posted October 01, 2012 06:55 PM            

I am new here and this is my very first post. I've read around already and I've seen really great insights, comments, so I really hope some of you can help me out. I try to make the story as short as possible.

I met a Pisces guy. I work abroad in seasonal/summer job and he started to work at the same place from beginning of June. We have some an age difference, I am some years older than he is.

He is from outside a typical muscle/gym guy with a pretty face. I had prejudgements about that, so we haven't talked for weeks. Then in July he started to talk to me and we got into more serious conversations really fast.
I work evening shift, he works night shift, our work overlaps 1 hour. After a while I realized that in this 1 hour he stopped spending time with other workmates and only spends time with me.
We got to like our conversations so much that after a while I started to stay there after work for hours just talking.
He is really reserved and seemed to be a tough guy, like not opening up easily and also telling about himself that he is heartless etc. (He works at night in tourism so he sees a lot of terrible things and can't demostrate much emotions)

After a while, he started to get more easy-going and tell me stories about his childhood, his family, his life and his hopes and plans for the future. I live like half an hour walk from work and one of the first times I stayed there, he offered me to bring me home with his car. Since that he never ever allowed me to take a taxi or go by walk, he always brings me home.

I have a jealous exbf who works at the same company (luckily not at the same workplace) and he makes my life a living hell because of Pisces guy.
Pisces knows about it and though they know each other and got along well before, he told me if my ex ever touches me, he will have to face him.

First thing I realized in connection to getting closer to me was that he started to tease me and playfully hit me or push me around. Then he started to call me nicknames like: "tiny" or "silly".

I felt that he has to be handled with care and I can't just bluntly hit on him or anything, so I simply started to gradually make physical contact, like touching his shoulder while we talked.

Two weeks ago, when we were sitting next to each other looking at photos, he started to play with my hair and dragged it until my head ended up on his chest and he started to caress me head. This was his very first tender move towards me.

The next day he was messing with my head again and I grabbed his hand for a moment then I let it go. Then he grabbed after it and we started to hold hands, him caressing my arm, sitting in the dark terrace.

The following day my hand ended up in his again and then he started to massage my back and I ended up caressing his back for half an hour (all this without speaking to each other really).
This weekend he went so far when I put down my head on my leg for a moment that he started to caress my neck, then my back and going around for half an hour without stopping, after a while he was arm-deep in my t-shirt caressing my nacked back.
Since our work contracts will be over soon, I told him half jokingly: „What will I do without you?” And he told me first: „Well, what you have done before.” And then I didn’t respond and he just told me: „Silly…” and came and embraced me.

In front of all the workmates he behaves tough and really mature, only when we are alone he gets cosy and childlike with me. He puts his head on my shoulder or using baby-talk to me…

So I know that gradually we are getting close to each other, but honestly I have no idea what kind of relationship are we getting closer in… for me this is not friendship and though I had several male friends, none of them ever treated me like this.

My question is, what is in his mind/heart, what does he possibly want from me? I really like him a lot. He is really handsome and looks amazing, but I fell for him because of his personality and the way he treats me.
He knows I like his look, but also knows I would not spend time with him for that.

He does all these things and many more examples I won’t list here, but he never hitted on me or invited me for a date… so it completely confuses me. I think that workmates around us think that we are together. I think everyone thinks we have a thing going on, except of us. WE NEVER REALLY TALK ABOUT US.

I am really shy and very bad in topics like this, so I don’t bring it up, also cause I don’t wanna corner him.

I feel like a skizophrenic cause we ’pretend’ to be just friends, while when we are alone we hold hands and get really sensitive with each other.

It feels like there is a barrier between us that we can’t step over, while we communicate much more non-verbally with touches. Those silent times are filled with so much positive energy and care towards each other.

For further information, he is a Pisces with Gemini Asc, Aries Moon, Aquarius Mercury, Pisces Venus and Taurus Mars.

I am an Aqua, with Virgo Asc. and Moon, Aquarius Mercury, Capricorn Venus and Libra Mars.

posted October 02, 2012 05:23 PM            

I think it makes sense that he does not do much display of affection at work. Sounds professional. It's not really appropriate to bring your relationship to work and so I think it's wise that he is respecting that.

If he treats you well and is kind and loving toward you during your personal time, then I say relax, don't worry and count yourself lucky to have a dreamy, gentle Pisces man into you!

With an aries moon and taurus mars, I bet he is very direct and clear about his interest and affectionate too. That's great. Pisces men without that fire and earth would be slower to assert and define a relationship.

posted October 02, 2012 05:31 PM            

I didn't read your post yet. I just saw Pisces. Then scrolled to find his moon. I will see if I can add any insight once I get around to reading it. (Long text posts overwhelm me at first, they seem like a big commitment )