posted September 18, 2012 07:23 PM            

Just to write about what and how I feel, makes me feel a little better.

I was leading a very happy life until about May 2012.
A girl who has been working in the same office since January 2011 is the source of my pain.
I had seen her a few times but never knew who she was until she started to flirt with me. It was only then I found out which department she worked in, what her name was and how long she had been working for the same company.

Found out that she is 35 with 2 kids and divorced for 5 years. I am 51 Never Married.
We started talking/e-mailing.
In the last 2 months, we exchanged over 200 e-mails - about life etc.
We both became so close that we shared a lot of our life experiences with one another.
After about 3 months of knowing her,I asked her out.
And to my delight, she accepted ! and said she was very happy that I asked her out.
She was busy the weekend in question.
I asked her again a few days later via e-mail.
She replied by saying that in the last couple of months she has been trying to get to know someone else and that both of them had decided to start dating !!!
This happened in last week of August.
This broke my heart !

However, on Sept 7 I celebrated her birthday in the office by getting a cake and sandwiches for about 25 people and giving her a nice gift. She expressed how happy she was for all this.

Until yesterday, we were still in touch.

I sent her 2 e-mails - She Never replied back
Anytime she needed me,I made myself available - Like giving ride to her kids etc.
I am/was the only one she would talk to about her life etc.
We both have so much in common that she seemed to be my soul mate.
We both liked same things: Playing Tennis, Art, visiting Museums, white wine, large dogs as pets, nature, travel etc.

Was she leading me on or was I not seeing things properly ?

posted September 18, 2012 07:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage:
I am sorry to hear you're in so much pain.

This is an astrological forum. Why don't you post your natal chart?

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Here it is:

posted September 18, 2012 07:32 PM            

She's interested in someone else. This is coming from another female. She was honest and upfront about it and just told you the truth. Sure, she seemed happy about the gifts you gave her, but that's because...she's probably greedy...LOL. A little levity there, but it's true - just because you gave her gifts and she liked receiving them isn't the same thing as being interested in someone.

My advice? Find someone else. And it's not hard to do in a world with literally billions of women in it. She's just one. You'll do fine if you just put yourself out there and see what happens, and you'll probably find someone who is a better match for you than she would've been anyway.

posted September 18, 2012 07:34 PM            

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posted September 18, 2012 07:35 PM            

She got lemons and so she made lemonade.

She didn't lead you on.. You might've led yourself on with expectations and hopes; it's still unknown as to whether the two of you had discussed any possibility of romance or if she felt the same.

If she was "playing the field", yes, i do believe she was maybe testing waters on both ends.

Some people would be more than happy to find someone willing to be as open as i'm assuming you may have been and those may be more disposed to appreciate it.

If you would like to find out more, post a synastry chart between you two or just your natal if you can.

posted September 18, 2012 07:46 PM            

Your Venus is in your 12th house, squared by Neptune, so there are things about relationships and the opposite sex that you have difficulty understanding. You can be easily led by fantasies that have no basic in reality. The 12th house is the house of the unconscious, some also say the house of suffering. You were leading a happy life until you started your involvement with this woman.

You said the two of you shared a lot by email, but one thing she didn't tell you was that she was also getting involved with someone else. So I don't quite agree with those who say that she didn't lead you on. But it's okay, she did come clean at some point and told you that she would be seeing someone else. Yes you were helpful to her, and helping her with her kids, and she probably took advantage of you in that way, but if you did it with the expectation that she would be your girlfriend, then it was not a selfless act.

You know, those types of things are not personal. Either people click, or they don't. Either people have karma that will make them be together or they don't. It's really not personal. Release this woman, and move on to being happy again.

posted September 18, 2012 07:52 PM            

Yes, I am heartbroken and the fact is that I will be bumping into her 2-3 days a week.
This will cause more pain.
I wish she had never started to flirt with me - I was very happy the way my life was going and I was planning to tour several countries
with a male friend of mine starting Nov 2012.
I just can not do it now.

She did mention that I was very nice, caring and generous person and it will be her loss not to go out with me.