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meyray
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posted November 19, 2012 04:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for meyray     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have an issue and I was wondering if someone could help and possibly find an astrological explanation for it.

The thing is that when I show romantic interest in someone I’m very enthusiastic at first. I love the flirting and chasing part but when the deal is sealed I suddenly lose interest. This has happened in both my relationships so far and because the two people I’ve been with have different charts I think the problem is in me not the synastry.

When I say I lose interest I don’t mean I move on. I stay in the newly formed relationship but the sexual attraction is gone or becomes uncomfortable and the thrill turns to anxiety. I start to distance myself from the other person and the desire I had to be near them before turns in the opposite direction. I’m not saying I don’t love them, I do but somehow I feel threatened.

I’m quite the nervous person. I have an anxiety disorder so I might be worried that I’ll have a panic attack when I’m with them.

Does anyone have any ideas as to why this might be happening? I’m especially interested to find out why the sexual attraction vanishes. What should I look for in synasty? I’ll post my placements.

Sun 11°01' Scorpio (6th House)
Moon 12°35' Scorpio (6th House)
Mercury 22°34' Libra (6th House)
Venus 9°52' Я Scorpio (6th House)
Mars 15°41' Leo (4th House)
Jupiter 22°07' Scorpio (6th House)
Saturn 5°42' Я Pisces (11th House)
Uranus 22°50' Capricorn (9th House)
Neptune 20°51' Capricorn (9th House)
Pluto 27°18' Scorpio (6th House)

House 1 (2°07') Gemini
House 2 (25°48') Gemini
House 3 (15°54') Cancer
House 4 (7°21') Leo
House 5 (4°53') Virgo
House 6 (14°25') Libra
House 7 (2°07') Sagittarius
House 8 (25°48') Sagittarius
House 9 (15°54') Capricorn
House 10 (7°21') Aquarius
House 11 (4°53') Pisces
House 12 (14°25') Aries


Sun Conjunction Venus (Orb 1°08')
Sun Conjunction Moon (Orb 1°34')
Uranus Conjunction Neptune (Orb 1°58')
Moon Conjunction Venus (Orb 2°42')
Jupiter Conjunction Pluto (Orb 5°11')
Moon Conjunction Jupiter (Orb 9°31')

Pluto Opposite AS (Orb 4°48')
Mars Opposite MC (Orb 8°20')
Jupiter Opposite AS (Orb 9°59')

Mercury Square Uranus (Orb 0°16')
Mercury Square Neptune (Orb 1°42')
Venus Square MC (Orb 2°31')
Moon Square Mars (Orb 3°05')
Saturn Square AS (Orb 3°35')
Sun Square MC (Orb 3°39')
Sun Square Mars (Orb 4°40')
Moon Square MC (Orb 5°14')
Venus Square Mars (Orb 5°48')
Mars Square Jupiter (Orb 6°25')

Venus Trine Saturn (Orb 4°09')
Sun Trine Saturn (Orb 5°18')
Moon Trine Saturn (Orb 6°52')

Jupiter Sextile Uranus (Orb 0°43')
Jupiter Sextile Neptune (Orb 1°15')
Uranus Sextile Pluto (Orb 4°27')

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anonymidarkness
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posted November 19, 2012 04:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for anonymidarkness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
5 planets in scorpio..woohoo!!that gemini ascendant should help you to cheer up a bit!!That anxiety disorder,panic attack and flirty and enthusiastic nature sounds like gemini asc. to me,what do you desire in your relationships?passion,depth,loyalty?I think your mars in leo makes you love chasing them and lose interest after getting them.You have also got mars square venus,I am not quite sure if it is responsible.I think you should post your planetary aspects as well.When were you born?1994?I am a noob in interpreting charts,I hope others help you as well.

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meyray
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posted November 19, 2012 04:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for meyray     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
5 planets in scorpio..woohoo!!that gemini ascendant should help you to cheer up a bit!!That anxiety disorder,panic attack and flirty and enthusiastic nature sounds like gemini asc. to me,what do you desire in your relationships?passion,depth,loyalty?I think your mars in leo makes you love chasing them and lose interest after getting them.You have also got mars square venus,I am not quite sure if it is responsible.I think you should post your planetary aspects as well.When were you born?1994?I am a noob in interpreting charts,I hope others help you as well.

Thank you so much for your reply!

As for my relationships, I can’t stand anything frivolous. The first thing I want the most is emotional understanding and harmony. The second thing I’ve noticed I desire (and seem to lack) is attraction to my partner. I always feel like they’re more infatuated with me than I am with them and that makes me feel uncomfortable and sometimes even guilty. Other than that loyalty is a must. And yes, Mars definitely has something to do with it – it squares not only Venus but the Moon and Sun as well.
Posting the aspects is a good idea. I forgot about them but I’ll post them as soon as I can. Thanks again!


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starmoon
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posted November 19, 2012 02:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for starmoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i had this problem almost my entire life ... and i'm female :-) i would chase men until i 'caught' them and then become completely disinterested after the chase was over and we were dating. it was like i lost complete interest and i too blamed myself (and later my mars). and then.. funny thing... i met someone who challenged me back and even when caught, he remained interesting enough for me to keep him. so, it could be your Leo mars liking the chase, or it could be that you just haven't met someone who can challenge you beyond the initial phase :-) from looking at your chart info. i'd say a woman with a scorpio or leo placement would be a great fit for you

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Libreo
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posted November 19, 2012 02:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Libreo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have this same problem, and I too have lots of Scorpio.

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Belage
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posted November 19, 2012 02:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Belage     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I notice you have no planets in the relationship houses: 5th, 7th and 8th houses. Therefore it might be difficult to develop and sustain a real romantic or sexual relationship or partnership.

Your venus is loosely square your mars, which indicates dissonance and conflict between the love energy and the sexual drive.

Your Venus is trine Saturn though, so chances are you will eventually settle down in some kind of relationship that is solid and steady. Look for people that have personal planets making lovely angles to your Venus and Saturn. You might meet a suitable partner at work, or among your group of friends.

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ail221
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posted November 19, 2012 03:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am a bit like this as well I lack planets within my 5th and 7th house. If I remember correctly from Lotis White's threads on house rulership synastry part of the reason could be those people that you were attracted to didn't activate your 5th, 7th or 8th house rulers. Because those rulers weren't activated you became detached from them. My rationalizing of the house ruler synastry aspect for Myself for Ex. Leo is the ruler of my 5th house but I have no planets in my 5th house so even if I am initially attracted to someone with a say moon or sun in leo if they don't have any contacts to my 8th house ruler Sagittarius and the planets within it, its likely it won't last.

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lalalinda
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posted November 19, 2012 03:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lalalinda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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