs. lol. its the composite and synastry that matters if you mean what configurations...then..well, there are lots. its too much to write out. i have written them out before in other threads. But one of my favorites is the love stellium with sun square/opp/semisquare pluto (and great synastry too) IP: Logged
awakemer Knowflake Posts: 565 From: sherman oaks, ca,USA Registered: Aug 2011	posted September 07, 2012 08:44 PM I get you.. but i also think that everything is divinely planned so if you do get pregnant the universe will provide to you the perfect child that will help you grow spiritually (or whatever you need to learn in this earth plane) and vise versa. IP: Logged
ShadowLeo Knowflake Posts: 129 From: IL, USA Registered: Jun 2012	posted September 07, 2012 08:45 PM Adopting a child is one of the greatest things a person can do, right up there with saving someone's life. So what if you want a particular Sun sign? People ask for kids with blue eyes, a specific ethnic look and so on all the time, how is that acceptable and picking a Sun sign is not? In your place, I would totally do the same! Let all the others talk and do your own thing. I wish you all the luck in the world! As far as aspects go, pay attention to what their Saturn aspects in your chart. My kids' Saturn conjuncts my Sun/Venus/Jupiter conjunction and I have a lot of moments when I feel suffocated, like totally engulfed by motherhood/parenting... IP: Logged
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 5165 From: Registered: Oct 2010	posted September 07, 2012 08:52 PM thank you! my mom says that not wanting to have my own child because i might have to struggle with them is selfish, but i think NOT adopting is more selfish than having your own child. She is obsessed with the idea that having your own child is the greatest blessing a woman can experience and that your biological bonds...blah blah yadda yadda yadda. She's crazy and so narrow minded. I'm over it. lol. She also doesnt realize that the child who is astrologically compatible with me will have so much more of a fulfilling life than that one that is only bonded to me by biological bonds and by having known me for all his life, lol. i wouldnt advise anyone to adopt just because you want to pick out a sun sign compatible with yours...there are plenty of water sign people that i very much dislike in real life haha. it's the synastry and composite that matters, but either way i find her reasoning totally absurd. Just because i'm doing something that's "unconventional" and not "conservative" in her eyes. ------------------ $3.50 ebay compatibility readings \| testimonials \| Past readings IP: Logged
ShadowLeo Knowflake Posts: 129 From: IL, USA Registered: Jun 2012	posted September 07, 2012 09:20 PM In an already overpopulated world, yours is the only truly selfless way to go about having kids. I applaud you (and I totally mean it)! Every mother I know that has adopted kids, even the ones that have their own kids too (most importantly them, since they can truly compare) say they love the adopted kids just the same. I really don't see ANY reason whatsoever to think one's biological kids are better in any way. To be 100% honest, if I were to adopt a little black-haired girl from Romania, I would feel I have more in common with her (gender, language, looks) than my own kids (for whom I would die 1000 painful deaths, I love them that much). IP: Logged
YoursTrulyAlways Knowflake Posts: 3665 From: Registered: Oct 2011	posted September 07, 2012 09:28 PM You're not around to be your child's best friend, or even a friend. You're around to be the best parent you can be. Raising children isn't a popularity contest. They don't have to like you. They just have to respect and obey you, and your job is to guide them to become the best adults they can be. If they become your buddy, all the better. You're not marrying your kids! IP: Logged
Sorcha Knowflake Posts: 406 From: Registered: Mar 2012	posted September 07, 2012 09:44 PM If I ever have kids I definitely want to adopt too And being 36 and single, let's be honest, getting pregnant is less and less likely anyway. To be honest though, I'm not sure you can just choose a child based on their birth chart if you are planning on adopting an infant. It's a really time consuming process (not to mention expensive) and usually the only option you have is gender. That's if you're adopting in North America, where the counsellor might also question your reasons for choosing (in part) based on birthdate/birth time, since there is quite an in depth assessment done before you are accepted as a candidate. But maybe in a country which is more open to astrology in general, you would have an easier time (like in India - though in India one of the parents must be Indian). I haven't adopted but I know people who have and generally just getting the option to adopt at all can be quite challenging. I'm not saying any of this to burst your bubble at all because I definitely want to adopt as well and I totally get what you're saying about the desire to have that compatibility. I would just read some stories about what people go through when they adopt (if you haven't already) and check in to how much choice you actually have so you are not disappointed. IP: Logged
Sorcha Knowflake Posts: 406 From: Registered: Mar 2012	posted September 07, 2012 09:44 PM Oops. Double post IP: Logged
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 5165 From: Registered: Oct 2010	posted September 07, 2012 10:12 PM quote: Originally posted by awakemer: I get you.. but i also think that everything is divinely planned so if you do get pregnant the universe will provide to you the perfect child that will help you grow spiritually (or whatever you need to learn in this earth plane) and vise versa. i dont think so. i dont agree with that. i havent observed parents and their children learning any particularly fulfilling lessons from each other, or being complementary towards one another in any noticeable way. i guess we have had different experiences. But to me, true love is the healthiest relationship. What could be better for you than true love? someone who accepts you and reaffirms your identity no matter what you do and lets you feel free to make your own mistakes and always puts your feelings first? Better yet, what could be better than a child who feels that exact same way about his mom? ------------------ $3.50 ebay compatibility readings \| testimonials \| Past readings IP: Logged
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 5165 From: Registered: Oct 2010	posted September 07, 2012 10:15 PM a popularity contest? YTA, I couldn't disagree more with what you said ------------------ $3.50 ebay compatibility readings \| testimonials \| Past readings IP: Logged
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 5257 From: Registered: Mar 2010	posted September 07, 2012 10:15 PM quote: Originally posted by ShadowLeo: In an already overpopulated world, yours is the only truly selfless way to go about having kids. I applaud you (and I totally mean it)! Every mother I know that has adopted kids, even the ones that have their own kids too (most importantly them, since they can truly compare) say they love the adopted kids just the same. I really don't see ANY reason whatsoever to think one's biological kids are better in any way. To be 100% honest, if I were to adopt a little black-haired girl from Romania, I would feel I have more in common with her (gender, language, looks) than my own kids (for whom I would die 1000 painful deaths, I love them that much). Ditto! Good for you.. Dont worry about what any one says.. You do whats best for you.. I also agree you will get the child your meant to have, regardless of what you plan.. But maybe thats the grand plan Good Luck, and best wishes IP: Logged
CosmicKarma360 Knowflake Posts: 596 From: here and there Registered: Sep 2010	posted September 07, 2012 10:16 PM RunAroundScreaming, do you by any chance have n.Neptune in the 5th? Just curious, since that's usually an indicator for adoption. For example, Angelina Jolie has that. IP: Logged
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 5165 From: Registered: Oct 2010	posted September 07, 2012 10:20 PM quote: Originally posted by CosmicKarma360: RunAroundScreaming, do you by any chance have n.Neptune in the 5th? Just curious, since that's usually an indicator for adoption. For example, Angelina Jolie has that. no, i have pisces ruling my 5th house though! could that be similar? ------------------ $3.50 ebay compatibility readings \| testimonials \| Past readings IP: Logged
Maka Knowflake Posts: 173 From: Registered: Dec 2010	posted September 07, 2012 10:33 PM When I started my adoption plan I did think about what birthdays/star signs I wanted for the the adopted parents for fun, but in reality most adoption agency do not disclose that information and vice versa the birth mom's information either unless it's requested and usually it's not. All the adopted parents know is how far along I am, where I live and my telephone number. IP: Logged
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 5165 From: Registered: Oct 2010	posted September 07, 2012 10:43 PM ooh thank you maka, i didnt know that! i guess then the plan is meeting as many kids as i can, and when i find one i feel a connection with, can i ask for his/her birthdate in that case? ------------------ $3.50 ebay compatibility readings \| testimonials \| Past readings IP: Logged
Maka Knowflake Posts: 173 From: Registered: Dec 2010	posted September 07, 2012 10:51 PM quote: Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming: ooh thank you maka, i didnt know that! i guess then the plan is meeting as many kids as i can, and when i find one i feel a connection with, can i ask for his/her birthdate in that case? I believe so if you or the birth mother request for that information, though there is waiting list/period. The first family I was in contact with was because they were in "top 3" so to say for a newborn. IP: Logged
YoursTrulyAlways Knowflake Posts: 3665 From: Registered: Oct 2011	posted September 07, 2012 11:23 PM quote: Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming: a popularity contest? YTA, I couldn't disagree more with what you said Well, then we shall disagree. I raise two highly successful boys. The proof is in the pudding. IP: Logged
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 5165 From: Registered: Oct 2010	posted September 07, 2012 11:26 PM ive heard that getting a newborn is much more difficult so i am kind of aversive to the idea haha. also, i wouldnt be able to tell that much if we seemed like we had any kind of special bond..it would be harder with a newborn, so i'm aiming for 1 to 2 years ------------------ $3.50 ebay compatibility readings \| testimonials \| Past readings IP: Logged
awakemer Knowflake Posts: 565 From: sherman oaks, ca,USA Registered: Aug 2011	posted September 08, 2012 12:46 AM I have gemini in 5th maybe i should adopt because i really do not want a Gemini child. LOL IP: Logged
awakemer Knowflake Posts: 565 From: sherman oaks, ca,USA Registered: Aug 2011	posted September 08, 2012 12:50 AM quote: Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming: i dont think so. i dont agree with that. i havent observed parents and their children learning any particularly fulfilling lessons from each other, or being complementary towards one another in any noticeable way. i guess we have had different experiences. But to me, true love is the healthiest relationship. [b] What could be better for you than true love? someone who accepts you and reaffirms your identity no matter what you do and lets you feel free to make your own mistakes and always puts your feelings first? Better yet, what could be better than a child who feels that exact same way about his mom?[/B] friction with someone and having issues/problems is what makes you learn. Not to sound condescending but you are young wait until you are a little older to understand this. The greatest spiritual teachers say this. IP: Logged
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 4075 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012	posted September 08, 2012 12:50 AM lol maybe I'm selfish but I don't think I could ever truly love a child unless it was my own.I'm an uncle and I love my niece but other kids her age bug the sh!t out of me. IP: Logged
frankie2912 Knowflake Posts: 830 From: yep,ks,usa Registered: Apr 2011	posted September 08, 2012 12:53 AM astrology is a hard pill to swallow for many people..any pseudo-science is considered bunk by most people because that is what they're taught. don't hold it against them, they're just ignorant and well, most people are. if i were you, i would do the exact same thing! i'd check charts and want to find a child i was compatible with. however, an 'instant connection' or gut feeling would over-rule what any astrological chart tells me..but i'm just that way IP: Logged
CosmicKarma360 Knowflake Posts: 596 From: here and there Registered: Sep 2010	posted September 08, 2012 12:53 AM quote: Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming: no, i have pisces ruling my 5th house though! could that be similar? I have no idea! LOL! Someone who is a bit more advanced could tell you that. IP: Logged

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