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Topic: This Sag sun, aqua venus... I cant stand her anymore
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pancakes22 Knowflake Posts: 66 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted November 05, 2012 09:13 PM
I love being around her, she's always so affectionate, very caring. It's a blast being with her. When she leaves, I hate it, I get slow response to texts, little attention. It's practically pointless talking to her or initiating conversation. I find it works best when she leaves after spending the weekend together, and I just let her initiate. I'm so irritated by this. We're not official yet, but I'm gonna just ignore her, and not even respond to anything. I'm a leo sun, leo moon and virgo venus.IP: Logged |
birdy Knowflake Posts: 516 From: Sunny Registered: Dec 2011
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posted November 05, 2012 09:22 PM
IMO..It either works and flows or it doesn't. I would take that as a sign for it not being a favorable union. I know some people get together with delays/games but mostly not. It shouldn't be this difficult.IP: Logged |
pancakes22 Knowflake Posts: 66 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted November 05, 2012 09:25 PM
It's awesome when she's here with me and spends the weekend together. I like her quite a bit, but I cant stand zero attention. I agree though, it wont be easy, but I'm just gonna go like a ghost and cut ties.IP: Logged |
sweet-scorpion Knowflake Posts: 979 From: PA, USA Registered: Apr 2012
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posted November 05, 2012 09:31 PM
quote: Originally posted by pancakes22: I love being around her, she's always so affectionate, very caring. It's a blast being with her. When she leaves, I hate it, I get slow response to texts, little attention. It's practically pointless talking to her or initiating conversation. I find it works best when she leaves after spending the weekend together, and I just let her initiate. I'm so irritated by this. We're not official yet, but I'm gonna just ignore her, and not even respond to anything. I'm a leo sun, leo moon and virgo venus.
It seems like a contradiction... she's supposedly affectionate but will give little to zero responses to any thoughtful or casual text. To me, it's a paradox. When you like a person the flow of affection + communications should be consistent most of the time... you shouldn't have to beg her to text or be worried about it all the time, and you shouldn't feel like you have to force her to be in the relationship with you. It's definitely a reason to be irritated. Because what's happening here is you're as you should be, when you like someone, invested in it and she isn't. Bottom line: you either have to communicate this to her bluntly, which actually could work, since her Sag Sun could handle that, or let it go. I've had a love like this and it hurts the longer it goes on. Both people should be about 40/60 to 50/50 when it comes to being invested. Not 80/20 or an even crazier idea.
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starmoon Knowflake Posts: 247 From: Registered: Sep 2011
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posted November 05, 2012 09:34 PM
quote: Originally posted by pancakes22: It's awesome when she's here with me and spends the weekend together. I like her quite a bit, but I cant stand zero attention. I agree though, it wont be easy, but I'm just gonna go like a ghost and cut ties.
sometimes you have to look at charts for details and sometimes just looking at the major planets a person has is enough. in your instance i think there is just little understanding/compatibility between your major signs and the female you like. as a leo sun/moon you will always need attention that an aqua venus cannot provide. they will be way too detached for you. i am a virgo venus with an aqua venus bf and it is maddening; their attention(s) are strong and stable, but not as grounded and attentive as a virgo venus and leo moon would want. probably best to part ways now and find someone else who can meet your needs IP: Logged |
Mandy pie Newflake Posts: 10 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 05, 2012 10:51 PM
To me it sounds like she's just not as interested in the relationship as you are. I've had "friends" who do that exact thing. They're really attentive when they're with you and seem really excited about getting together, but then as soon as you're apart they don't respond to simple emails or texts for very long periods of time. In all cases it turned out they were saying critical things behind my back that they could've easily just shared with me if they had bothered.You'd have to look at your synastry to know for sure, but she probably doesn't value the relationship as much as you do. IP: Logged |
starfairy Knowflake Posts: 110 From: los angeles, california, USA Registered: Jul 2010
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posted November 05, 2012 11:18 PM
This Leo guy with Virgo Venus guy has been trying to date me for a very long time, but it just doens't work. I have sun conjunct uranus in Sagittarius. I'm too detached and unreliable for him, and the fact that he gets so irritated with me turns me off. Sags need a lot of space and freedom; he always likes to "plan things out," but I prefer flying by the seat of my pants! He doesn't give up easily, though.As a Leo Sun, he needs lots of attention. Virgo Venus needs reliability and stability, which is hard for an Airy Sag to give. If you want this to work with her, you have to give her tons of space and forgive her for her inconsistencies. If you can't deal with this, then yes, I think you should stop seeing her. IP: Logged |
starfairy Knowflake Posts: 110 From: los angeles, california, USA Registered: Jul 2010
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posted November 05, 2012 11:19 PM
Does her Uranus make any hard aspects to your natal planets?IP: Logged |
StacyLewis Knowflake Posts: 38 From: Registered: Oct 2012
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posted November 06, 2012 03:32 AM
quote: Originally posted by pancakes22: I love being around her, she's always so affectionate, very caring. It's a blast being with her. When she leaves, I hate it, I get slow response to texts, little attention. It's practically pointless talking to her or initiating conversation. I find it works best when she leaves after spending the weekend together, and I just let her initiate. I'm so irritated by this. We're not official yet, but I'm gonna just ignore her, and not even respond to anything. I'm a leo sun, leo moon and virgo venus.
If you've already ended it, keep things that way. Trust me. I have the same placements you do (except for the moon sign), and my last ex was a Sag moon (with a stellium in Gemini, including his Venus) and it was that exact same issue, where things got to the point where I was literally begging him to talk to me. Sag-prominent people I don't think are really capable of giving a Leo sun and Virgo Venus what they need in a relationship, you'll always feel neglected and deprived and like they don't give a crap about you. It's a fundamental incompatibility/gap that I don't really think can be bridged. Especially if you're Plutonian in any way, then it's really dead in the water because they won't be able to handle your intensity or the intense dynamic to the relationship either. Don't even bother. IP: Logged |
a_may_gemini Knowflake Posts: 172 From: Los Angeles, Calif Registered: Sep 2012
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posted November 06, 2012 04:23 AM
I think out of all the responses, Birdy is the most wise and correct.I don't think seeking out ways through astrology to explain why someone treats you the way they do will ever yield any answers. People treat others the way they want to. In the case of the Sag, she wants to ignore you when not physically present. You're not that important to her and you're hurt by that. You have every right to be hurt by lack of attention but she has every right to ignore you if she wants to. Bottom line, chuck the astrology stuff (I know, it's an astro forum) but seriously, astrology will not explain to you why she doesn't care about you as much as you seem to care about her. Besides, you've outlined that you and her are not official so there you have it. If you're not official, why be so demanding of attention as if you were official? Did you put a ring on her hand? No? Well, there's your answer. IP: Logged | |