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Topic: I scared off a Pisces, What ever will I do?
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Bull~Moon
Newflake Posts: 6
From: madison, wi, usa
Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 06, 2013 10:03 PM
  
Ladies and gentlemen, children of all ages...!Seriously though, I could use some counsel.
It's exactly what the title said. I scared away a young pisces man, and feel just awful about it Because I Really Like Him! I like him in allll sorts of ways. I like him as my clever classmate, I like him as a clever aside, I like him as a potent, gleeful antidote, I like him as a powerful spiritual conduit... We were in school together and ended up spending quite a lot of time together while he supplemented my learning outside of class. We would pour over course work, let little glimpses of ourselves slip out, laugh a little bit and POOF, before you know it, the thing we were looking forward to most was our next exchange. Me, for the warmth in his greeting embrace, the music in his laughter and the endearing sentiments rising out of the depths of his bottomless, pale green eyes. He looked forward to me because it very well may be that I am the most pleasant, enjoyable person he has ever met. Because I make him smile always, because the least favorite part of his day is right after we've gone our separate ways.
His words. We really liked each other. He has very strong religious convictions which I an admiration of. The purity in his heart...Oh my. I have a wider world view, and I can see that it fascinates him greatly.
I can see now that I also make him feel threatened. So. How did I scare him away?
I have him a present. A sort-of present. A bit of a homemade present that he could take home over winter break and have a laugh with. we'd talked about how much he loved the holidays, and that it was something of a drag not to have any decorations. So, the sort-of present was decorations. Some DIY snowflakes I'd designed, and an Exacto knife to cut them up, also a themed diorama of the shoe-box variety depicting a scene which played off some conversations and jokes we'd had a while back. There was a box of cookies.
While I'm writing this, it really sounds insane. Poor guy. Oh no...
Granted, the snowflakes were AWESOME and the diorama was no joke 'cause I'm a clever and imaginative artist type. I gave him those as a surprise in a bag, and we made a date to get together over break and that was the last time I saw him. After a few days I figured he was doing that 'hide out until the water settles' pisces thing. you know, read, adjust, imagine stories, lay low...
And he was.
And then more vacation.
Our get together was pushed back.
Still more vacation. At the very least, I'd expected a
"Holy heck, this is the strangest present anyone has ever given me, Ms. Marion"
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"you're so weird and funny, Marion" He'd say those things if we were face to face. Guys, Gals.. Is there ANY hope the waves will ever settle enough that he might find his way back? I haven't pressed the issue or contacted him, I'm just...
out to sea. Me?
I'm a taurus/taurus with capricorn rising.
He?
A pisces/gemini with...Who knows what the heck rising.
My venus is in Aries,
His is in...Capricorn
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anonymidarkness
Knowflake Posts: 485
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted January 06, 2013 11:25 PM
He may still be thinking what to tell you about that present with that pisces/gemini combo.I have that combo and I think it would have been quite hard to handle if I did not have other fixed signs in my chart.He will come back,he may have just felt wird.I think you should initiate things.IP: Logged |
Bull~Moon
Newflake Posts: 6
From: madison, wi, usa
Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 06, 2013 11:45 PM
Ooohhhh ~ But I don't WANT to initiate!He said we would meet after the holidays, in early January. I don't want to be that desperate, creeper who can't just let sleeping dogs lie. I'm just gonna wait it out. We had such a lovely solid, kind, anticipatory friendship that It can't have wholly evaporated! IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 257
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted January 07, 2013 01:42 AM
I love pisceans so much but dealing with them is similar to a gold fish you won at the carnival. You have to be careful, if you over feed them or they'll float to the surface upside down :/IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
Knowflake Posts: 434
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted January 07, 2013 04:00 AM
I'd avoid Pisces sun/Gemini moon combination men if I were you. They're flakey, unreliable, very manipulative and shouldn't be trusted (not the loyal stable type).IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
Knowflake Posts: 4664
From: Surfing Kite. Seriously.
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted January 07, 2013 06:01 AM
New bait??IP: Logged |
Bull~Moon
Newflake Posts: 6
From: madison, wi, usa
Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 07, 2013 08:57 AM
This fella be a curious one indeed.He is certainly not flakey. In fact, he is ultra reliable with his commitments to the point of having a very elaborate day planner. Not manipulative, either.
He's a Christ fishy. Prominent in his church, missions, youth groups, band, genuine listener, compassionate helper... He is an up-stream fish! IP: Logged |
Ariehnox
Knowflake Posts: 348
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Registered: Jan 2011
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posted January 07, 2013 10:05 AM
Don't worry, looks like you already know how to handle them by not shaking up the fish bowl, but it seems to me that what you're really worried about is how to handle yourself.  Yes, just give them time! They... forget things. lol Find a clever way to initiate, one that has good purpose so it's easier. Just segue til you make it. haha In the meantime, find something to get busy upon so you have more interesting conversations to go with the next time you meet.  Your situation and mine seemed quite similar, though with a Leo-Pisces combo. IP: Logged |
Londongirl8
Knowflake Posts: 34
From: London
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted January 07, 2013 10:39 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
I'd avoid Pisces sun/Gemini moon combination men if I were you. They're flakey, unreliable, very manipulative and shouldn't be trusted (not the loyal stable type).
I have to agree - I only ever dated 1 pisces man and he was a nightmare! Blowing hot/cold, calling /not calling. I'm now daing an Aqua guy who is wonderful compared to the Pisces guy. You couldn't pay me to date another Pisces man - sorry to generalise but they're just not for me (I'm an Aqua) IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 207
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted January 07, 2013 11:27 AM
I have to concur. Pisces/Gemini.....like 4 people....I have dated one and I'll never do it again. Cap venus is usually quite picky with whom they'd consider long-term. IP: Logged |
Bull~Moon
Newflake Posts: 6
From: madison, wi, usa
Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 07, 2013 12:06 PM
Hmm - I'm so thankful everyone is weighing in.
See, When I sit down and take note of all the TRULY beloved, influential people in my life, they have all been, with only two exceptions, Pisces. Predominantly Pisces men, but, a few women too.I just love 'em  IP: Logged |
paulflo
Knowflake Posts: 42
From: uk
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted January 07, 2013 12:07 PM
have a pint and celebrate IP: Logged |
SoStellarOne
Newflake Posts: 22
From: Charleston,SC, US
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted January 07, 2013 05:22 PM
I'm a Pisces with a Pisces Moon and the only time that I'd get scared off is when someone comes on waaay too strong with a whole lot of pressure. I just don't see any need for that intensity. Just dial it down a few notches and tack it easy, you know? Let the relationship flow and unfold gently. That's my style, but people these days just don't seem to get that. A Taurus Mooner just recently scared me off by coming on too strong. I say just take it easy and be gentle.IP: Logged |
AriesKat
Knowflake Posts: 444
From: Brooklyn, NY USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted January 07, 2013 08:07 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
I'd avoid Pisces sun/Gemini moon combination men if I were you. They're flakey, unreliable, very manipulative and shouldn't be trusted (not the loyal stable type).
Id have to agree, there bad on their own but them together seems like it would be much worse. IP: Logged |
happyaskings
Knowflake Posts: 56
From: Dallas, TX, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted January 07, 2013 08:21 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
I'd avoid Pisces sun/Gemini moon combination men if I were you. They're flakey, unreliable, very manipulative and shouldn't be trusted (not the loyal stable type).
Having his Venus in Aries would add to this IMO. That said, I'd say just wait it out and let him come to you. He really might be busy.
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AriesKat
Knowflake Posts: 444
From: Brooklyn, NY USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted January 07, 2013 08:27 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Bull~Moon:
This fella be a curious one indeed.He is certainly not flakey. In fact, he is ultra reliable with his commitments to the point of having a very elaborate day planner. Not manipulative, either.
He's a Christ fishy. Prominent in his church, missions, youth groups, band, genuine listener, compassionate helper... He is an up-stream fish!
Everyone has a dark side. IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
Knowflake Posts: 434
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted January 08, 2013 01:26 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Bull~Moon:
This fella be a curious one indeed.He is certainly not flakey. In fact, he is ultra reliable with his commitments to the point of having a very elaborate day planner. Not manipulative, either.
He's a Christ fishy. Prominent in his church, missions, youth groups, band, genuine listener, compassionate helper... He is an up-stream fish!
Haha just wait.
It's often the 'religious holy' ones that are the worst. Double standard BS.
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anonymidarkness
Knowflake Posts: 485
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted January 08, 2013 01:37 AM
He has venus in capricorn.If he likes you,you will know,if he does not like you,you will know.IP: Logged |
happyaskings
Knowflake Posts: 56
From: Dallas, TX, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted January 08, 2013 01:40 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Haha just wait.
It's often the 'religious holy' ones that are the worst.Double standard BS.
This is actually true. I had a roommate and her father was a preacher. She was...wild...to say the least. She invited me to an orgy once (I did not accept the invitation for the record, to each their own thats just not my cup of tea). Always managed to clean up on Sunday though. IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 24547
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 08, 2013 04:33 PM
Welcome!------------------
"Fall down 100 times, get up 101...this is success." --ME IP: Logged |
taureau20
Newflake Posts: 17
From:
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted January 09, 2013 03:20 PM
Before he is completely off read some poetry with him..IP: Logged |
Bull~Moon
Newflake Posts: 6
From: madison, wi, usa
Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 09, 2013 09:53 PM
Funny you should say that ~ One of my more pleasant fantasies revolves around me sitting by his feet reading out of a book of poetry
Silly girls...IP: Logged |
LionFish
Knowflake Posts: 298
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted January 11, 2013 05:57 AM
quote:
Originally posted by taureau20:
Before he is completely off read some poetry with him..
This might not be too far off As a Pisces he'd appreciate the closeness and sentiment behind it, and if you find something he's never heard it may interest his Gemini moon...emotion thru information, seems perfect for the sun/moon combo. But since the reason behind your fear is that you think you scared him off, maybe you should start with something less on the love side of writing and more on the inspired/enlightening side. And if he hasn't made contact yet don't be afaid to be the one who initiates! We (pisces) can be...forgetful. not that we forgot the person, but forgot what or when was promised and assume the other person or people involved will remember and come demanding it (whatever it might be) when the time has come and passed. ------------------
Leo ASC, Pis Sun, Tau moon IP: Logged |
LionFish
Knowflake Posts: 298
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted January 11, 2013 06:03 AM
I just wanted to add that I don't think anything you did scared him off. This might be the difference between male and female; but I personally would appreciate such a thoughtful, heartfelt gift. IP: Logged |
StacyLewis
Knowflake Posts: 389
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Registered: Oct 2012
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posted January 11, 2013 08:30 AM
Honestly? Don't say or do anything else where he's concerned. Just hang back, and see if he comes to you. If he doesn't, then just move on. Then again this is hypocritical coming from me - when I like someone I'm like a MACK truck with no breaks going downhill - but to be fair, when I make the choices I do, I'm fully aware of how it'll probably work out...I do it anyway because that's my fundamental nature, and I figure the right guy for me won't be scared off by it anyway. IP: Logged |
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