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Fatale
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posted December 26, 2012 02:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Fatale     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Me and my ex of 3 years on/off had an INTENSE relationship. The feelings ran as deep as Hades. We both have Venus in the 8th house and my ascendant is his descendant in Virgo. He actually downed a bottle of pills and tried slitting his wrists when I tried breaking up with him for the 1st time... (I think it was a manipulative tactic & that he wasn't REALLY for reals). And it's crazy because he's not even the "crazy" type. He's very optimistic & grew up in a really good home... doesn't have much "baggage" nor any outlandish personality defects. Later on when he broke my heart the 1st time, the pain was so intense, I had thoughts of suicide running through my head. The 2nd time he broke my heart & we were split up for about 10 months, I resorted to drugs (everyday) because I couldn't deal with a reality that was unbearable... otherwise I felt like I wanted to die. When I eventually moved on, he came running back to me but it was too late... but I still had immense love for him... but the romantic feelings are completely gone. 1 year later, which is today, I get text from him telling me that although he's accomplished so much & fulfilled his life dreams while we were split up, the heartbreak of us not being together hurts so much that he's starting to feel like death is the only option. SOrry if all of this sounds SO CRAZY and TMI but I'm desperate for answers. I'm wondering if I should just settle with him? Becuz I know that "romantic" feelings in most marriages eventually fade away & it's the friendship that stands the test of time. He's actually a really great guy, has his **** together, educated, good income, comes from a great family, very artistic, talented, creative, great sense of humor, kindhearted etc... I'm the one with issues, I don't even know why he wants me. But the romantic feelings are completely gone, no matter how hard I try to force them.. I feel as though I love him like I'd love a brother. I want to fall back in love with him bcuz I feel like a damn fool for letting such a good guy go. Even my family was disappointed when we broke up & they NEVER liked ANY guy I was with! Ughh i feel so fcked in the head :/

My chart: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang= e&gif=astro_w2at_02_esther_lee_hp.28224.22812.gif&res=63&va=&cid=c44fileB3MHFJ-u1356051404

His chart: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gi f=astro_w2at_01_albert_hp.28068.15601.gif&res=63&va=&cid=c44fileB3MHFJ-u1356051404

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Doux Rêve
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posted December 26, 2012 04:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sounds like a heavy-afflicted-Pluto/8th house thing.

But anyway, astrology apart, why would you want to "settle" with a guy who makes you suicidal and whom you make suicidal? I mean, I don't see how something like that could become a stable, healthy relationship. What if one of you cheats? or betrays the other in any other way? You guys are gonna go crazy and kill each other or kill yourselves.. It really sounds like a very toxic relationship and I would recommend you cut all ties with that person and move on to find a better life.

Actually the answer is pretty simple: are you happy with that person? Would you like to live your life with them? now.. think about it carefully.

And because someone wants to die when you break up with them doesn't mean they love you.. it means they have serious attachment issues and they're scared of separation to the point of self-destruction. It has little to do with *you*, but with *them* and *their* abandonment issues.

Please love yourself enough to be able to make the right decision *for yourself*.

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lalalinda
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posted December 26, 2012 04:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lalalinda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello Fatale! Welcome to LL

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