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Topic: Cancer women. Do you suddenly loose interest in new relationships?
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pancakes22
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Registered: Dec 2011
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posted December 28, 2012 11:45 AM
  
I was in the courtship phase with one girl. We started chatting online, we were both very interested. I really liked her characteristics as a person. We finally meet, and wow she is way prettier than her pics. Date went awesome, alota fun,etc. I text next morning, I get a big delay in response, but says she wants to meet again. She had done this a few times as well. Wouldn't respond if I asked a question through text, but she would initiate text the next day. A few days after the date her interest seemed to decline and boom. I haven't got any responses from my last text and call. What a bummer. Just wondering what would cause a Cancer's interest level to decline rapdily in courtship phase?IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Knowflake Posts: 133
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted December 28, 2012 01:07 PM
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Originally posted by pancakes22:
I was in the courtship phase with one girl. We started chatting online, we were both very interested. I really liked her characteristics as a person. We finally meet, and wow she is way prettier than her pics. Date went awesome, alota fun,etc. I text next morning, I get a big delay in response, but says she wants to meet again. She had done this a few times as well. Wouldn't respond if I asked a question through text, but she would initiate text the next day. A few days after the date her interest seemed to decline and boom. I haven't got any responses from my last text and call. What a bummer. Just wondering what would cause a Cancer's interest level to decline rapdily in courtship phase?
Let her call you, if she doesn't,move on. You've shown her that you are interested, that's good enough for me. But Don't Chase. Some girls are turned off when guys chased them. Am one of them.Hope it turns out okay for you  IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 164
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 28, 2012 02:26 PM
Omg!! Do I ever! Unless you have a brain that I find extremely fascinating..I also like to chase men....it's a control thing.
If I don't chase you in some shape or form, you can take it to the bank that I am not interested.
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happyaskings
Newflake Posts: 8
From: Dallas, TX, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 28, 2012 02:58 PM
Sounds like its all part of the game to me. Try to relax and enjoy it, do what feels natural. Things will work out.IP: Logged |
StacyLewis
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Registered: Oct 2012
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posted December 28, 2012 03:33 PM
I'm gonna be honest, her actions don't make sense to me either. Unless you're contacting her a billion times every day or something.But if you're not...if she likes you and you like her and you went out together and she claims she wants to go out again, what she's doing is very wtf-ish, and reads more like her just wanting you to pine for her to inflate her own ego, trying to get you hoop-jumping like a circus animal or something. I'd just make it clear that I was interested and wanted to see her again if I were you, and then, stop contacting her altogether after that. If she's for real and not full of cr@p, she'll make the effort herself and keep making an equal effort. It takes two people, and if she's trying to make you do all or even most of the reaching out instead of just half, something is wrong. IP: Logged |
pancakes22
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Registered: Dec 2011
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posted December 28, 2012 05:16 PM
Thanks for the responses guys. She was actually the chaser in the begining, than it turned into me doing the chasing and initiating. She offerred the first date when she heard I had no plans. No, I dont text her excessively. Her interest later went down, even after mentioning a second date and now I havent got a response from a text or call. I think i'll just write this one off, but man I'm so bummed. Always another around the corner. My best relationship was with a cancer, you guys are awesome. But what good are you if you'rr not there when I want ya  oh well. If it's in God's will it'll be done.IP: Logged |
pancakes22
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posted December 28, 2012 05:17 PM
Thanks for the responses guys. She was actually the chaser in the begining, than it turned into me doing the chasing and initiating. She offerred the first date when she heard I had no plans. No, I dont text her excessively. Her interest later went down, even after mentioning a second date and now I havent got a response from a text or call. I think i'll just write this one off, but man I'm so bummed. Always another around the corner. My best relationship was with a cancer, you guys are awesome. But what good are you if you'rr not there when I want ya oh well. If it's in God's will it'll be done.IP: Logged |
StacyLewis
Knowflake Posts: 297
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Registered: Oct 2012
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posted December 28, 2012 05:21 PM
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Originally posted by pancakes22:
Thanks for the responses guys. She was actually the chaser in the begining, than it turned into me doing the chasing and initiating. She offerred the first date when she heard I had no plans. No, I dont text her excessively. Her interest later went down, even after mentioning a second date and now I havent got a response from a text or call. I think i'll just write this one off, but man I'm so bummed. Always another around the corner. My best relationship was with a cancer, you guys are awesome. But what good are you if you'rr not there when I want ya oh well. If it's in God's will it'll be done.
Some people just like the chase and then once they get someone they get bored and move on to the next target. Or maybe it was just her trying to see if she could get you to want her. Honestly if I were you I'd throw her back. It shouldn't be like pulling teeth to get her to reciprocate and do her part. Go find someone with the sense to recognize what they have in front of them.
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RunAroundScreaming
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posted December 28, 2012 11:02 PM
She probably just didn't like you after you guys went on the date. She didn't see enough chemistry to want to keep things going. We cancers are really picky. A strong (and passionate) connection with someone is very important to us, and if we just don't have it, no sense in wasting both our times, right? ------------------
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ElizabethO
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Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 29, 2012 01:24 AM
You know... she could really like you but be worried about getting to emotionally invested AND seeming "too interested".Personally, I've been scared to respond to text messages because I like the person A LOT but I'm afraid of sounding like a total idiot. IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 29, 2012 01:31 AM
I don't think she particularly interested. Having a connection in person is diff from having it online.IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Knowflake Posts: 133
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted December 29, 2012 01:45 AM
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Originally posted by charlie:
Omg!! Do I ever! Unless you have a brain that I find extremely fascinating..I also like to chase men....it's a control thing.
If I don't chase you in some shape or form, you can take it to the bank that I am not interested.
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RunAroundScreaming
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posted December 29, 2012 06:03 AM
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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
I don't think she particularly interested. Having a connection in person is diff from having it online.
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Choc
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posted December 29, 2012 06:42 AM
She probably felt no sexual chemistry between you two. As a Sun/Moon/Mars in Cancer woman, I've been out to friendly dates with guys (the guys must've been waiting for sth else or at least that's what I felt), had a good time etc but once I figured out there was no sexual attraction to them, I would back off. Personally, I stopped going to dates like this because I don't wanna give the wrong ideas to the wrong people.Edit: perhaps she's got something else going on in her life as well which she hasn't talked you about? Maybe she's confused... IP: Logged |
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