posted October 11, 2012 08:29 PM            

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Originally posted by Ann7:
Are there certain aspects that point to a lasting, happy marriage/ relationship/ commitment just not being in the cards? As in the native has bad luck in this regard?

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posted October 11, 2012 08:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Ann7:
I'm wondering if it might be gemini ruling the 7th?

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I think that there is usually more than just one placement. Can you post the chart?

posted October 11, 2012 11:59 PM            

Saturn for practical reasons.

Uranus for being unconventional.

posted October 12, 2012 01:54 AM            

As amowls pointed out, the ruler of the DSC opposing Saturn in the 5th. Impression here is that you tend to limit what you say to maintain peace. However you have chatty social Gemini as your partner type so they may not like the lack of communication.

Also Moon in Pisces, is square venus in sag in the 1st and Neptune in the the 12th, ruling the Moon in the third. Again, key ideas are glossing over, evading issues, vague communication, especially how you feel. With Venus in the 1st and ruler Jupiter in Libra in the 10th, in mutual reception, you are attractive and definitely give off a desirable and worthwhile personality. However, maybe with all the evasiveness and avoiding of issues, Mr Gemini, wonders if you even like him (again here venus, ruling the merc/saturn opposition). He may even think, with Mars conjunct Scorpio and scorpio on the 12th, that you have an ideal image of the guy you really like and yet he can't compete with this unseen guy (merc isn't making any aspects to Sun, moon, venus, mars, jupiter) - (mars ruling 5th and 12th, conjunct pluto ruling 12th, ruling Neptune, ruling Moon square Venus - aka the type of guy that you are turned on by is hot, and you are secretly in love with him, but he's not easy to get to (Venus in Sag), whilst everyone knows that you are committed to me, Mr Gemini partner (Venus trine saturn opposing merc in 11th ruling MC).

posted October 12, 2012 02:40 AM            

You can do this by chatting about shared hobbies, or even your hobby, the gemini partner and with your moon in the gemini house, you can chat about things and, (taking a term from the evolutionary astrologyers and psych nursing) if you use socratic questioning, you will feel the partner may become more integrated into your life. Examples of questions are: how would you do this, what do you think about that, why do you think this would happen etc.

So even though you are not actually telling much more, you are engagin the other so that they feel more involved and that their opinion and thoughts matter to you.

The reason why it can be about hobbies, is to work with the habit of saturn on the 5th. Perhaps you are discinclined to just have fun so therefore the partner may think you are like that because you don't enjoy being with them (merc opposition saturn).

So examples of things that may get your communicative and fun juices flowing are:

I'm feeling a medium here - maybe its hot glue gun and beadwork, so yes I think, as trivial as it may seem, these partners could probably happily sit watching tv/watching you, sorting your beads, giving their opinion on what would be the best colour etc.

Another example is, definitely getting a feel for dogs, dog breeding/training. Not that its all about you, he is of course going to have his own interests etc, however with venus in your first ruling merc ruling 7th, he is pretty happy if you show your liking of him, especially in fromt of other people (merc in 11th ruling MC).

If you look at your chart, your inner planets don't have many aspects and you have sun in scorpio, so you might be a bit of a mystery. A big strength of yours is the Sun trine Moon, moon ruling 8th, you don't have to say much to take it to an intimate level which would be pretty enticing I guess.

posted October 12, 2012 06:13 AM            

When I get serious with a man (fall in love) the relationships tend to fall apart over time. Usually they cheat and I leave. The other end of the spectrum is that I'll date a guy I'm not that into and end it because I need to feel more than just "like".

I definitely engage my loved one (just about everyone) in conversations about themselves. I know it makes a person feel good when you show interest in them- This is actually one of the problems I'm having with my now boyfriend, he doesn't show any interest. I do all of the things you suggested like showing PDA , etc but it's weakly reciprocated.

Meh - regardless, I feel like I have no problem finding love but holding on to it is another story.

Very interesting stuff about the transits and difference in opinion!!! I will read more into that.

posted October 13, 2012 10:35 AM            

Advice ~ based purely on this Venus position ~ would be to pay attention to great character differences between acquaintances and a close partner. The difficulty this could create in relationship is the changeable behaviour. It may seem that the native is happier in social circumstances and may forget and overlook a partner at such times.