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Odette
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posted December 06, 2012 02:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do you think it is possible to literally "generate" attraction with another person - by playing games, putting on an act etc. --- even if you have horrible and non-attractive synastry?

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Lonake
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posted December 06, 2012 02:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lonake     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You could manipulate them, yeah. You'd have to be pretty savvy tho, quick thinking, etc.

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JLyn ~
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posted December 06, 2012 02:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for JLyn ~     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Huh yah head games.
It's all confindence. But it's the silver tongue that's the skill. And I'm not ganna continue with it cause karma comes back on you so just expect the fact he/she doesn't want you.

Sorry,
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Kerosene
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posted December 06, 2012 02:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So you're going to "Put up an act" the whole relationship. Don't do that.
You should be yourself. I'm always direct, and tell the person I'm interest before we hit the friend zone. What do you have to lose? You'll be surprised, he might be interested and give it a try.

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Odette
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posted December 06, 2012 02:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Lonake - That's interesting because the only times in my life when the guys tried really hard to get me and also played games and did several stupid things - we also had close & harsh Venus/Mars aspects...

I was just wondering if those aspects were not there - would this kind of situation even come about in the first place?

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Odette
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posted December 06, 2012 02:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
LOL no no Kerosene.
I am not asking for any reason like that.

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posted December 06, 2012 02:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lonake     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't think you always have to put up an act. Sometimes it's just figuring out what they want/need and giving it to them, being able to zero in on that part of them, bam, then you have attraction where it might not normally exist. You gotta hit em in the right spot tho, and in just the right way. Plus it helps if it's not something that's obvious to the avg onlooker.

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posted December 06, 2012 02:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RedScorp     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think it's kinda easy to make someone attracted to you...you just gotta be attractive! Be open, care about them, let them "in". If someone wants to be loved, then make them feel loved. If someone wants excitement and fun, then provide that, be there!

...as manipulative as it sounds.

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posted December 06, 2012 02:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lonake     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Odette, if those aspects weren't there it's still possible for their natal to be attuned in some way to that behavior and for it to be activated due to their attraction to you. Because my guess is they don't act that way to people they're not attracted to (or maybe I'm wrong).

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Kerosene
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posted December 06, 2012 02:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Also to be honest guys aren't as complicated as women, its actually really funny. Just dress cute and smell good hahaha

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SaturnineMoth
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posted December 06, 2012 03:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SaturnineMoth     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Synastry is still a new tool for me in my astro-exploration... but, as I see it right now, the only way to compensate for harsh differences or absent positive aspects in a chart is by sticking with whatever little bit of good or similarities you have.

Morally, and spiritually I'd want to hold dear to my sense of integrity, whether that comes from being strongly Sagittarian or Earth-influenced, I'm not sure... but, I can't astrologically expect to hide my flaws any better than I can or would in any other medium. I wouldn't want to, I'd want to be accepting of another's flaws, respect their preferences, and learn from them whatever I could. Synastry-wise or otherwise then I could be me... no hidden agendas no false advertising, fronts... just keeping to what we have to work from. That's coming more from years of bad synastry relationships, of course. haha The ones that lasted even moderately long were about learning acceptance, and simply learning and accepting... can't change our stars, and can't expect others to change, but - we can always find something to work with, and share our values in that sphere...

If I was looking at a bad aspect then, like squared ven-mars or opp to my sensitive moon placement... I'd want to make up for it by embracing something else in the synastry that was pleasant... maybe an angular/node contact, or even having a few asteroids in pleasant aspect to the negative mars-venus or what have you... there's always going to be something to work on... but, forceful as I am, cardinal - fired up Saggy venus, I think I'd rather not try to compensate in a way that devalues even slightly - what good chemistry we'd have in other areas. I realize too that sometimes that means the relationship will bomb, though... and that there are some differences that will make it near impossible to maintain a healthy union... but, it would be better to focus on those good things, than ignore or condemn each other for the bad.

(it's late here, I hope this makes some sense... hah)
sounds very Cappy of me at this point... rofl -- leaving it how it is in my mind right now~

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posted December 06, 2012 03:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SaturnineMoth     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@ Kerosene - if I wasn't already married I'd ask you to marry me~ >.> and I don't even know you that well! <3 *looks cute smells good* haha

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posted December 06, 2012 04:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sand     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
Do you think it is possible to literally "generate" attraction with another person - by playing games, putting on an act etc. --- even if you have horrible and non-attractive synastry?

yes. i think natals are stronger.

not games. not an act but something u already have. i think it's about passion and desire. it's the intensity that sweeps away others.. not the games or the times he doesn't call but because when he does it is focused like ur the only one in the world right now.

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Doux Rêve
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posted December 06, 2012 06:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Not sure about what you mean by "horrible synastry", but anything is possible, imo. Especially when progressions point to attraction. Sometimes there aren't many aspects in synastry but the people are attracted to each other.. prob due to progressions, again, or their natals somehow reflect what the other finds attractive.

But playing games or putting up an act - I don't think that will do without at least some strong contacts between the charts or a resonance in the natals.

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Doux Rêve
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posted December 06, 2012 06:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Gem-Gurl
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posted December 07, 2012 07:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gem-Gurl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I dont have anything interesting to say topic-wise. Lol just miss ya Odette hope life is being fabulous

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