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Topic: Why do I want a child so badly?
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carl
Knowflake Posts: 1096
From: My soul is all over the world! (aka vagabond)
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2012 01:34 AM
  
Will it pass?I WANT!  Like in the next two years, ahh! IP: Logged |
vertiver
Knowflake Posts: 1904
From: Firey Jupiter
Registered: May 2009
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posted September 09, 2012 01:41 AM
Get a puppy instead!IP: Logged |
carl
Knowflake Posts: 1096
From: My soul is all over the world! (aka vagabond)
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2012 01:42 AM
No. Fun, but I like the idea of seeing the mixture of two, one of which being myself.IP: Logged |
vertiver
Knowflake Posts: 1904
From: Firey Jupiter
Registered: May 2009
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posted September 09, 2012 01:42 AM
Also T. Jupiter is in your natal - 5th. The 5th rules children and with Jupiter there it definitely points to the desire to spawn haha!IP: Logged |
carl
Knowflake Posts: 1096
From: My soul is all over the world! (aka vagabond)
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2012 01:44 AM
Thanks. But I want it soooon. what do you think? does want = happening soon?IP: Logged |
vertiver
Knowflake Posts: 1904
From: Firey Jupiter
Registered: May 2009
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posted September 09, 2012 01:52 AM
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Originally posted by carl:
Thanks. But I want it soooon. what do you think? does want = happening soon?
Yeah definitely and Jupiter does just that. Are you in a relationship with someone who wants children? IP: Logged |
carl
Knowflake Posts: 1096
From: My soul is all over the world! (aka vagabond)
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2012 01:57 AM
No....am single (as of now)....I want to be...A lot. Haha, you get the point!! I also want a baby who is mixed..  IP: Logged |
Hera
Moderator Posts: 4175
From: the OR
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 09, 2012 02:37 AM
Unaspected ruler of H5. No, it will not pass. Kids will always have a special place with you. You could adopt if you want it soon and cannot find someone with same views as you. I want kids badly too. Though on some level I realize I am not ready yet. IP: Logged |
vertiver
Knowflake Posts: 1904
From: Firey Jupiter
Registered: May 2009
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posted September 09, 2012 02:53 AM
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Originally posted by carl:
No....am single (as of now)....I want to be...A lot. Haha, you get the point!! I also want a baby who is mixed..
Well it will happen soon. And I've also always wanted to have a kid that wasn't just white as well... I mean nothing against white people but I'm white and I want to mix up my genetics. IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
Moderator Posts: 3848
From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted September 09, 2012 04:47 AM
A sudden powerful emotional desire should be explored, but not acted upon immediately.As someone who experiences intense emotions, I can tell you that they usually pass if you ride them out and just wait. I really don't think that it's a good idea to just jump into having children. My advice would be to ride this feeling out, figure out why it was suddenly triggered, and deal with that. Having children isn't fun or games. It's not a series of Hallmark moments. Having children adds a lot of stress and anxiety, as well as obligations and responsibilities. Plus, if you are not married/don't have a partner, all of those responsibilities fall on you. There is also the financial cost. And if you end up having a special-needs child, you also have to consider what that would mean and how that would affect you. Don't jump into it just to have a child. Some people think that kids are cute, but they aren't little dolls who just sit there and look darling. They have needs. They are unpleasant at times. They are demanding and being a parent is challenging. Once you actually have a child, unless you put it up for adoption, you can't just give it back if you end up regretting it. My advice: get your kid fix by baby-sitting or volunteering, and see what it's actually like being with children. Include some time with special-needs kids/difficult kids, too. Really know what you're in for.
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RunAroundScreaming
Knowflake Posts: 5181
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted September 09, 2012 05:09 AM
I totally agree with Regardes. I also thought I wanted a kid, but then I did an internship with kids with autism and it totally opened my eyes. Yes they were cute, and even though they had autism they acted very normal (because they had already done extensive therapy on them) except they couldn't speak in full sentences yet. Trust me, kids are annoying as hell. They will cry and throw themselves on the floor for whatever they think they can get away with. Not saying these kids did that because they didn't, but if you didn't have the right parenting knowledge like we do because we're psychologists, then your kids could easily be throwing tantrums all over the place just like I see so many little kids doing all the time. Like my cousin's kids, for example.They also rarely want to eat. You have to chase them around the house to be able to feed them. They hit, they spit, they destroy things, jump on things, throw things, smash things, they whine 24/7. They also rarely want to go to sleep, unless they're really tired and did a lot of exercise that day. Possible reasons you might be craving a kid are
1. You're lonely. You think a kid will give you company and a reason to live. Trust me, a pet is much easier to take care of, and the feelings they give are closer to what you think a kid will give you.
2. You want to prove that you can handle responsibility, both to yourself, and also, but mainly to parents or others who doubt you. In this way, you want to hurry up and grow up, so you can feel like an adult already.
3. A combination of both. ------------------
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