posted November 11, 2012 01:26 PM            

I'm in need of some insight with a beautiful Sagittarius man please...

We met about 3 months ago. He works at an upscale Salsa club that I go to with my friends. He's a retired Navy man and works there as lead of the security team (it's near SF guys... a lot of security required Hehehe).

So he had approached me with small talk and flirting with me a few times. We got to talking, exchanged numbers... And a couple of weekends ago he made it very clear that he likes me. He walked me to the car, held my hand, told me how "gorgeous I looked", and that he would call to go have dinner, etc., etc.... I sent enough signals to show him that I, too, like him but I didn't jump into his arms/bed, etc... not my style.

He told me he'd be at the base the next couple of weeks. So I didn't see him until last night. We had only exchanged a few flirty texts over the past couple of weeks that he was at base... So last night, I show up (looking amazing, by the way! And he is totally giving me the cold shoulder! He came to me only a couple of times early in the eve with just some small talk but I did see him following my every move! Then I see him kissing with a security gal who was all over him!! UGH!! MEN!!! So after that, I allowed myself to get closer with this guy and we danced and spent the rest of the eve together, at which he frowned!! His girls ended up leaving the party and he did nothing but follow me&my new friend around in a very "inconspicuous" way (so he thought)... and even asked one of my friends what was up with me and the guy!! ...The nerve!! His female "friend" appeared very clingy to which he looked a bit annoyed but he played along! Her style is more of the show off, a bit on the vulgar side. I on the other hand prefer the more ellegant/classy kind of sexy (dress not too short, not too tight lol) and my behaviour is the same way. Never kissed with anyone at the club nor left with anyone other than the friends I came with. We've never even seen eachother outside the club before but the chemestry is enormous!!

I am tempted to write to him and tell him that since he apparently has someone now, that he shouldn't mind me getting close with someone.

I really like this guy! I don't want him to think that there's anything between me and the guy I was dancing with last night. He saw me leave by my self, but we didn't say bye or talk after he saw me dancing salsa. The man was an amazing dancer and I dance well too so we hit it off on the dance floor. I was a bit taken back by my guy's kissing with this girl so we danced a bit provocatively (shame) people were watching us dance but nothing else happened - it was just one of those "Dirty Dancing" movie moments. I usually don't dance with the same guy more than once or twice as to not lead anyone on, except for my Sag! He can dance with me whenever he wants to! So me dancing with this other guy most of the eve. was not my usual behaviour, but my pride was a bit hurt so I decided to show my Sag what he was missing!! I hope I didn't kill any possibilities with him with my reaction. BTW he knows I saw them kissing - I made eye contact with him right at that moment, then turned around and went about my business (having fun).

What would help me get my Sag to fall for me? Reach out to him and explain why I danced like that with the guy? Should I just let him be until I see him next weekend? I know he likes me better than that girl he was kissing! HEHE!!

Thanks in advance for your advice!!
Cheers!!

posted November 11, 2012 11:13 PM            

Generally Sag men are more honest and straight forward about their feelings.. but I've met the occasional emotionally-afflicted 'player' type.

posted November 12, 2012 12:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
& Definitely do NOT explain yourself.
He is not your husband for crying out loud. Why in the world would you have to explain that to him?
You're free to dance with whomever you like!

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Thanks Odette! Yes... I definitelly did NOT explain myself (what in the world was I thinking when I wrote that!? :/ )
What I was really considering was reaching out to him to find out more about 1: why was he so open with me about liking me, walking me to the car, holding my hand in public if he already has a gf? But I am not the jealusy drama type so I wouldn't want it to come across as that. But I do feel disrespected!! I feel like just walking away (like I've done so far) simply gives this man the option to think that it did not bother me, and it did! And 2: I'd want to give him a chance to explain himself, if he IS the straight forward kind of Sag... and perhaps if his explanation makes sense we could be friends again and take it from there. But I could tell that he definitely felt uncomfortable around me that night, like he couldn't hold eye contact with me without feeling shame (or something like that).

posted November 12, 2012 04:08 PM            

I would just steer clear, although I know it's gonna be hard. It always burns me up to see someone feeling spurned and hurt enough to want to make it up to the other person by explaining or offering some token of affection when person B is actually a major douche and should be left in the dark or dumped on his ass. And that's my Saggie rising talking quite viscerally there.

posted November 13, 2012 12:14 PM            

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Originally posted by lalalinda:
Hello ComplexGem! Welcome to LL

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HelloLalaLinda! Thank you for the wlcome! I'm glad to be here.

posted November 13, 2012 12:17 PM            

Thank you for the insight. I find this forum an excellent way to share, grow and get objective advice from different viewpoints/signs/personalities.

Thank you all!
Cheers!