posted November 29, 2012 03:27 PM
I have Venus sextile Saturn in natal, husband has the trine. We have a near exact conj in synastry and trine in composite. I am Venus, he is Saturn. He also has Mars and Pluto on my Venus, my Saturn sextiles these planets of his. The sign placement being Scorpio adds to the intensity.I feel that yes sometimes his reserved manner rains on my parade. I'm a fire Sun and love to be lighthearted and fun, he is a water Sun and is happiest at home. I'm chatty and spirited, he is silent and practical.
He has a fire Moon joined to my Sun, but mostly expresses it by having a quirky sense of humor. Not very outgoing or adventurous at all. He is a really good friend/companion, but is old beyond his years...always was and probably always will. His Saturn being in the first probably adds to it...Even as a child, fun was not really a big part of life.
In spite of the above, we get along pretty well most of the time. My Pisces Moon appreciates having him as a solid rock to lean on. I can get too emotional and absent minded, so having a logical/consistent partner is a big plus.
I help ease him out of that hard shell of his, and peek out into the world to smell the roses. My sense of exploration and discovery are what he says attracts him most.
Above it all, feels like we just belong together. Like no matter what, we will always be friends. We've been through some crazy trials together, and it seems Saturn is one very hard glue to break. So many times, we could have broken up and didn't. Even now, it'd take something very dramatic to break us up...and even in that case still think we'd be friends.
Now on to the harsher things...sometimes he finds my spirited who gives attitude to be irresponsible or childish. Sometimes I find his sternness to be boring and stifling...After all, life isn't life for a Sagittarius if one inst a child at heart. The stifling sense of restriction by Saturn is very, very hard on Venus.
Sometimes I don't feel can be my usual lively self when he is around. Like it feels an air of disapproval over my antics is there. He doesn't say this outright, but I feel it. Example, I love playing music and dancing/singing during household chores. He will make these frowning expressions and walk around in annoyance.
Or I'll take him to a loud family party with music and dancing and he wants to leave soon afterwards, just when I'm getting my groove on. I think the annoyance works the other way too...like Saturn is boring to Venus, but Venus is a flake to Saturn.
Sometimes he wants to discuss our bills right after work, and I'll get annoyed which hurts his feelings. I know finances are important, just don't want to discuss them right then and there...which can seem childish to Saturn.