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C1ND3R
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posted October 16, 2012 09:55 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello friends...

Can those of you with the hard aspects between venus and uranus put into words your romantic inclinations?

How has it worked out in the past? I have an inconjunction between the two... It isn't quite te square, opp or trine..

Regardless, there's an aspect...

And you know me, always inquisitive.

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posted October 16, 2012 11:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for DrewMann     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have a conjunction. Love women, but hate routine and possesiveness, freedom lover. I think it also lends to a person bieng a bit loose. I once read that people who have uranus/venus aspects will never stay married.

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posted October 16, 2012 12:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TaurusRising     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have the square (3°) & I unconsciously always find myself attracted to unavailable/attached people and/or them to me. Usually, I don't even know they are attached til I get to know them. I think I see relationships different than the social consensus. I am ok not being with anyone, I think its great fun to have someone, but the marriage/family thing it not what i see as the great accomplishment in life...it just an added bonus IF it can fit into the vastness of life experiences. I just feel I am here for something greater and I am not sure I can fit a marriage into my life, or if I tried right now I would resent them for holding me back, no matter how much I loved them.

I am very picky when it comes to relationships, mostly because I don't want to hurt anyone. I don't want someone to get attached and then have to end it because its not what I want it to be. I guess I am holding out for my unicorn, as I call it, someone that is on the same page with me and wants to tackle the same adventures, in the same way. One were we never stop learning about each other and can grow in the same direction. I don't believe in holding someone else back because of vows or whatever else. I think some people hold on too long because they are afraid of change/unknown.

Plus, I love my space...I have cohabited before and I really don't think that is for me. The Idea of being committed to someone while living in separate houses, is ideal.

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posted October 16, 2012 01:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lava Flower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have the Quindecile aspect and Uranus is my 7th house ruler. I am highly idealistic and I lose interest if the person I'm with gets so possessive that my expression is suppressed, and like the ^ above person, I am looking for someone who is my bestest friend, who is supportive and open and who I can forever grow with (my Venus is in the 11th so that may be why also). I'm capable of deep intimacy, commitment but if the person I'm with is unwilling to grow and change and especially if they hold me back, I lose that spark that keeps me motivated to continue working on our relationship.

I am definitely attracted to those unique, out there, intellectual and philosophical individuals. But for me, they must also be committed, spiritual, considerate, flexible and supportive as well. Intellectual/philosophical (philosophically realistic) is a must tho, its what makes me tic (Aqua mars) so I can learn from them as well. It takes me a looong time to find someone that fit's me and my ever-changing life path, but once I do, the person becomes that colorful prism that stands out from the rest of the world, and I will do my best to include them into my life and compromise and work on "us" even if I feel a little crowded. Routine for me, is hard with or without a partner and easier to be motivated to be better with one except my hobbies tend to suffer. I do not get resentful for being "held back" because I usually wouldn't stick around past the point of being stuck in the rut and just take responsibility and set both of us free.

I did want to say that I can be jealous/possessive even though I try to keep it to myself because it feels like a low manifestation of my creativity and my pride suffers a great deal. So what tends to happen is either i'm insecure or my partner is, and working on the middle ground meeting place is usually a work in progress.

All my romantic relationships must start out from a solid foundation of friendship and common interests. It takes the pressure off and I feel more open and myself when I feel valued for me. Even if I'm really really attracted to someone, and they are interested in me, I cannot just go into date/romantic mode unless they have been in my life as a friend for a while, but again that's likely my Venus in the 11th. I don't think about forming a relationship, there's not much contemplation/planning, if I want a relationship with someone it just happens once the requirements are there and the time is right. If there is a relationship that I want, I commit to it right away (mars in the 7th) and its something I have to work on because of the changes that I am not prepared for when my build upon friendship is rocked by romance. My pending divorce at 24 is a representation of exactly that lol

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posted October 16, 2012 03:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DrewMann     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@ Lava Flower, welcome to the club. Been divorced three yrs. My uranus in comj venus in leo. So marriage was a testing time. It actually was the kids that kept us together.

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posted October 16, 2012 03:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bearee     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have venus opposite uranus.

I want someone who will be always there for me, a lifetime partner, but i really want my space! I want us to have different lifes, I don't want to become ONE person with my partner (which a lot of couples, especially married ones, do).
I've been thinking lately.. I'm not sure if the 'normal' married life is something for me. I think I won't feel good living with my partner in the same house. I'm not sure though, because I've never done it so I don't know how I'll react to that situation.
Hmm.

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posted October 16, 2012 04:01 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Long Distance, Erratic, Unconventional. i live up to it.

aqua DSC though, and a some leo energy.

sun-trine-uranus.

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posted October 16, 2012 04:29 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What i've read about the inconjunction is that the person doesn't need freedom FROM relationships but freedom through/in relationships.. I don't know what the hell that means. Fwb? I used to be all lovey-dovey and then something happened: i grew up. I think i'm on the other end of the spectrum, now.

I think the Neptune in Libra generation made this awful ideal of relationships where people are expecting to act out some epic drama where they live together forever and people with uranus/venus aspects are the one's that are putting their foot down saying that it's not exactly the right route to go.

I dunno... Just thinking out loud.

I just don't like the aspect in synatry nor composite.

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posted October 16, 2012 05:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have venus sq uranus (4d). I've never been married or intimate. I can't even say the one guy I dated was a bf because our relation was so casual, we treated eachother like acquaintances lol. So I've pretty much been single my entire life.
That being said apart of me doesn't mind the lack of romance, but deep down I do want to find true love.. I think everyone does. I read that ppl with venus/uranus get bored easily and like to jump from person to person or have open relationships, which isn't true for me at all. I definitely need my freedom, but I only want to be with one person.

At the end of the day, if I knew I was going to stay single for the rest of my life I would be ok with that
I'm just one of those people who think "if it's meant to be, then it will be"

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posted October 16, 2012 05:24 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^ i'm one of those people that think: if u want it, it's up to you to make it happen.

Might just be my own philosophy, though..

Angelina Jolie has venus/uranus..

Her and brad must have some sort of magic button? Oh, that's right.. They're usually not even on the same continent half of the time.

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posted October 16, 2012 05:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sorcha     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by C1ND3R:
What i've read about the inconjunction is that the person doesn't need freedom FROM relationships but freedom through/in relationships.. I don't know what the hell that means. Fwb? I used to be all lovey-dovey and then something happened: i grew up. I think i'm on the other end of the spectrum, now.

My ex has the quincunx too and I think that he really had a hard time knowing how to do what you mentioned above. I think it is about finding that space in relationship where you have interdependence. In other words, you have your own lives but you also come together to form a team in a healthy way. I think you can absolutely find freedom through relationship but you have to be willing to go through some stuff with your partner to get there.

Also, what I've noticed with any hard aspect is that you need to see and experience both sides of it in order to be able to work with it so it sounds like you are exploring the other side of things right now.

ETA: I have the trine and so I do best with freedom mixed with closeness. And some weirdness is good too.

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posted October 16, 2012 05:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Her and brad must have some sort of magic button? Oh, that's right.. They're usually not even on the same continent half of the time.

Lol and sadly that's probably the best kind of a relationship for us.

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posted October 16, 2012 05:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for peachbeigeblue     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have the opposition. I also have Venus opposite Saturn and Neptune as well. I was told that the Saturn opposition mitigates the Venus opp Uranus.

Since I am triple fixed and feel inclined to want to be in a committed relationships - i was advised it might help me if i date someone who lives out the strong uranus for me.

A part of me really does like space and freedom but a part of me wants to be under someone's thumb. So it seems to work best if i like someone who doesn't smother me and i almost pine after them a little more. They have to be strong enough to be able to not let me steamroll them.

I always surprise people with who I like, even myself.

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posted October 16, 2012 05:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemmy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted October 16, 2012 07:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for enchantress299     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have the square (Uranus 1st- Venus 9th/10th).

Contrary to popular belief about Venus/Uranus, I DO actually want to be in a loyal committed relationship. I find that the more that I want to be in a loyal committed relationship, the more I attract either people who are already married, who are unavailable, or people who want to stick me in a love triangle of some form (I've had both men AND women do this to me).

The more I don't care about having a relationship, the more the 'right' relationships come to me. I think it's something about the gift of Uranus- spontaneity and not looking for something to happen, just allowing it to happen.

Also, as far as characteristics of the Venus/Uranus square go- I don't like to be SMOTHERED. I don't need too much independence, but just enough to let me feel empowered. Also, I'm a quick starter/quick ender, which is to say- I often get super excited about someone when I first meet them because I tend to see someone's potential over their reality, and a few weeks in, I back off or end it totally.

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I think it is about finding that space in relationship where you have interdependence. In other words, you have your own lives but you also come together to form a team in a healthy way. I think you can absolutely find freedom through relationship but you have to be willing to go through some stuff with your partner to get there.

...is incredibly true for me. The irony for me is that I have always wanted a BALANCED relationship. However, I have a strong personality, and so I often attract men who are either too dominating (because they like the challenge of trying to dominate me) or too passive (because they think I'll take the lead). I only want the middle road at this point... I've dealt with way too many of the extremes.

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posted October 16, 2012 08:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Robin Goodfellow     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think I have an eccentric and weird yet interesting venus opposed mars, I have this urge to have kids with lots of women this urge wont leave me alone and I think I'm going to carry it out because I know that I can do it. Its a hunting game with me tryin g to find that right someone but I know that I can zero in on it. Unusual relationships. I think what this aspect has done to me is afforded me with aesthetic sensibilities of an unusual order. From this standpoint I have some weird ways of conceptualizing and understanding the female gender but the love making style or vibe is not that light and nerdy in my situation but has a healthy volatility to it so it works out alright deespite being in hard aspect. I meet females under unusual circumstances and in unsual places. I like relationships but I dont need marriage.

Moon trine uranus
mars opposed uranus.

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posted October 16, 2012 08:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I have this urge to have kids with lots of women this urge wont leave me alone and I think I'm going to carry it out because I know that I can do it.

So you want to use women just to get them pregnant? I mean i guess it's okay if they already know your intentions.. but I doubt most women would be ok with that, I know I wouldn't.
Uranus relationships to me are like cultural gaps, age gaps, long distance, social-status, maybe even being w/ someone who has physical differences, like height and weight.. but idk about getting a ton of women pregnant. Still, like I said before if the women are fine that, then ok, it certainly is unusual that's for sure.

just my opinion.

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posted October 16, 2012 08:28 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Sorcha:
My ex has the quincunx too and I think that he really had a hard time knowing how to do what you mentioned above. I think it is about finding that space in relationship where you have interdependence. In other words, you have your own lives but you also come together to form a team in a healthy way. I think you can absolutely find freedom through relationship but you have to be willing to go through some stuff with your partner to get there.

Also, what I've noticed with any hard aspect is that you need to see and experience both sides of it in order to be able to work with it so it sounds like you are exploring the other side of things right now.

ETA: I have the trine and so I do best with freedom mixed with closeness. And some weirdness is good too.


That was wonderful and wonderfully worded! I'm in the generation that has s-turn conjunct uranus and both make the aspect to my venus and moon since those are also in conjunction.... I'm the one that gets into a relationship and handlesy life and at the same time, take over mamaging the house and making sure my SO is taken care of... I don't take them lightly.

Now, i'm experiencing the just me being me part without being involved or pressing to be involved. That has actually attracted more people than i can count that WANT to be involved. One of those, i wouldn't mind..

I just still don't truly grasp what my responsibility is in a relationship and what my role is.. When i mentioned the "Gone With the Wind/Neptune in Libra" generation, i meant that it's the impact they had on me. I have this thing in my head where i must be there for them forever and ever and i can meet the standards but then i don't feel so fresh because it's so much that i suddenly take on at the expense of my own personal freedom and i wanna get that checked for and when i do find a relationship that i would like to get involved in and work on...

It may take a bit of adjustment to understand that not everything is done together ALL of the time and with my work/career life taking off at full speed, i get it now.

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Originally posted by peachbeigeblue:
I have the opposition. I also have Venus opposite Saturn and Neptune as well. I was told that the Saturn opposition mitigates the Venus opp Uranus.

Since I am triple fixed and feel inclined to want to be in a committed relationships - i was advised it might help me if i date someone who lives out the strong uranus for me.

A part of me really does like space and freedom but a part of me wants to be under someone's thumb. So it seems to work best if i like someone who doesn't smother me and i almost pine after them a little more. They have to be strong enough to be able to not let me steamroll them.

I always surprise people with who I like, even myself.


Oh, ok... So date david bowie.
http://imdb.com/title/tt0120879/

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Originally posted by enchantress299:
The more I don't care about having a relationship, the more the 'right' relationships come to me. I think it's something about the gift of Uranus- spontaneity and not looking for something to happen, just allowing it to happen.

Also, as far as characteristics of the Venus/Uranus square go- I don't like to be SMOTHERED. I don't need too much independence, but just enough to let me feel empowered. Also, I'm a quick starter/quick ender, which is to say- I often get super excited about someone when I first meet them because I tend to see someone's potential over their reality, and a few weeks in, I back off or end it totally.
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Yup!

I have a love/hate with it.. I used to sometimes feel that if they gave me too much freedom, they didn't care.

And those that i get REALLY excited over..? I still get really excited with special guys that i meet... I have been meeting special guys everywhere i go and it's only because now there are so many of them, that i'm able to reel it in, some... It feels good. I used to feel such anciety before; Mars in Aries had to have them RIGHT NOW!!!!! Not later,.. Later doesn't exist! It's only NOW that counts and i must NOT let this opportunity pass..

I'm relieved, to be honest..

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posted October 16, 2012 08:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sorcha     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by C1ND3R:
That was wonderful and wonderfully worded! I'm in the generation that has s-turn conjunct uranus and both make the aspect to my venus and moon since those are also in conjunction.... I'm the one that gets into a relationship and handlesy life and at the same time, take over mamaging the house and making sure my SO is taken care of... I don't take them lightly.

Now, i'm experiencing the just me being me part without being involved or pressing to be involved. That has actually attracted more people than i can count that WANT to be involved. One of those, i wouldn't mind..

I just still don't truly grasp what my responsibility is in a relationship and what my role is.. When i mentioned the "Gone With the Wind/Neptune in Libra" generation, i meant that it's the impact they had on me. I have this thing in my head where i must be there for them forever and ever and i can meet the standards but then i don't feel so fresh because it's so much that i suddenly take on at the expense of my own personal freedom and i wanna get that checked for and when i do find a relationship that i would like to get involved in and work on...

It may take a bit of adjustment to understand that not everything is done together ALL of the time and with my work/career life taking off at full speed, i get it now.


Yeah I think squares and quincunxes are about adjustments that need to be made in order to find balance. And that point of balance shifts around all the time so I think that just being aware that you cannot do everything and that both your need for freedom and your need for closeness get met to the best of your ability

Oppositions are so much easier in a way because it's finding the balancing point as opposed to a point that constantly moves.

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posted October 16, 2012 08:58 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sorcha, your posts are on FIRE today! what do your trainsits look like? My Jupiter trines your mercury and it's conjunction. I think that when you know and understand something, both inside and out, you can actually express it and find those discoveries you were after as if one were spreading butter!

I like what you aaid about the inconjunction... It's more or less a mutable aspect. Not prominent, not deaf nor mute but, simply able to adjust..... Interesting.

I really like that.

I'm gonna think about that for a while to see what te universe gives me. With my Pisces North Node, i just have to open myself up to things and it just magically appears.

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posted October 16, 2012 09:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sorcha     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by C1ND3R:
Sorcha, your posts are on FIRE today! what do your trainsits look like? My Jupiter trines your mercury and it's conjunction. I think that when you know and understand something, both inside and out, you can actually express it and find those discoveries you were after as if one were spreading butter!

I like what you aaid about the inconjunction... It's more or less a mutable aspect. Not prominent, not deaf nor mute but, simply able to adjust..... Interesting.

I really like that.

I'm gonna think about that for a while to see what te universe gives me. With my Pisces North Node, i just have to open myself up to things and it just magically appears.


Are they!?! Lmao! I am glad they are resonating with you! And if you have a PIsces NN, no doubt you can Ommm for a bit and come up with something.

As for transits? Nothing epic, but I do have T. Mercury conjunct NN and opposite Moon and Jupiter. As well I have T. Jupiter soon to conjunct natal Mercury. Maybe that's it

Natally I have Neptune (in 7th) quincunx Moon (in 12th) so I know the desperate confusion that is the mighty quincunx. It frustrates me a lot because it's like one part is acting on its own, completely unaware of the other part and what it needs but still... they're connected. (My ex actually has his Sun and Moon inconjunct, and I think that might be an identity crisis aspect or something.)

Also, I was looking at the other thread about persona charts and thinking that looking at the synastry between the two planets with which you have a quincunx might be interesting. Maybe that would shed some light on things?

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i wanted to add a little more, i thought only to input the types of relationships they were rather than traits.

for me, venus is rather inconsistent and confused. i have several squares to explain that + one opposition. most my life i have wanted someone who i'd settle with quickly and marry. i have venus square saturn and opposition moon. also square jupiter.

but now im going through a pretty uranian period in my life, i don't want to get married unless the right person comes along. but since you can never plan to intend to meet the right person, i'v committed myself to just being free. im not entirely sure what i want, i want different things. i want rebellious open relationships, deep intimacy on an intellectual and psychological and even emotional level but without the ties, i suck just being friends with a woman, and the truth is that - i don't usually want to be, most the women that interest me in being their friend are ones i want to get with.

i'm somewhat addicted to sex, sexual pleasure, that motivates my desires to be free and unrestricted. i need excitement, i usually get this from really fast encounters that are rebellious in some way, i.e. im 23, i'v needed to see a counsellor, if she was attractive to me in anyway physically or mentally / emotionally, thats all it takes. cheating fantasies.. both being the cheater or engaging the cheater.

its also like others have stated about freedom in a relationship in general: i cannot be smothered in general. my moon-venus, might detract this though as i'v loved being a smothered sometimes. but in general, the partner has to be independent to a good degree. financially, intellectually, and emotionally. yet with other aspects in my chart that want the opposite of distance, (intimacy) i have to break their independence. i want them to not be as independent as me, i want to comfort and care for them. but only on the occasion here in there. like a warrior whos independent but when injured, needs to lean on me and only me. because i want to care for them emotionally and lovingly.

eh, i could go on, but its a cocktail isn't it.

i need space, and someone who can be as nonchalant, distant and independent as me, i.e. not needy. yet it can't be too much, it has to be a sweetpoint. they have to be that but contradict it too and fulfil my want for closeness, intimacy, and attention.

if the other partner fulfills the distant uranian energy, my hunger for attention and closeness comes out. if i am uranian and they begin to suck up to me, i wont necessarily become more distant, but they wont experience me being needy or desiring loads of attention or anything. not often.

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posted October 16, 2012 10:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sorcha     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There's a book about this I read about a decade ago called The Passion Paradox. I can't recall the author's bias so I can't really say if I agree with their conclusions but it was literally about what you just wrote FavouriteName and more or less what's on this thread.

Essentially it's about wanting people who don't want us and vice versa and what the balancing point is... If I remember correctly.

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